Embodiment Coaching - Being Less Nice

How to be less nice and more assertive.

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Mark Walsh is the founder of The Embodiment Conference, The Embodied Facilitator Course (in UK and Russia), Embodied Yoga Principles and The Embodiment Podcast and owner of Integration Training. With an honours degree in psychology, 20+ years of yoga experience and an aikido black belt, he has dedicated his life to embodied learning. He has taught everyone from street kids to the rich and famous, in over 50 countries. His hobbies include offending pirates with his swearing, impressing cats with his stroking, and embarrassing drunks with his dancing.

Writer of the 'Embodiment - Moving beyond mindfulness' book, Mark's extensive training, coaching and facilitation experience includes working with large and small organisations in the UK and over the world with major companies such as: Unilever (London/ Switzerland), L’Oreal (Paris), The UK House of Lords, Virgin Atlantic (Sussex), the NHS, University of Sussex (Brighton), Natural History Museum, Emerging Capital Partners, Liberty Global (Amsterdam), Brighton Council, Shell, with Women in Banking and Finance group (London), Oxfam, Save The Children, Warchild, Glyndebourne Opera House, (Sussex), The Army of Sierra Leone, The Met Police (London), American Express (Brighton), Axa (Paris) and Ikea.

He has experience of peacebuilding and trauma education work in various conflict areas such as Afghanistan, Israel/Palestine, Northern Ireland and the Ukraine. He also has residential training experience in embodiment and somatics with many of the world’s top teachers, especially with Paul Linden.

Mark Founded the first specialist embodiment training company in Europe and is recognised as a world leader in the field of embodiment. Which encourages him to write a Google top 10 ranked management training blog, host the number one training channel on YouTube (10 million + hits) and engage with his multi thousand followers on social media.

“I love embodiment. Since I was a child it’s been my life, passion and work. In that time I’ve also witnessed the global reach of embodiment spread with the internet’s rise. Through YouTube, podcasts, social media and online learning, I’ve seen people from diverse fields start to come together, and those who didn’t have access before, are now being given it freely. Nothing makes me happier than this technology-enabled, somatic revolution, and it’s time to accelerate it.

People’s disconnection from themselves leads to disconnection from each other and also from the planet. Cognitively-privileged alienation is killing us, and the world can no longer afford a disembodied populace. Time to step up."
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[leadershipwithliz]

You're a really good teacher Mark

[SleepFirstAid-FlorianDivi]

Interestingly, when generating subtitles is activated it does leave out “shit” and “fuck” ... very pleasing, Youtube!

[lifecolourcoach]

Thanks for this, really helpful. Re: channelling Mark Walsh, this reminds me of when my dog was running rings around me in training and everyone kept telling me I needed to have a more authoritatitve presence with her, and I didn't have a clue how to do that. So I decided to channel the character Miss Jean Brodie. I got some funny looks walking my dog down the street and issuing commands in a very bad Edinburgh accent, but it worked!

[SamSam-xxdv]

Or,
there's strength in being nice and considerate and giving; and an efficacy in reciprocation and sharing and cooperation. as in Brene Brown's Strength in vulnerability.
Why reduce the clients' fundamental social positive by encouraging a more, 'me' perspective?

Seems logical on the surface. it's all about the protection systems. Few like to be used and abused and taken for granted; or in this case, self sacrifice.
The illusion the solution is about, 'give and take'. 'Fighting for peace' or 'intolerance to intolerance'; examples of the many oxymoronic strategies we often opt for.

As those that study these things, Sapolski proved, "humans are both a tournament and commensurate species, but our true success comes far more from cooperation, negotiation and diplomacy, than battle."
Hopefully everyone now knows, fight, flight, freeze strategies release cortisol stress hormones which lowers the immunes protection system.
And we certainly need less selfishness and narcissism in the world. COVID hopefully has taught many, how interconnected everyone is AND more respectful of their space.
"All individuality is an illusion" as Einstein was quoted as saying.
Should that really be seen as a default position? (As the instructors stuttering triggered when the client mentioned the contradiction. Quickly glossed over).

As with all well-meaning or pop-psych advice, it often solves one problem by creating another. It's an over simplification of a vastly complex condition; the human condition balanced with social conditions.
is there a healthy balance?
No!
The immune systems, protection system, metabolism, endocrines etc, are not about balance. balance by definition means you go no where, you've arrived at the middle and that is where you should want to be. Biological systems work as an exchange and flow of information; the 'balance' is a by-product of the average of exchange and so not a destination. But more importantly, they are management systems, set up to stop any one thing getting all it wants.

The real hard work, is done creating a win-win, where you keep your strengths and natural personality by shoring it up with intelligent and wise decisions, rather than polarised, binary, give-take, 'me or othering' decisions.
Deep solution thinking, rather than walking through people to get what you want. Anyone that owns a cat knows the infamous saying, "You don't own a cat, a cat owns you."
As you can see with the video, the reluctance to walk through the continued every time, despite much encouragement and coercion.
"Be yourself because everyone is taken." Oscar Wilde
"Always be yourself, but just enough to fit in." Richard Feynman

All the clients' problem is; his trap is his high social intelligence, not lack of it. He seems highly socially intelligent, he has just forgotten to include himself in his model. Many studies showing as a society, how poor we are at looking after our givers. Paying teachers and nurses low wages.

And the instructors' advice; mainly is the virtue of selfishness. A counter reaction to selfishness. A counter, a combat, a "needs" tournament, not a resolution that presumably fits the clients' innate giver mentality. An encouragement to be what he is not, a taker.