become cool & interesting using social intelligence hacks

in this video i'll teach you practical social intelligence tips to increase your emotional intelligence in all kinds of social situations from school, parties and dates to job interviews, learn various social cues, leave the best first impression, never run out of things to say in conversations, make people like you more and become the most likable person in the room!

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✧ chapters ✧
1:53 - implement habits
3:33 - conversation skills
4:20 - diversify experiences
5:49 - authenticity
7:24 - work on presence
9:35 - social intelligence

✧ my current setup ✧

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[Hyeinxahyeon]

I just finished the vid, im a very introverted person / diagnosed " autistic " it was so hard for me to be myself in the past also i was so insecure about my look and care about pple opinions, once i loved myself and noticed what im unique at it build sm confident and i wanted to show pple my interests and how unique i am

[vampkittyyyy]

you are criminally underrated and i see the potential in your channel! i really enjoy your content and can see you getting big someday!

[aadyagarg]

+Be yourself it attractive not wannabe
+Find ur hobbies and intersts don't gatekeep it talking serving about it extracts a positive energy
+try new things in all areas so u can talk to anyone about anything
+Be a good listener ask questions use there names in the convo
+Be unique don't be needy or desperate its attractive
Learn how to talk how to keep ur tell ur stories in a interesting way

[redherringoffshoot]

similarly to the last comment, as someone who was also not only diagnosed as having HFA(high-functioning autism), but also accompanying disorders along w/ it, I truly do find this to be quite helpful, even if I already do some of the stuff that you recommend

[mora]

Im watching a girl who’s less than a year older than me on YouTube. She’s enthusiastic and EVERYBODY loves her. She calls everyone everyday and does new stuff everytime she gets a chance. I was wondering how to be like her because she isn’t the type of “rude selfish smoking popular girl” but the one EVERYONE wants to be friends with. She’s never sad (at least in public) and she also has a modelling career. And the more I watch this video, the more I understand how she’s like that. Thank you ❤

[imkeverkennis]

Im diagnosed with autism and social anxiety, when I’m in social situations I tend to become very insecure and I will try to join conversations and try to fit in when I really don’t have a clue what’s going on. Or when I’m comfortable with someone I just keep infodumping which tends to bore people easily.
I love this video because it helps me with how I should act in more professional situations like meeting other artists and creators

[LovisaSvensson-iwwc]

Thank you so much for saying social skills is a skill, regardless if you're autistic or not. It applies to everything else too. I grew up in a worker class context where everyone thought intelligence is just something you are, and if you are intelligent you must be successful. This is called having a **monolithic view of intelligence.** The reality is that you can break things down and learn the individual parts, and over time you will build a repertoire of skills that comes off as intelligence to others. Many intelligent people from my childhood got screwed over by life because they didn't learn the right skills and everyone told them they're going to be successful even if they just coast along for life.

[-_citrus_-]

Everything aside, girl, your voice is SO freaking pretty, like deep, calm and soothing, that's what should be called cool ❤

[MeghanBrooks-]

I'm glad you brought up social cues and then talked about autistic people. I happen to be autistic myself, and I've become a lot better at eye contact, but my social cues can always be better. Good for reminding us about that. That's one of the things I've got to work on as I plan to be more social this year.

[Lizzyyyya]

I’m literally just a people pleaser 😭 I do all this subconsciously

[ayn_]

love your channel sm❤ As someone who thought being introverted was better for me and being selfish overtime it taught me it’s so much better to have people skills

[Hibssssjk]

you make me feel so calm, your voice, the way you look, your smile you're such a sweet talker and someone who seems nice to hang out with

[Inthusiasticx]

Also body language is important because it helps you to show others that you're eager to be talking to people, and it also helps you focus on what you're explaining.

If you keep your arms to yourself as if you're hugging yourself, it might seem like you're trying to avoid other people.
So my advice that i learned from my brother is to go sit near people, just among them, not literally next to some stranger. Just feel the atmosphere and relax. Others will see that you're not avoiding anyone, and when they see your smile, they will feel more comfortable to approach you.

But also, don't wait for anyone to come to you, because that will just make you feel bad. You can do what they also do, for example if they're playing something, join them! Or if they're just chilling on their phones, you can do that, but remember to be among them.

In class you can help others. If somebody forgets a pencil, you can offer one for them. Or even offer some gum if you have.

Showing that you're aware of your surroundings and not too focused and reserved, shows that you're open to everything.

[itsamandilostmypassword]

Just be yourself and the right people will find you

[litehouseaj]

I have been complimented on having emotional intelligence, but despite this skill I still am not the best in social situations just because I haven't practiced things like small talk enough so that's where I really struggle. Understanding others is one step but being able to actually say the right things is another if that makes sense.

[Cocobrry]

I actually used to be extroverted and I js realised that I was doing these things unconsciously but now idk how I lost confidence and became more shy I forgot bout these things.

[Llama]

I must admit that I am quite a perfectionist and I have been my whole life. Hearing this part (6:30) made me kind of relate to it. I tend to mirror my friends', parents' and brothers' speech, mannerisms, and all sorts of things, because I like them and everybody likes them, so I thought that if I adopted those things, people would like me too, but hearing that made me think a bit. I am aware of all these things I do, copying others and trying to be someone I'm not just for people to like me and for me to hopefully like myself, but to be honest I don't know how to be myself. I don't know how to adopt my own speaking patterns, my own mannerisms, my own opinion and decisions without basing it off another person. Did someone have a similar experience, and if so, how did you fix it? I'd appreciate it a lot if I could get some reassurance on this, and I'd love to read your replies <3

[rusulammar]

that was very helpful and fun to watch, i love ur videos they’re so underrated 👏🏻

[ceciliaceciliaa]

just went to a restaurant alone for the first time this past weekend!! thank you for being you. im so happy to have found your channel !!

[xxaavviieerrrrr]

I stumbled on ur channel and just watching videos left and right... to be honest this video is like a reflection of many things i did to transform myself into being comfortable with myself. Not tryna flex or anything, still got challenges here and there, but a lot of the tips you provide in this video really work.

Im an extroverted autisic & adhder with some strange habits that initally make people wonder, but by 1. Acting kindly & complimenting people genuinely and 2. Dressing in colorful clothes that make me feel good, i really saw a difference in how open people were to me in return. Your content is so well out together thanks so much❤❤