SOBER

Just me, late at night, overthinking things again... and talking to myself.

Still wondering how to determine the line between obsession and passion, between when moderation is a good idea and when abstinence (or sobriety) is the better option. I guess I tend toward both obsession and sobriety.

Also - I realized while editing this (which was a lot of fun!) that I said "I never thought you'd ask" instead of "I thought you'd never ask" but it's too late to fix it. Oops. 😬

DAY 24 of daily videos! :)

[polychromy]

“Everything in moderation, including moderation” is a quote I really like. :)

[DVINIX]

I totally agree! -restriction very often leads to binging.
This reminds me of a video I saw where someone said “don’t think of an elephant.” It’s hard to focus on NOT thinking of the elephant, because then it’s all you think about. The mind doesn’t do well with negative commands. So, rather, instead of restricting, it can be helpful to change your perspective on the situation and replace the habits you want to cut down on with other activities you enjoy. Say, for someone who is wanting to cut down on drinking, perhaps creating a routine on the weekend that’s fun and enjoyable to replace the void would be helpful. Or for cutting down on social media -if someone has a hard time limiting their screen time, instead of focusing on “not scrolling”, plan in activities you enjoy that redirect your focus. That could be snowboarding, visiting a friend during the day, reading, learning how to cook, creating a wind-down routine that you really enjoy at night that you wouldn’t want to miss, etc.
It would feel like less of a loss and more of a gain (or at least a fair exchange). If it doesn’t, evaluate and try something new!
I myself have a hard time with limiting screen time, and I think quitting it altogether would drive me insane. Haha. Sometimes you’ve gotta be okay with chipping away at it and noticing the progress, no matter how small. Pennies, too, add up over time.

By adding things to your life that you enjoy you kind of shift from a scarcity mindset (in regard to the thing you’re quitting/cutting down on) and into more of an abundance mindset (noticing the positive new things that you’re adding to your life). This way of thinking has helped me so much in my life.

Anyway, enough of my rambling haha. Love the video Lefie!

[lissamatthews]

I quit Instagram in July last year. I intended it to only be for a month. It's been 7 months. I don't do Twitter or Facebook or Tiktok. It's not for everyone, the quitting. It was a brilliant thing for me. My creative life is so much richer. Comparison is no longer a daily, hourly, painful companion. And in general, my life is better for it, healthier, happier. I was obsessed with social media, with what others were doing, achieving, creating, etc... And wishing I was doing, going, creating, achieving. Now, I simply do, go, create, achieve for me.

[adibzadeh]

This one was really creative... nice :D
oh and btw, I just wanted to say congratulations on DAY 24! It's becoming one month, can you believe it? 😃

[KayaRaleigh]

So creative! I loved watching this. The recent video in your handwriting was just as good.

[jitkamikulastik]

I love Lefie on the left. Face expressions are 👌

[debrawhite]

This is so great. I’m enjoying your new ways of communicating. It’s so creative! 👏

[JonJosephKuhn]

My fiancé said to me in regards to my recent sobriety, “I believe in moderation for everything.” I said even cheating?

…. “Ok fine. Good point.”

[Chilipinoy]

Oh my gosh this is me and my inner-critic every flipping day! 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

[gracebanyan]

The root of the word passion means “to suffer” so I think you’re both right 🤷🏻‍♀️

Also, this new format? I thought I’d hate it? I it!

[quinnm.]

love yourself! <3 it's always the answer.

[SimieIriarte]

You’re really inspiring me to do a video a day! Loving these short and sweet ones.

[dalmasinka]

1:28 The 'oh, no?' kills me every time 😂

[jed]

Brilliant. very clever and so true. great video.

[aminosellaamourii]

I like this new style of vids, Keep it up homey!!

[amydeloria]

I'm so glad you are sharing your genius! You have so many insights about what is rattling around in my head.

[TheSabadine]

This was fun. You seem like you're having fun.

[butterflynerd]

"I think we should stop overthinking things too much."
"I really don't think that's gonna happen."
Hahaha I so relate!!

[larissassm]

HAHAHAH this one was awesome, i love tired lefie she's A MOOD

[silviaespana]

Hi Lefie ☺!
I'm really enjoying all your videos!

I would like to share... when I started going to a nutritionist it helped a lot in my body and mind 🙌🏻! Then I added exercise and it was even bigger 🏋🏻‍♀️ my body stopped craving alcohol and now it's been more than 3 years without it 😎!

This helped me be more present however, I'm struggling with personal relationships... when I started changing my habits a lot of "friends" disappeared from my life and not going to lie it can be a lonely road but worth it 🤓!

Anyway please have a great Saturday Lefie ☺🤗!