What Does YOUR Body Language Say About YOU? — Therapist Explains!

Real therapist Georgia Dow details some aspects of body language and how important it is not only for communication, but for our well-being.

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[drewster]

Body language is a good way to get a window into who a person is but eye I feel tell a deeper story of a person attitude and personality, I love to smile so that is my mantra

[ArtemusBlue]

I have both aspergers and an anxiety disorder, so you can imagine how much of a mess I am sometimes 😂 Thankfully, I’m pretty bubbly, and most people don’t react badly to me or mistake me for being aggressive, but an old manager of mine unfortunately took my lack of eye contact, fidgeting and nervous body language around her as me being shady, and accused me of all sorts of rubbish! Excuse me, ma’am, I’m acting like that because I’m scared shitless of you and your psychotic emotional outbursts, not because I’ve done something wrong 💀 I don’t like the thought that my anxiety might be making other people anxious!

[zuleykhapoladova]

Dear Georgia,
whenever I watch your videos, I feel at peace. It's like getting an actual therapy for me, except I've never felt this secure with any of my therapists. You're so passionate, caring and understanding, and you speak so calmly and kindly about things that I deeply dislike about myself that it kinda makes me feel like all these traits aren't that big of a deal. Not something to be hated or judged for. Can't even put into words how much this feeling means to me, truly soothing. You're incredible. Much love x

[cutwir]

Body language is a great study of survival because we are all part of different cultures. Growing up in entropy I learned so much living in criminal invested neighborhoods versus middle class and upper class cultures. We are very unique and amazing.

[CrimZonOnYT]

I have ADHD, anxiety, depression, control issues, some other complicated things. I don't have normal body language. It's also dictated heavily by my energy. Not my mood or anything like that, but if I was chill and just wanted to relax, my demeanor might convince you that I wouldn't care if you died but I'm just tired.

[mimull]

I sometimes cover my mouth partly with my fingers, when I'm really interested in listening to someone, as well as leaning forward. I think it's because I'm someone who talkes a lot, and when someone is talking about something I'm interested in I really want to participate, but I also really want shut up and not talk over them.

[carolinespiegel]

As someone who is autistic, I have a very hard time reading peoples body language and tone which often makes interactions with people difficult. Usually I will just stay alone because I like being alone where I don't have to worry about that, but when I have to talk to people I just mimic what I see characters do which is very helpful.

[Dekunutcase]

I have naturally very closed body language and it turns people away from even starting up a conversation with you. It's a real struggle because it's subconscious.

[justinrussell]

Your video has helped out so much. It made me understand my body language. You look at so many videos and read books. You explain it so clearly

[kendraa]

I experienced the culture dance when I lived in Spain. It used to kinda freak me out bc they'd get so close, but once I realized why they were getting so close, I was able to adjust accordingly make myself get used to the difference in distance. Very interesting, simple difference I hadn't truly considered before I moved there!

[DiegoMartinezCoria]

My brother and his nervous laugh, it never clicked for me that it was nerves, which might have made coexistence easier. Problem is I always took it as mocking, not quite understanding his tone, and it only took me close to 40 years to figure out I was somewhere on the low end of the spectrum. Good part is that it's all learned, and since that sort of passive learning never really worked for me, it was just a matter of paying attention to the context in addition to the verbiage. That's probably why writing is a skill, you need to convey all those extra bits like tone and intonation, and the only tools available are rather black and white. The smart ones throw in a picture or two to defy conventions.

80% of communication is non-verbal IIRC, and paying attention will do loads for your understanding of other people, as well as helping you express yourself. At 6'3", I can be a bit intimidating in the flesh, so we make sure to sit down if we want an argument to go anywhere. It's the awareness of little things like that which are a boon to whatever you might be up to. Avoid filler words, DO NOT RUSH YOURSELF, and adopt an open posture is general best practice for introducing yourself. I like that you touched on the range of personal space, Romance countries being comfortable at about an elbow's length away can cause frictions when your Canadian or American friends might be more relaxed at an arm's length, and it's the first thing to notice is how far away someone is standing when they engage.

You can take shortcuts in understanding if it's friends, but whenever it might matter, make sure you're getting your message across by asking for some feedback. Taking care to do this with important parts is also an easy way to double up on teaching something, like a quick 30 second review to make sure it was understood. But that starts bleeding into teaching and there are whole libraries on THAT topic. Getting back to body language, establishing shared mores is usually very helpful, and learning to negotiate those mores also helps your cause.

[James_Smith]

So.... the internet is telling me you are a jui jitsu champion? Can we talk about this? Please? Also, great video as usual.

[reijkobayashi]

Great video! Being able to understand body language can be so important, but very difficult. Thanks for the thorough and easy to understand explanations.

[Rihrier]

So happy I found your channel, there are so many helpful and interesting videos. Thank you. :)

[CrimZonOnYT]

I have body language of course, but I also move around a lot and make faces and physically react to my thoughts sometimes and do a lot of really random expressions. 50% of my movement is my mood, energy, body language, and another 50% is just random.

[RichBriere]

Nicely mentioned Texting. IMHO, many relationships have taken massive hits because we've moved from Speech to see that as being a HUGE mistake. :) 🙏🏼

[zachshock]

My own body language and understanding other people's body language was definately for me to under stand because of my Autism. I think I am better now but I do have those misunderstandings like the arm wrap thing most people do it for anger or if they are cold while I do it when I am bored or I do it just because.

[jeffhale]

Thanks for another great video. Blessings on your day.

[Ayanamird]

What would you say is the impact of growing online communication (without camera) on today's communication. If for instance the first impression of a person cannot be determined by looks, what is it then? The voice? The way they introduce themselves over voice comm?

[cautiousgalaxy]

My body language is awful I fidget and don't make eye contact. Then when I realize that I try to think of ways to relax. Then that causes hyper awareness for me Then I leave the store and sit in the car. I'm also worried people see me as aggressive, because I'm just a big guy. I'm literally afraid of everyone even if they are half my size.