I won't move abroad so my husband can stay with his partner

[nayaka]

Woman marry gay man because their country is conservative but the gay man partner need to move back to his home country which also conservative. Plus they pay less in there. The woman, op, prefer not to move.

Op is already sacrifice enough. Her husband should move alone if he is that desperate. Why op need to sacrifice her financial safety? Duh

[MsMeyara]

refusing to make a sacrifice? Damn that woman is a literal angel.

[moniquethong]

Just divorce already. Even if OP moves, they are going to divorce anyway. And Op might be abandoned in a foreign country when her husband is done and dusted with his 'family.

[vm]

It's not fair of the husband to expect OP to make all the sacrifices. It's sad that his partner is getting kicked out. He should be looking for a solution for him rather than forcing OP and the kids to uproot their lives. He clearly isn't thinking about the children.

[stepee.]

Stop burning yourself to keep him warm

[ovelha_]

I won't judge OP's choise of relationship, it may seem odd, but a lot of people just get together 'cause they want children, or better yet, i know a story about a muslin woman who was arranged married to her bestfriend, they liked eachother, but didn't love(romantically), in fact her bestie was gay, so they settled for having children and be a happy couple in public while they could each have their own love life in secret.

Anyways... back to the current story.

OP has already endured enough, seems like she sacrified a lot of things for her "husband's" happiness with his partner, as much sad it may be for him, OP has every right to prioritize her own life, career and well-being over him.

OP is not wrong, in fact she had already gone throught a lot, i myself would never be in a relationship and have children, while knowing my partner will never truly love me, i wouldn’t be able to stay in a marriage where i know they have a second someone, in fact, i'd feel like the second someone.

Dunno about how their marriage works, but i'm sure her husband can wait a little bit to be together with his partner again and he will(already is) understand why you don't want to move.

Plus, do they children know about this? I mean, not criticizing or being homophobic... anything of the type, it's not related to the issue in the post, but i'd like to add that it would be great if the children know what is happening(if they're old enough to understand), so they don't all of a sudden discover that their father have a "side piece" and their mom is okay with it.

[RemyHon]

Divorce him like everyone else would. He can live his life the way he wants

[Brit]

This isn't about family, if it was, he'd be putting his CHILDREN first.

-- How would them moving to a whole other country benefit their children? How would they benefit from having their whole lives uprioted because dad can't live with the fact that he would have unfettered acces to his paramour?

-- I get that he's upset about this, but he's being selfish by prioritizing his relationship with his lover over their children!

-- "It's sad, yes. But it isn't like you wont be able to talk to him on a semi regular basis and we can't go on holiday to see him! Uprooting OUR lives because HE is leaving is very selfish and unreasonable."

[xxtianxx]

"Since the begging" girl what- how delulu where u

[noofftopicquestions]

“it’s about family :((“ guy who wants to relocate a wife and children he chose to have to another country so he can keep dating his boyfriend

[Nerocrystal]

Why'd they even get together in the first place if she knew from the start he's gay seems like a waste of time and that something like this might happen

[ambernickerson]

He’s not even worried about their kids but his own selfish need for his partner

[MoonBun-illu]

The key word here being "conservative". Chances are high they were friends and married to keep his folks off his back. Happens more often then one would think. However this is too much. I understand him loving this guy but he asks his entire family to uproot their lives and move to a country making this less than conventional relationship constellation more complicated than it already is purely for HIS happiness and love. Not his "wife's" or his kids. Entirely just for himself and sorry but when you have kids, they are your priority and you have to do what's best for them and not what's best for your whacky love life. I'd say compromise. He can go with his bf and once a month "wife" visits with the kids for a few days plus regular video calls until the dudes bf can get his visa and they can come back so the wife can divorce her husband and he can marry his bf. Seems like the least painful and uprooting option benefiting mostly all.

[Dphantomfan]

Funny how he’s trying to manipulate OP using the family excuse. When he’s the one demanding the entire family pack up and up route their lives to a whole other country for his benefit. He can’t tell someone to do something for family when his intentions have nothing to do with any of the family. Plus I think OP has proven how devoted and caring she is, so maybe he can do her a favor and think about someone other than himself.

I am sorry that this is happening to the love of his life, and that he can’t just run after him. But he’s not in a position to just pack up and go whenever he wants. And it’s unfair to force the entire family to make this sacrifice for him.

[terseandtiny]

He didn't make the sacrifice... he chose to have a lover instead of committing to his wife solely.

[annabanana]

gosh it’s not even a heterosexual marriage and the man is still asking the woman to sacrifice more than appropriate

[lisasims]

Sounds like you're making all the sacrifices

[Furina-by]

guys i think they might be arranged married thats why husband has a partner and she is okay with it

[benamisemthimkhulu]

You are such a strong woman. You sacrificed yourself and your children for a man who is gay. I appreciate the fact that you were honest with yourself, you are a good mom for not poisoning your kids against their father

[tu.eumesma]

Woman, why? What are getting from this relationship? You are wasting your youth, your life. Free yourself and start living. Life is short. You need to be free from this marriage, so that when the right man for you comes along, you will be available for him.