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How to Think Faster Under Pressure

High-pressure situations are, unfortunately, absolutely inevitable. Whatever it is that you want, oftentimes, it comes after a high-pressure situation. Whether it's an interview, a networking event, or a date, it's those times where we really would like an outcome that we feel the most pressure. And unfortunately, all too often we go home kicking ourselves saying, "Why did I say that and why didn't I just say that other thing?"

So that's why, in this video, I want to help you think more sharply and more quickly in those high-pressure situations so you don't wind up at home kicking yourself and instead you are celebrating your big win. The first thing is to initially recognize that high-pressure situations caused us to do the exact opposite of what we would if we were going to do things well. And what that means is that when somebody approaches you at work and they're being hypercritical, what is the instinct? It's to shut down and close off. If somebody walks into a room that you really would like to speak to whether it's a mentor or a date, the instinct is to have your heart race, breathe really shallow, then go, "What do I say? What do I say? What do I say?" We need to do the opposite of these things physically.

0:32 Change your state by doing the opposite
1:59 Know what to say in any high pressure situation
3:31 Know your framework
6:57 Summary on how to deal with high pressure situations

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[MasculineMan]

It's too bad youtube does not promote channels like this, it's clear that you care about your audience and want to add value to them, oppose to the other money grubbers on YouTube.

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Keep up the great work Charlie

[StephenRogue]

As an introvert, every conversation is a high pressure situation

[ispitmygumonthesidewalk]

I watched this video 10 times already now I’m think at 100x speed

[aNighthawk]

"do the opposite"
Interviewer:

Charlie: you're hired

[MrLazini]

Watch this vid in 2x for 20 times faster thinking.. Works trust me

[annocount]

Teacher: Did you do your homework?
Me: You are asking me if I did my homework?
Teacher: Yes. Did you do it?
Me: Hey, I don't think I've met you yet. I'm charlie

[Trophonix]

I walked up to a woman and said "Hey, I don't think I've met you yet. I'm Charlie" and shook her hand
We're married now
She still thinks my name is Charlie

[DashingPartyCrasher]

I'd like to expand on Charlie's summary:

1. Do the opposite of what your body wants to do: Take a deep breath, put your arms down, and stand "tall" with shoulders back, chest out.

2. Have a "go-to" phrase that you can say each time you meet someone in a certain situation, such as "Hi! I don't think we've met yet. I'm (your name)." Your go-to phrase(s) can be anything that have worked well for you.

3. Know your framework or "step by step" process. For example on a date, start with fun banter, then share each other's values, and then make longer eye contact or even non-sexual touching. (Charlie has a link to the different frameworks.)

4. If you ever feel lost in a conversation or are unsure of what to say, you can repeat what you (think you) just heard as a question. This forces the other person to repeat or clarify what they said.

[lincolnlogs]

I just asked my barber what he did for a living...

[pawefornalik]

First time driving a car:
Instructor: stop on the red
Me: *do the opposite*

[joostvanrens]

I start all conversations with: "hey do you speak English?"

Most co-workers don't even talk to me anymore

[pooppooperson]

Job Interview:
Me: Hey, I don't think I've met you yet, I'm Charlie
Interviewer: You're hired

[NightOwlGamingz]

Me talking to a girl that I have a crush on in class: “hey, do you speak English?”

[candyheartsart]

Thank you so much for creating this content! As someone who has ADHD and Autism I struggle so much with social interactions and you are really helping me learn more about what to do, even if I don't really understand it.

[CuriosityCulture]

I usually don't like talking head videos. But you just have that energy man! Love it

[nikitbarapatre]

I am thinking only 8.23X faster please help.

[brayjsanimation]

is talking to my robber
"Hey, do you speak english"
*gets shot*
"I don't think we've met yet, I'm Charlie."

[njamison]

"Do the opposite of what your body tells you to do."
*twerks against management table*
Job Interviewer: "What are you doing?"
Me: *In a more relaxed tone* "Relieving my stress. Why the concern?"

[adadadrian]

i tried this in my kickboxing lesson. i opened up, found a solution to handle the punch and my partner broke my nose, thanks dude!

[saarahturtle]

This video is so needed for me. When I feel like there’s a lot of attention on me (from presenting or even putting my hand up in class to group situations) I feel like my mind goes foggy and I can’t think straight. I’m usually pretty confident but I become a different person and it’s the worst because I feel like there’s a physical boundary that I need to put the work in to stop.