Stop Asking Married People This Question

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[mohammedsalimahmed]

People have lost the art of knowing how to shut their mouth.

[mohamed]

I was married 8yrs i remmber family members telling me to divorce my wife and trying to force me to marry a second wife but by allahs grace i have daughter 2yrs old now and another one on the way salatul layl is the key to sucess in the dunaya and sabr

[SG-dwjh]

“Of the good mannerism is to leave what doesn’t concern you.”

-Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)

[bushran]

Subhanallah it is so important to stay out of things that don’t concern you

[shinewhite]

This is my case. I have been married 3 years and ppl keep asking me and my wife this question. We really don’t know the exact reason why it’s not happening. We have gone to different doctors for tests and worked on there plan. I ask all you brothers and sisters to pray for me. Thanks

[hannak]

I was asked this question, I asked myself this question my doctor told me 9 years ago I will never have children. BUT I have found an answer no one can shake. The children will come when ALLAH says its time for the children to come. I am now a blessed mom of a two and a half year old girl alhamdulilah.
No one can choose when they will have children but ALLAH. I get now asked when will you have another child and my answer is when ALLAH chooses and I smile because I know ALLAH is with me always 😊 alhamdulilah

[muslimgirl]

In some cultures people don’t wait 3 years before asking, not even 3 months😂

[ellahaafshar]

Three months had passed since my wedding. My husband's aunt asked why you didn't get pregnant. We should take you to the hospital. My mother-in-law got angry and said that it is still too early and she will get pregnant whenever God wants. I really enjoyed that my mother-in-law defended me.

[Ibrah-ibrah]

🌹1.Don't insult (Q49:11)
🌹2.Speak kindly (Q2:83)
🌹3.Speak gently (Q17:28)
🌹4.Don't backbite (Q49:12)
🌹5.Speak the Truth (Q3:17)
🌹6.Keep your oaths (Q5:89)
🌹7.Do not be arrogant (Q7:13)
🌹8.Restrain your anger (Q3:134)
🌹9.Think good of others (Q24:12)
🌹10.Don't be rude to parents (Q17:23)
🌹11.Don't make fun of others (Q49:11)
🌹12.Turn away from ill speech (Q23:3)
🌹13.Walk in a humble manner (Q25:63)
🌹14.Keep your trusts & promises (Q23:8)
🌹15.Don't claim yourself to be pure (Q53:32)
🌹16.Do not even approach adultery (Q17:32)
🌹17.Don't call others with bad names (Q49:11)
🌹18.Remember Allah and be thankful (Q2:152)
🌹19.Speak nicely, even to the ignorant (Q25:63)
🌹20.Don't ask for repayment for favours (Q76:9)
🌹21.If enemy wants peace, then accept it (Q8:61)
🌹22.Salute the Prophet (saw), do salawats (Q33:56)
🌹23.Call ˹all˺ people to the pilgrimage (hajj) (Q22:27)
🌹24.Give charity /spend (in the way of Allah) (Q2:254)
🌹25.Don’t criticize small donation/charity of others (9:79)
🌹26.Be mindful of Allah and be with the truthful (Q9:119)
🌹27.Do not consume one another’s wealth unjustly (Q2:188)
🌹28.Stand firm for justice  even if it is against yourselves(Q4:135)
🌹29.Don't remind others of the favours you done to them (Q2:264)
🌹30.Return a greeting in a better manner or at least the same (Q4:86)
🌹31.Do not be excessive, extravagant, don't spend wastefully (Q17:26)
🌹32 Life of this world is no more than the delusion of enjoyment (Q3:185)
🌹33.Performing prayers (salat/namaz) is a duty on the believers (Q4:103)
🌹34.Turn away from trash talk like gossip, slandering people etc.(Q28:55)
🌹35.Fasting is prescribed for you—as it was for those before you (Q2:183)
🌹36.Don't Bribe authorities in order to devour a portion of others’ property(Q2:188)
🌹37.Establish prayer (salat/namaz) and donate from what was provided (Q8:3)
🌹38.Establish prayer (salat/namaz) and donate from what was provided (Q14:31)
🌹39.Establish prayer (salat/namaz), pay alms-tax, and bow down with those who bow down (Q2:43)
🌹🕋40.Know that this worldly life is no more than play, amusement, luxury, mutual boasting, and competition in wealth and children.(Q57:20)🕋🌹

✍Explanation:

💚Please note these are not the complete ayats, but I took keywords from each ayat. If you would like to read the full ayat, then check the reference.

