7 Habits Of Highly Ineffective Narcissists

To reach its full potential, any relationship requires work, but that is not what appeals to narcissists. They want the benefits of relationships without the effort. To that effect, Dr. Les Carter explains seven of the most common patterns that illustrate how narcissists contribute to the ineffectiveness of their personal connections.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. For 40+ years he maintained a counseling practice in Dallas, conducting more than 65,000 therapy sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Since creating his YouTube channel, his videos have received more than 120 million views.

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[randomcertainty]

The need for a constant Battle or conflict with something or someone is stressful and exhausting!
That IS their fuel for life.

[yukio_saito]

A toxic boss makes a workplace unproductive due to bad communication, unnecessary tasks by micromanagement, demotivating employees, etc.

[BaraSchmidt]

"Ineffective" is baked in to a Narcissistic Personality. Whatever gains they seem to make, outwardly, are based on fake, faux, facade, pseudo-selves and ideals. Ultimately leaving behind a trail of wounded souls. What a way to live! Stay Healthy!

[nancytwigg]

"Your failure is central to my self-esteem!" Just plain evil. Sad really.

[brucefriedman]

Narcissists demand to be perceived as righteous in order to obscure their immoral behavior. If their demands are not met, one is succinctly placed on their enemies list.

[PR-kdsc]

So funny, and yet I spent years trying to figure out, it is difficult to comprehend that the person you loved and trusted had totally different motives. I am peaceful now

[Teacher]

Highly effective people seek to understand others before seeking to be understood. For Narcissists it’s the opposite.

[IzabelaWaniek-ix]

Ineffective narcissists is what they truly are. Ineffective. Thank you dr Carter 😊 God bless you ❤

[wakeupordie]

HAHA I love this title, a play on The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People! 😄

[yukio_saito]

A win-win situation never happens in a relationship with them because they must win. 😮

[aaronkwolfe]

On this day in (FB) history, I noted, as I was cleaning the house after discard, that I was utterly staggered by the amount of handwritten apologies I’d given her over the years. Ones she’d demanded, but didn’t bother taking them with her. That should have been more of a clue at the time.

[PantaRhei-wzzn]

Get angry & shouty at the people you need goodwill from, to help you solve situations ...
Works in the opposite direction

[occultcinema]

Thank you so much for your work. As someone who feels they are betraying the relationship by talking about it with people; I've realized core patterns in my partner and myself and have successfully gotten out of a covert abusive relationship.

[stephanielindberg]

Love all your videos! I’ve been separated for 3 months & your videos help me realize I’m actually not insane! 😊 Thanks for all your work, Dr C. I love your humility & kindness.

[sgueymard]

When you finally realize that you're the scapegoat member of a whole narcissistic family, but you can't move on because the parents are now elderlies being abused by the siblings... And the abuse is impossible to prove (even with videos) because nobody believes the scapegoat... 😖💨

[puremaledark]

4:57 YES! I have noticed them destroying anything that makes them look "less".
Up to and including clothes that you might look good in.

[MicheleLHarvey]

This was so spot on it made me chuckle! Especially #6: that the narcissist believes that forced compliance equals coordination! I'd not heard that one before, but it's beyond true!

[judithrasmussen]

My husband always said in a “discussion”, Why can’t you just agree with me? Sounds narcissistic right?!!!

[rhondadagnolo]

Thank you so much for your help and guidance.With all the names I've called my ex-partner, Narcissist encapsulates nearly everything.Though still living(?) under the same roof, things are now going to change-the tipping point has been reached.

[elvissgrandma]

Having been on the receiving end of bullying and harassment which included innumerable involvements of outside agencies, mainly police, responding to complaints based on half-truths and downright lies I began to recognise that my next door neighbours were subjecting me to narcissistic abuse. Over the course of 17+ years they made my life hell and now they've moved . . . but only about 250 yards away so I still know where they are and somehow it's worse! Due to my age and serious health issues I'm relying more and more on NHS services and have been offered counselling. It's early days and I'm still at the stage where I feel I'm being judged and people think I've somehow made it all up or provoked the attacks on purpose. I just hope life gets better.