Stacey Dooley Sleeps Over Series 2 Episode 1: Tradwife

[Cocoz]

I was a traditional stay at home Mom already had received my Nursing degree. I am very glad I did. When the HEAD of the house became more emotionally abusive coupled with cheating I had a way out. I could survive. I in turn raised my daughter to be independent. I raised my son the same way. They can cook, clean, work and now as adults they have successful relationships! Their spouses feel appreciated and respected! Teach your children to respect themselves and have boundaries, be independent and most of all respect and appreciate their spouses .

[anfisak]

I used to be a housewife for 5 years, now I work and I think that those 5 years were the happiest years. Don't listen to anybody who tries to impose their opinion on how your life should be like. If you want to be a housewife - do it. If you want to build a career - do it. You are the one who decides!

[teenarl]

I love that you pointed out that the objective of feminism was too allow women to make their own decisions and not become pseudomen. Some of us prefer to be working mothers (and/or economically must), and some of us prefer to be stay at home mothers. It's having the ability to choose, having the ability to pursue opportunities if we want to/must, that is important.

[bohemelavie]

I think the biggest thing I dislike is the way these trad wives speak poorly about feminism. Feminism is about woman having choice and genuine equality, not dominance. As a feminist I will fight for a womans right to choose to be a housewife, those two things are not fighting against each other. The role of being a home maker can be a genuine and meaningful choice for a woman to make. If a woman is genuinely happy (and from this 40 minute look into Lillian's life she seems that she is) then go for it, but don't speak against other woman doing what makes them happy. Same goes for carer driven woman, great... but don't look down on others with different priorities.

[karissakline]

My husband doesn’t demand respect, that is why I naturally respect him. This husband gives me the creeps because he thrives on ruling over her, a true leader naturally leads and doesn’t need to establish that. As a housewife, I couldn’t be more happy to be with my amazingly caring husband who I love to serve because he truly appreciates and loves me and lets me be my own wild self.

[freakinfrugal]

OMG when she said "less rebellious." I gasped out loud. This is cult behavior.

[rhythmictiger]

I bet you the daughter will never forget this. I hope she remembers Stacey when deciding what to do with her life and maybe being pushed in one direction by her father.

[natara]

Stacey: “so… are you a trad-husband?”
Philippe: “If you imagine a city, right, in the Middle Ages…”

[MyMerryMessyGermanLife]

I mean, the fact that she says, “we used to argue all of the time and then I became a trad wife and now we get along so well.” 😳 Right, because before you were partners and equals - you expected more of him and voiced your opinions and ideas. Now you just obey so of course you get along! It’s the same as being a powerless child. He has all of the power and you go along with it - I do understand that with the trad movement you go back to simple and well defined gender roles which can lower stress in the relationship temporarily. It’s just all so gross, women going back to being domestic slaves. Totally against this movement! And I’m a married, mom of 4 who has stayed home most of the time we’ve been married. My life could look traditional, but it’s not. My husband and I are equals and partners.

[rubyolive]

I think the key thing here is that these 'trad wives' have actively chosen this lifestyle. It is because it suits them and calls to them personally (and the fact that they are offered a choice in the first place is purely thanks to their feminist forebears) that they have found happiness. 
I worry for their children who are being raised with deliberate constraints to push them towards these 'traditional' roles. It seems they, as women, have benefitted from feminism and have made the choice to live a more 'traditional' life but are neglecting to give the same choice to their own children.

[SexyMrsP]

I being a homemaker and mother but the difference in my household is my husband’s NEVER expects and will always help with everything plus does all the cooking at the weekends 😊

[LisaGoehringer]

Being a SAHM is a full time job. Many husbands realize this and chip in around the house with wash, cooking, and cleaning. Why should a woman work 16 hours a day, but their husbands day ends when he leaves his job. That would be the day my husband would tell me what to wear. I find it horrific that a child is made to carry something on their back for misbehaving.

[sabrinanabi]

Part of me wants to be this woman who cooks fresh meals and bakes and cleans and organises my home and uses white vinegar for everything and another part of me wants the business woman jet setter life ... but currently I'm typing this comment whilst working from home eating a bowl of grapes in a night gown

[margaretmaeda]

She has three young children including a baby. She IS WORKING.

[lizcollinson]

There's no way he is totally respectful, his comfortable disrespect of Stacey is a big red flag.

[gfxgzdl]

Even as a man, I find the notion of a trad wife abhorrent. It seems like the start of coercive control or a sense of being less worthy at the very least. Nothing wrong with being a stay at home mom and if husband goes out to work it’s fair the mom does majority of household chores. However not okay to allow husband to make all decisions and behave as if he is the big I am.

[sj]

A lot of people including these trad wives dont understand that its normal to have different roles and SAME VALUE in marriage. You dont have to be submissive at all. Mutual respect would do just fine.

[lizcollinson]

I worry for his female work colleagues, because of his attitude and comments to Stacey he wouldn't respect his colleagues.

[rubberonasphalt]

For context regarding Felipe's "hoop earrings" comment: In the US, latino girls who wore hoop earrings were considered "trashy". He was definitely being flippant with Stacey

[AmandaWRU]

I was a trad wife and it completely broke me, I was bullied into submission for years and thankfully eventually escaped