💬For example take a look the first statement:

🌹Don't insult (Q49:11), when you google Quran 49:11, then you will see the complete surah’s English translation and you will see following:

☝️🕋O believers! Do not let some ˹men˺ ridicule others, they may be better than them, nor let ˹some˺ women ridicule other women, they may be better than them. Do not defame one another, nor call each other by offensive nicknames. How evil it is to act rebelliously after having faith! And whoever does not repent, it is they who are the ˹true˺ wrongdoers.☝️🕋


🤲🌻ALWAYS REMEMBER🌻🤲:

✍Allah is the most merciful and forgiving, no matter how much you have been sinning, run towards Allah, turn to Allah and repent, ask for forgiveness. Some references from the Quran:

🌺🌺🌺🕋Quran 39:53🕋🌺🌺🌺

Say, ˹O Prophet, that Allah says, ˺ “O My servants who have exceeded the limits against their souls! Do not lose hope in Allah’s mercy, for Allah certainly forgives all sins. He is indeed the All-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

🌺🌺🌺🕋Quran 25:70🕋🌺🌺🌺

As for those who repent, believe, and do good deeds, they are the ones whose evil deeds Allah will change into good deeds. For Allah is All-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

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[somedude]

This Muslim brother is glowing and radiant due to him following the Sunnah of the Prophet salalahu alayhi wasallam Allahuma Barik. May Allah Azawajal brighten his face on the Day of Judgment. Aameen ya Rabb.

[saraaslam]

I was married for 3 years, he was abusive to me as well as his mother, and every year there was no sign of a baby. I divorced him and now alhumdullilah I'm as happy as ever 🤱🤱

[ThatGuyAJ_]

Wallah me and my wife feared we couldn’t have children, I asked Allah every night for a child and after 2 years of trying I have my beautiful daughter khadijah.

[mmaa]

A very common question in Pakistan after only 3 months of marriage
Sick society
Doesn’t understand what is privacy of others

[julv]

Never ask a woman especially questions about her fertility - you truly never know the struggles and pains women face, especially ones with fertility issues and ones who have had a miscarriage or possibly many miscarriages. This is a private question, unless someone wants to speak to you about it, leave them alone

[mindyourbias]

My closest friend was going through very serious health issues that you can tell when people asked her and her husband this questioned it bothered her. Some even ask if she was seeing selfish. It’s very hard in cases like this because the person experiencing the issues effecting their fertility may already be beaten themselves up and the toll it takes on your selfesteem…. I had an ectopic pregnancy this year and lost a tube due to an abrupt rupture that almost cost me my life and the toll it took on my self esteem and as a woman. It’s like my body can’t even do the one thing that it should be able to do. And you feel defeated when it’s something out of your control

[syedaadeel]

18 years still waiting for the mercy of Allah please brothers and sisters duwa for me.

[pannekoek]

Thankyou. I have people touching my belly and telling me I'm pregnant when I'm just fat. Even people who go as far as speaking about the bedroom

[quatchsass]

Thank you for sharing, it makes me so sad having to explain this to people when they ask. Nothing hurts more as a woman than not being able to give life.

[sonido]

So true. We had one child but a dry spell for 6 years. People we scolding us for being selfish not giving our child a sibling. I was not going to tell them the fertility problems we had.

We had a second kid alhamdulillah and then had a series of miscarriages.

We cancelled dinners and events die to these issues. One sister at a wedding called out my wife and said she cancelled on her many times. She said "we thought you were pregnant" my wife said "I am pregnant. I am having a miscarriage right now."

Those who had miscarriages know that you can be carrying that dead baby until all of it is gone. Especially if it is less than 3 months.

[choolaimedudude]

Ur right 👍. People just can't mind their own business.