Responding to Assumptions about Me: Part IV

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📝 What are you studying? English Literature at the University of Exeter.

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[S-ks]

It’s not about the quantity of friends, it’s about the quality. Sometimes 1 amazing friend is enough for a a lifetime

[morganelova]

I'm so shocked to hear that you tend to be late. I assumed that you would be the type of person to always be there earlier ahah! It's really nice to discover different parts of you that we can't especially guess by watching your videos! Have a nice week Ruby xx

[SouthernGothBelle]

As a mostly introverted person I felt this in my soul. Why is it “sad” or “cringey” to have just a few close friends? Even the times I do hang out with large groups I feel emotionally winded and get talked over the whole time because I’m quiet and just tend to say something weird that I don’t realize is weird until I say it. For example there was a time I was in class and everyone was talking about astrology and I said “I heard mercury was in gatorade” as a joke but they all thought that I was just confusing the planet with the element. Apparently I’m so deadpan when I make a joke people think I’m actually stupid. 😂

[frogheart]

You're really kind and patient with these 'assumptions'. I feel that they're very rude.

[Claudia_K.]

I needed you in my life 20 years ago! I’m 36, a mum, with my Master’s degree being 14 years old. However, I relate to you so much and younger me would’ve found so much peace watching someone like you. Keep being you, you’re such a wise person. x

[collins]

Well said on the extroverted focus of society especially these days. Feeling like I don't have "enough" friends is something I still struggle with and I am inspired by your recognition that there is no problem with being an introvert in an extrovert's world.

[felinetherapy]

Thanks for raising awareness about adult bullying. As a victim its the most shameful feeling and I don't think people realise just how impactful it is on someone's wellbeing. Mentally and physically it can destroy you.

[thenamescara]

I really appreciate how much you value your privilege, and recognise how your family’s financial situation has positively impacted you academically. As someone who didn’t get a very good secondary education, I hope I am in a strong enough financial position to send my future children to a good quality school.

[andi]

I think making the studying aesthetic and romanticise life as long as it's done in the right way can help with motivation. Without your videos, lighting candles, doing digital detoxes, wearing nice outfits, turning on a water diffuser with some essential oil and listening to movie scores/lofi/meditation music, my motivation would plummet real fast! Maybe I've just gotten used to it but before when I did nothing of this I just never got in the mood to focus. My appreciation for nature would probably be different too if not for your aesthetic videos!

[sripradhaiyengar]

Omg. I love how positively and honestly you have responded to so many of these assumptions. You have tried to look at it from another person's shoes, to see what it could possibly mean, the actual curiosity behind the questions. You could have so easily have gotten offended. I mean, I did at a couple of them, on your behalf, until I understood what they actually meant. This was a lovely video.

[graceallsop]

you talking about how you just have a few close friends and are okay with that was so reassuring so thank you!

[Misseggy]

I feel like a lot of creators get really defensive when responding to assumptions, to the point where that’s what I expect of these videos… but Ruby is just so honest and genuine. I love to see it!

[Londonererer]

Quality rather than quantity, with regards to friendships. That's something we often learn as we grow older. Good on you for being your authentic self.

[baxtermaxtor]

“Assumptions can blind you; hypotheses can guide you." - Chris Voss

[SamSam-lvss]

ruby dont change, u r totally fine..i feel so related..why nobody doesnt understand that its normal and fine not being interessted in dating and its also fine to have 1-2 main friends and thats it...actually, i adore u exactly for these traits

[rachelmartin]

Why is having a small friend group a bad thing? I used to be in a big friend group and it was the worst, I am so much happier now I have a small group of true friends I can rely on

[Moviegirl]

You are so polite and elegant. Keep doing what you do and stay true to yourself! Many people would love to be productive like you ❤

[beths]

I'm older and I have been bullied at work. I had no self worth. I was told that if I left the company I would lose all my credibility. That it was the only job I could do but I still wasn't good enough. And when I had good ideas my manager took the credit for them. Don't stay in an environment like that. You deserve better

[mayaengel]

Wow, the part about worrying that the number of friends isn’t enough is so relatable for me. Every year unconstitutionally I would count and feel that I’m not good enough because I don’t have 10 or even 5 best friends. It’s so ok to have one or two if that’s what’s good for you

[yumengz]

Your family really shows that 'being academic' isn't necessarily related to 'being able to educate their children'. Even though your parents and grandparents left school early, they obviously love life and their family -- the activities you do together, with reading and painting are so important and insightful.