This true about insecure “men” who date “successful” women?

[clytchan]

Nowadays, love and caring seem to take a backseat to accomplishments and finances. People enter into relationships motivated by image, status, and money. If love and caring are not in the equation, it’s easy to walk away when things get tough. Love will ALWAYS be the glue that keeps a union together. Without it, it’s like trying to drive a car with no gas.

[chimaubabuike]

I’ve heard from countless women that it’s a complete turnoff when a man leads with this is where I live, this is what I drive, this is what I make. So if that approach is a turnoff for women why wouldn't it be a turnoff for men? I don’t care about how much you make, where you live or what you drive… sis when was the last time you talked to god. Let’s start there or what does commitment mean to you. Talking to me about money on a date that I’m paying for is flagrant 😂

[dionmcintosh]

Most men don't care about a woman's money. It's who she is as a person that's usually the problem.

[Califooya]

Aggressive men and aggressive women never seem to attract each other. Funny how that works out.

[jubabutler]

Well if we're being honest, I don't find myself in competition with someone I'm interested in. You having accolades is for you and those who seek to hire you. Try getting some "best communication" or "most caring member of the community" awards and then I'll start factoring in those

[bsbbossy]

Let's be honest here. If, as a woman, she leads with her masculine energy(check the video), then that is the turn off. Most men don't care about what you bring to the table financially.

Most men care more about if you bring peace into their lives or not. To women, your car, job, finance are a distant 2nd to to your softness, femininity, and submission.

[allenstore]

Her energy consistently demonstrates what the turn off is, and it’s not her “success”….now the chocolate sista on this panel, Kitty I believe is her name, is a shining example of divine feminine energy, grace, and understanding. And I’m sure she’s successful also.

[bosslady]

Most women who lead with what she said can’t do the things she listed at the end is the problem. Her aggressive tone is what turn men off not how much you make.

[mactherealestateman]

Kita, how about focusing on personality traits, instead of accomplishments to lead off with? If i told you im a USMC Desert Storm Vet who is also a dot dot dot...does that matter? Accomplishments dont translate to personal relationships. Maybe the one who leads off with the PHD or MBA is the insecure one, acting like a relationship is a job interview.

[Craigthomas]

Her message will never get heard because of her tone. Whenever you speak in a way to offend, shame, or insult while trying to get your message across to someone, everything that you say will fall on deaf ears. I can also tell that she listens just to clap back, not to hear and understand. Part of good communication is listening to the other side. She doesn't appear to do that.

[jopinscott]

The truth is it's about mindset. And unfortunately, many modern Black males and females don't have the correct one. High earning Black females typically don't respect males who earn less, and lower-earning Black males typically are jealous of the higher-earning females. While finances are definitely important and should be part of the relationship equation, it shouldn't be the primary part alone, and it usually is in our community. In my opinion, a man should support his woman in all aspects; and a woman should respect her man in the same manner...(when one is lost, they both are lost), but this is an ongoing and infinite endeavor. It is not an immediate happenstance, and it has the greatest chance of success with like-minded people. It's possessing the correct mindset that allows men and women (not males and females...different things) to define what "support" and "respect" mean to them, and determine whether they are being supported and respected to a satisfactory degree. One absolute truth is that meaning should not be relegated to finance.

[.goodnight]

I think if somebody accomplished what I had accomplished I would be impressed. I would be proud of them. Because I'm impressed with myself and proud of myself because I worked hard. What's wrong with that?

[goreallermykes]

Why is it that this particular conversation always gets this particular lady so animated?😂😂😂😂

[Fishmorph]

Could there be some guys who are genuinely turned off by a woman’s success? Sure, I’ll give you that. Could there be some men who use money to attract women, and they’re disappointed to meet a woman that it doesn’t work on? Sure. Could there be some women whose success brings an attitude of superiority and independence that doesn’t attract a man? Yes, I’ll grant that too.

The problem here is that we’re still talking about *money* as if that has anything to do with *compatibility.* This woman almost gets it — she’s like “what else do you bring to the table?” No, no, no. What you bring to the table is your personality, your sense of humor, your integrity, your politics, your religion, your domestic skills, your vocabulary and speech, your reliability. That’s what’s important. It doesn’t matter who earns the money or how much, if you don’t have that.

[ruthcook]

THE TABLE HAS BEEN BROKEN WITH THIS TRUTH, THAT SHE'S SPITTING 🎯💯🔥🖤

[nanonano.beepbeep]

I don't tell people I just meet what I make or what I've accomplished. All they need to know is that I'm self-sufficient and comfortable. And I don't date down. Been there and done that. It's a complete waste of time. The only person intimidated by success is on who hasn't accomplished anything. If you're a person of means, stay away from broke people. They will never try to get to your level. Their only objective will be to bring you down to their level. Lack and limitations are all they know, and that can't be your problem.

[RShaun]

Her energy is everything that we be talking about. Flip the gender and imagine a guy saying this stuff. We would call him arrogant, condescending, gaslighting, invalidating our feelings. We can be insecure AND y’all can wield power like baby tyrants. Just hear the criticism, self evaluate, ask for real time feedback next time. Try to see it from their eyes, not yours. Adjust and grow…or don’t. You have autonomy!

[jonathancameron]

With that attitude that you Project, we don’t really care about what you have we care about how you treat us, but the problem remains because you have the materialistic things you think that you’re much better and you look down upon us that’s why we don’t want to be bothered with you we’re not intimidated at all

[bluethumbniddy]

Shorty cap where is Kit cus we need this from a broader perspective and not someone childish and immature

[Bossbillionatl]

Its sad but sounds like another Single woman with a modern mindset not chosen.... SMH