The Narcissists' Code 474- Setting Boundaries with a narcissist or toxic person can protect you

Setting Boundaries with a narcissist or toxic person can protect you from them. Narcissistic people and toxic people typically hate boundaries and people that set them.

Book mentioned is "Out of the Fog" - Dana Morningstar

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[sinthiathyme]

I wish all narcissists would watch "Monster Inc.", and realize that you get more energy when people like/love you then you do when people hate/are scared of you. 💖

[msgee]

“Your setting the boundaries for yourself…” BINGO!!! Light bulb moment 💡

[kirsikka]

Deal breaker: once you know, you go. And then no contact.

[GreeneChakra]

Hey Lee, I attempted to set Boundaries with a Narcissist, and he crossed them and I had to keep setting them, til I was fed up with the Habitual Line Crossing... No Contact was the result every time, and I believe I blocked this fool like 9 times from hoovering after. His Ego was too big for me, yet his Low Self Esteem aka his "Playing the Victim" Card... Moreover, his attempts Gaslight his way through the Boundaries that I've set grew very tiresome, and its a Neverending Filibuster of a arguement...to get him to act right.. .

Why waste time fighting for respect, when respect should be a virtue..
Thanks Again.. I'm Free Now!

[tamtamz]

I got a new boss that was a narc. I believe he saw that I was a strong independent person and made it his business to try to control me and break me down to be more submissive. My boundary was him lying to my face and gaslighting me. It happened on a Friday. I submitted my resignation on that Monday after being at that job for 14 years before he came a long. Some times I catch myself getting a little upset and feeling like he “pushed” me out. Then I remind myself of the situation I was in and the longer I stayed, the worse it would have gotten. I’m in a much better place now and I’m so happy I cut my losses and didn’t stay a minute longer.

[flaco]

Deal breaker: Cheating/lying, being disrespectful and talking down to me.
I guess what I'm looking for is a unicorn.

[mariagusman]

My narc exes challenged my dealbreakers. I should have saved myself all the years of pain and ended things before they even started.

[cherrybacon]

What finally became my deal breakers despite his cheating, ma inflation and lies was I git so fed up of his tantrums and snapping and snarling at me. I'd had enough of that one little thing, which somehow put all the other aspects secondary. I warned him several times (sticking to that particular boundary) to stop screaming at me or I'd leave. I ended up leaving, sending him a message I was done, blocked him and went no contact. 🍒

[adimeter]

Deal breakers: Willfull ignorance, complaining with no action, cheating, doing bad to others beyond what you will put up with. I'm a co dependent so I'm having a hard time thinking up too many.

[WhitemenaresoSexy]

The way to have your boundaries respected is to just stay away from them, because if you're still around them it'll never be respected.

[anncrosby]

They like confident strong people my ex narrissist did 💯boundaries and NO was not tolerated when I had enough and set them the devalue stage esculated I stood my ground but I lost my self respect and self worth along the way I did not want to give up on him but I had to in the end I had nothing left to give he did not want to make any effort at all it was abuse and neglect for years out now and doing so much better myself respect is back it not easy letting go but if you stay you can never have peace in your life take care 🙏

[adimeter]

Deal breaker--devaluing me. I used to call it 'loud-talking' me.

[laurasluss]

Great video on boundaries! Thank you Lee. I am getting the book. You gave me some good laughs too.

[CDifferent]

I mentioned & discussed boundaries to a Scorpio ♏️ Man & he said what is that? He found out instantly what mine were when I blocked him on everything 😆

[mstaylor]

Thank you #MentalHealness

You keep making humongous marks in my life.

May you have long life and keep using your life as example for people to propel to excellent lives filled with joy.

May you keep your therapist because she is definitely worth her salt🧂

Your family …. Keep striving for peace and harmonious living.

♥️♥️♥️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[tcordery]

hey lee, why did the narcissist cross the road? he thought i was a boundry
lol

[nicollesievers]

He is/was my friend. He was lying, stalking, disrespecting me, wrecking things acting like he was trying hard. His priority is the bar. I told him I have other things to do and he flipped & started stalking, telling on me & name calling. I blocked him.

[JupGem]

Right, Lee!
STANDARDS! What are the Deal Breakers?

[tcordery]

ha ha you make me laugh needed that. thanks

[louiseelizabeth]

Ignore the haters!! You're doing great work!! And the whole alpha thing is total BS. Scientifically disproven.
But it's true. I was strong and independent when I met my nex. He left me broken and penniless.