5 Common Things That Happen After Emotional Abuse

In this video, we explore 5 common things that happen after emotional abuse, from isolation to hope and spirituality. Let's embrace the journey.

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*In this video, I share the tips, techniques and insights that have worked for me in my own journey of healing after narcissistic abuse along with expert tips and tools I've learned through years of coaching narcissistic abuse survivors. I am not a therapist and this video is not meant to provide therapy of any form. #narcissist #covertnarcissist

[sev-nutz]

It's so odd how abusive relationships are all the same it's like a script we all follow.

[ralucapuiu]

You're so right about the intuition, there were so many red flags all throughout and I chose to ignore them, I was lying to myself and lost myself in the details, trying to justify this person's actions (even after a major betrayal), at the end of the day I needed to look at the big picture to finally see things as they really are, there's no hope for kind and respectful closure with these type of people, they will always try to flip the script to fit their narrative, so toxic

[isaacJjacobs]

I think this information should be taught in schools

[joliescott]

Thank you for this I’m about 3 month out of an emotionally abusive relationship and only just realized that it was abusive because I kept making excuses for his behavior even after he did so many bad things but I’m so ready to move on and bring back who I really am not the shell he made me

[soniachetty]

I thought I healed and recovered but today I broke down 😥feeling suicidal, the lock down makes it so much more difficult to handle but, I continue to pray for my healing .

[sunnyphoenix]

Make sure you stay away after you leave and dont go back! These people are sadistic and get pleasure from hurting you!

[thespiritguy]

I really enjoyed this. Thanks for uploading.

My ex pushed me to going insane and made me believe it was my fault. Her reactions were incredibly aggressive, demeaning and cruel, over some slight she perceived. I began to depend on her validation for my own happiness and everyone was telling me to get out.

I finally did when she attacked me for the second time, and then when the relationship was done she slandered me online.

But she’s gone, and my life continues to tick over ❤️

[russclay]

You are absolutely correct about obsessing over the situation.

[Professorclown]

I think you're very brave, with what you've been through, and now helping other 'victims' of narcissistic relationships and the ensuing abuse. Thanks for having the strength to continue this great work in enlightening others to this insidious condition.👍😎

[avgonyma]

5 things that happen after the emotional abuse:

1. Loneliness and isolation: whenever you end any relationship you will feel this. But more intensively after an emotionally abusive relationship (when they isolate you from your emotional support network). Not all of them do it. Or they will turn other people against you, after the end. They want you to suffer.
2. Ruined self-esteem: Your own emotional state during the relationship: you were more independent at the begining of it. The abuse is designed to destroy your self-esteem. That becomes tied to the other person's approval and the success of the relationship.
(You have invested a lot of emotions into it. So you keep going back, even after you know it's abuse).
3. Becoming obsessed with labeling the person, trying to learn as much as possible, to know what they are thinking. Because they will not tell you. You want answers. It's natural. And helpful.
But at some point it's time to stop and move on. You want to come healthy out on the other side. Stop reading all of that, and listening to every story. You have to learn the lesson, and it's deep. It's different for everyone. Dig deep into yourself to figure out what goes on inside there, and what needs to be addressed.
4. Emotional upheaval: when you start looking into yourself, what brought you into this, what triggered you, why those things were such triggers. And why you have hidden them from yourself. You need to deal with those supressed emotions. (Inner work). It's like pulling out a string:

[casperinsight]

It's deep is an understatement. It's all encompassing at the beginning but gets infinitely better once you accept what is and deal with it. B kind to yourself thru upheaval, youre releasing which is the path to freedom. It's uncomfortable at first but very rewarding. Once you become whole you will never abandon yourself again 👍 You have found your value and will never let it slip away no matter what. Your boundaries are built. Onwards and upwards 😎

[Dragonfly_magictarot]

The lessons are personalized. For sure. When you are coming out of it, it literally feels like your vision is getting better and better as the days and weeks pass. I never want to go through this again and I think that's why so many of us want to do the work, learn and move forward with the information.Oh yeah, the synchronicities, numbers, the self-awareness, and the intuition...it just starts happening.

[kv]

This happened to me, and on a very public level. I ended a toxic friendship with a couple of narcissists, and they tenaciously and ruthlessly slandered me online and gossiped about me to multiple people, to the point where I lost my job and became hated. Hell hath no fury..

[sunnyclouds]

Omg so true i had to learn the lesson to move one to a happier, healthy future. In the end I can test these narcs without looking for red flags... I just by saying no and I want to take things slow and wait for the outburst or they just ghost, either way I am good.

[Dreamseeker]

Great content. I'm fresh out of an emotionally abusive relationship. It was really starting to take a toll on my mental health. I was starting to honestly believe that there was something wrong with me. I was also tired of my feelings constantly being discredited and being told I'm (overly emotional) or that I'm (too sensitive).

[rubywine]

I am so happy i found your videos. I just left a 15 year emotionally abusive relationship and I've really been having a difficult time. But everything you have discussed makes sense - especially the synchronicities and spirituality. Thank you for this. So much.

[leopluerodong]

My ex wife destroyed me. It's been a year, and for some stupid reason i still miss her and I feel empty and hopeless. Idk what I'm even living for. Ive lost her, all my friends, and I barely have the willpower to stay awake during the day. If anyone out there has moved on, how did you do it? As broken as I am, being a man, I cant imagine anyone would ever want me again.

[philipallsopp]

No 1 isolation and loneliness. Yep. I was excluded. And after I cut ties, by that time I’d got used to it. I was scapegoated. I’m the 2nd eldest of 8 children, the oldest male, so the easy target.

No2 yep. Trying to figure out what was happening, so looking at the details of things that were said and done. I ended up keeping a record of what was being said and kept these texts and emails to keep the context.
It was difficult to come to terms with what was happening. I didn’t hear the term “ gaslighting” until 2019.
I see patterns. Synchronicity is something that I’ve noticed. Sort of; yep! That fits.
I’ve noticed that people are noticing me too.

[casperinsight]

True,
But being in relationship with covert narc is lonely and isolated with all the flying monkeys and triangulation etc. The trauma bond is there in relationship and there when it's over. At least if your distanced from them you can heal over time. Staying will only prolong the inevitable and make it harder to let go and heal.

[wolfmoontarot]

Close to 3 years out of my abusive relationship, and I cannot tell you how affirming this video was for me. Thank you so much for posting this. I feel like crying after watching this because it helped me to understand what I went through, and begin to come into healing and acceptance in a larger way. Thank you.