Composite Moon Square Neptune- Need To Clarify

How the Square between the Moon and Neptune affects a relationship.

[mollyshealingcorner]

This is really interesting to me because my partner and I have this and I have noticed that it has shown itself in positive and negative ways. We have shared dreams at night, deep soul connection, beautiful sex, shared ideals and goals, and we have both caught ourselves putting ourselves on a pedestal and realizing that okay, this is lovely and all, but we are real people with real flaws. We have helped each other with healing generational trauma and past relationship baggage, and it’s taught me a lot about both being a team with someone but also having boundaries and saying “no, I cannot -always- be the person that is here to clean up a mess if say, you make a reckless choice or seem to slip back into an addictive pattern.

[RippleDrop.]

That relationship was the greatest disappointment than I *ever could have imagined possible* . Back on this video 3 years later.

[mollyshealingcorner]

This aspect is just evil. My ex and I had it. He is a covert narcissist, and I did not pick up on that at all. He could be SO romantic, and the good was SO good. I really really loved him and thought he was the one. He had addiction issues that only got worse rather than better, despite promises and things being better on the surface (he was deceptive and would try to hide his use). It got emotionally abusive and I finally left. It only got worse after I left. He went on a smear campaign and played the victim to anyone who would listen, and immediately got into a new relationship. I was gutted. I've never felt more pain in my life.
The only positive: I got stronger. I went into therapy HARD. I looked at my own over functioning in relationships and took the pattern on, fully. It broke me down but it forced me to build myself back up. So in a way....I guess I should thank him for that.

[isabels]

Yeah. My relationship was a roller coaster. Highs & lows. Never really saw each other for who we really are & what each other really need. Fantasy land. Took turns being victim/savior. Me, the Neptune, has played victim many times by thinking moon is taking advantage, but also been savior by trying to "fix" the Moon not understanding there was nothing to "fix".
Took turns with being crazy, mainly me the Neptune lol

Whenever things were going smooth, it's always one person believes it is and the other has a different perception. Cheating, mind games, and deceptions have happened on both ends

On my end of Neptune I try to stay in an illusion and not accept it, in this way I have subconciously used him by not seeing him for who he is and staying in a fantasy.

On his end as the moon, I believe there was also some fantasy & also tried taking care of me & being better for me, the Neptune, but still misconceptions. I think saw me as someone who is very deceptive & took advantage and saw me as someone very different. When he tried doing better for me I took it for granted & didn't understand that's what he was doing. Me as Neptune feels bad for not seeing him for the good person he is.

SO much love there but soo much pain & illusions. Definitely a karmic cycle that had to be broken

Neptune square moon will almost always be a karmic relationship.

Now that this has ended I'm left wondering who I was even dating & feeling bad for not being able to see him as he truly is & being able to fully love who he truly is, feeling like I unintentionally sold him a fantasy, but I feel the same way that he sold me one lol. I even went crazy thinking he was a sociopath but really just COMPLETE misconception, at least on my end

Definitely a relationship that shows us our inner demons & insecurities & forcing us to take responsibility for our actions

[gittef]

wow!!! I had this with somebody, we lived together for 1, 5 year and it was just like you described it!! We had love (also nice placements) but this one was really soooo dissapointing! How we just realised after a while we were no match

[devans]

Guys, when this placement comes up be very careful. I had this with someone I was seeing. When she said escape and a big secret reveal she meant it. I was his scape goat from his WIFE! Had no damn idea. Everyone's experience may not be extreme as mine, but don't take this one lightly because Neptune is a VERY tricky planet and you will have a huge smack in the face when this planet is square moon.

[friendship]

Over a year our reasons to stay in the relationship has continued to change. Overall its a very hard and uncomfortable relationship thats very expanding and healing in ways. But also extremely triggering But extremly rewarding. Drug addiction, exposing of secrets, trauma bonding, back and forth dynamics, being acused of lies, using the other for sex or housing or emotional support, escaping family obligations on both sides. But also being seen more clearly for the me I hide more than ever before. He always wanted to know what I was hiding begind my silence and mask. So this exposure was also positive. Sexually all over the place. And also not able to catch up with this exploratory changes and differences of what we wanted to expore and purge. We definately use eachother to purge. Its kinda nuts.
Always told myself if i could break away and move house or change states id break free. But 2 states over we are still friends and emotional support keeps us connected. And he is a rather different lerson than the one I met now that he is sober. Like lifestyle changes. But he went back to whobhe was but thats someone I never knew, so the switch is disorientating. But also recognizable for these bits kf him that I fell in love with. But through struggle kept with him knowing those parts were whonhe really was. In an odd way he feels like an emotionally safe place i can unburden myself in a non judgmental way. And he can feel like he has an attachment to someome and not feel abandonded in his relationships and knkws he can ask me for emktional support or to share his journey and have someone understand how far hes come.
He is in recovery now and we have this understanding that we are both on our healing journies seperately.
Still deeply love him. And he always surprises me with his talents and his spirituality. But its also been a disapointing journey on the flipside because while we are emotionally enmeshed and intellectually and spiritually connected, theres this lack of knowing. And that unsettling feeling mixed with having whatever reason for connecting satisfied, we both move on from eachother and there lacks a refinement of being understood or seen. Its weird. Emotionally deep but without nuance lr something. I dont know how else to describe it other than switching back and forth based on whatever we want out of the other person. But sometimes jts mutual and sometimes theres this big block and disconnection and confusion that can turn kinda ugly but no matter what new face we show each other, each reveal brings us closer with lingering confusion. Its been a journey of seeing the many faces of someone. If youre not scared by that, still brace yourself.

[deannagonzalez]

Oh gosh this is in my parents composite and this makes so much sense …

[elisemartin]

This aspect makes a lot more sense now, thankyou.

[kittykasia]

Your insights are amazing and much appreciated <3 Thank you!

[jaymesEo]

Damn it Jewel! I hate when you are so right sometimes. Haha!

[gothboithick]

describes my last relationship perfectly and painfully lol

[claveelgarron]

Well I'll be damned we have this aspect and neptune is the most aspected planet in our composite chart with the girl I like. Is there a way to manage this planet in a way to avoid its negative effects? The rest of the composite chart looks pretty good and has good aspects.

[denisahutmanova]

I have this with my autistic son. I love him so much but i admit taking care of him is my escape from this cruel world. We also have moon conjunct venus hope that helps smooth this aspect.

[KeeekThaSneak]

I had this aspect with someone and it was the worst relationship experience of my life so far. Completely unfair too because our synastry looked amazing but the composite was trash

[mysticalchemist]

I see my guy clearly.
We have this 0'56

[Riya-ctzk]

could you do one for moon square Neptune in the natal chart?

[bluebellbeatnik]

wow that cup is HUGE. It's almost a jug.

[saimoooo]

Jewel, can this aspect be managed in synastry if there is sun trine Neptune and Vesta septile Neptune and few good Mercury contacts in synastry and composite?. Or it can be worked through with awareness in a synastry chart or it's a lost case :/ Your response will be highly appreciated. :)

[hcyr]

We have the square + opp in synastry translates to sesquiqudrate in composite. Then composite sun, merc, venus trining neptune. Any thoughts? Feels deep and genuine type of soul love. Also saturn is conjunct neptune here and trines our composite moon.