3 ways companies can support grieving employees | Tilak Mandadi

When we experience loss, grief travels with us everywhere -- even work. What can companies do to support grieving employees? Sharing his own story of unimaginable heartbreak, Tilak Mandadi offers three ways organizations can cultivate a culture of workplace empathy, creating an environment that encourages community, productivity and joy. (This talk contains mature content)

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[shadoweaglebear]

Wow, that is tough! I have lost both parents, both grandmothers and uncle over the last 4 years. I could never understand his grief but I share it.

[JelloTypeR]

Grief never leaves. It does heal over time but leaves a scar that never fades. I think of those who I’ve lost every day even years later. That I’ll never see them again is the hardest thing.

[Therealmcdoc]

I feel you.
I am in middle management and lost my wife at the age of 42. For 1, 5 years, my three daughters (13, 11, 3 at the time) and I watched her die, due to cancer.
It wasn't easy to work full-time and keep the family sane.
But, in the end, we grow with our challanges.

[chezflora]

Grief is like the roommate you never wanted and, unfortunately, you must live with for the rest of your life.

[CalicoCooperFan]

Loss comes in many shapes. Each of us handles loss differently. Totally agree with his ideas. I would also add that companies should give some "protection" to employees dealing with loss in terms of performance reviews. Despite the tremendous loss he was dealt with. It sounds like he recovered well. I know multiple people that went through divorces and their performance dropped due to all that they were dealing with. They were let going during downsizing. I'm confident, given time and therapy, they could be top performers again.

[OzMoVideo]

Dear Tilak, I don't know if you'll ever read this, but thank you for sharing your experience and your brave words.

[shwetachauhan]

Overcoming grief is not easy. Grief consumes a part of yourself and you are not the same person anymore.

[laurieoconnor]

Thank you so much for sharing your story & I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish the best for you & your family. I intend too share your story with management & family to instill the empethitic values you speak about, to ensure all have the skills to to ensure we are in a position to assist each other during our time of need! Thank you

[cameronmoore]

i'm very sorry for your loss Dr Mandadi.

[jeff]

Thanks for sharing. Stay safe everyone

[pyschologygeek]

If you can't think of something to say, just offer eye contact, a squeeze of the hand, or a reassuring hug. Offer your support. Ask what you can do for the grieving person. Offer to help with a specific task, such as helping with funeral arrangements, or just be there to hang out with or as a shoulder to cry on.

[CC-pidj]

empathy training can help avoid awkwardness in the workplace <3

[kathyellis]

Well said so sorry for your huge loss.

[dharmaviharigandhi]

Life is a bundle of troubles and pain, with some sparks of happiness in between. There is no other alternative except to live, carrying all the pain in the heart.

[meganspence]

This is amazing thank you so very much!

[offshorexxl]

My close uncle my only friend here in SE division Portland Oregon was shot & killed for no reason this sunday morning 1/17/21 & I'm in desperate need of help. & this makes me feel like I'm not alone. I'm going through everything you went through

[gixellia]

Just BE present. Forget your role, your position, leave that outside the door. BE a soul listening to another soul.

[munnasfamily]

Very much useful video. Thanks for sharing

[petthepizza]

If this isnt a scathing indictment of capitalism I don't know what is. Imagine he wasn't some executive who is most likely not alienated from his work but a waiter or some other service employee.

[bigneiltoo]

Getting support for grievances at work is just as easy as taking a comp day. Just make sure you still meet your deadlines which assume you work 60 hours a week, always.