The Dangers of Assuming the Best of the Narcissist

[Kris_Reece]

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[KRzzzzzzzz]

I’m learning that a good approach to dealing with narcissists is to be as unpredictable as possible because they thrive on the security of you being predictable but when they don’t know what you will do, say one react to next they freeze

[SheilaGibson-sh]

Resist the devil and he will flee from you❤

[janiecepoush]

I have Settled upon WISDOM in Discernment… Give Everyone the Benefit-of-the-Doubt, & watch earnestly… Collect Data, & Fairly add up the Clues. I can NEVER BE Naive like I used to be. Believing MOST had a normal, kind way of Being in the World! Once you see the Disposition for the More Realistic Percentage of Malignancy in People, you can’t un-see it! 🙏🏻

[sharicoburn]

I was raised not to judge a book by its cover and to give the benefit of the doubt and both of those have failed me miserably so I choose suspicion thank you very much

[MariaGalliganChannel]

Thank you, Kris, for faithfully serving the body of Christ by educating them about how to deal with the narcissist in a Godly way. More power to you and your ministry, ❤

[Ccc]

Being a "fruit inspector" isn't being judgemental. Discerning of spirits in people based on their fruit is wise. Some people, narcs especially, you just have to love them and pray for them from a distance. 😉👍🙏✝️

[winning]

I'm struggling with this.
I really want friends but I've had a lot of narcissist friends in the past who made my life extremely miserable and I am terrified of bringing a friend who turns out to be a narcissist.

[ama]

He showed his colors again and I'm leaving in silence. The only good things about our relationship is our kids and the walk we had earlier today he says. After all the kind words and praising today between us just went out the window because of the house being dirty. I've had enough when he put me on the floor choking me and putting me in a locking position so I couldn't move. Yet none of the people he talks to bout our problems see how he really is. I feel so defeated trying to serve him what he needs and he treats me like this. Here I am rubbing his headache away from all the yelling he just did yet I'm in pain from the physical abuse he just caused me while I'm pregnant. Pray for me as I plan my escape with my son and unborn child

[VictoriaWarrioress]

I choose to pay attention to The Holy Spirit and let Him do the discerning and obey GOD'S voice. GOD is my rock and my anchor ⚓️ amen. ❤ I pray others also choose to master being led of The Holy Spirit 🔥❤️🔥 in the MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!

[AmyColleen-pgeo]

My heart hurts and I just really can’t wrap my head around another human being causing so much drama and chaos and and they never even care to look back at all the damage.
God please help me have the wisdom and discernment when interacting and SB. Please Jesus Be my strength and my peace and my comfort Jesus please heal my heart my mind and my soul.

[widyaniswar]

What a reminder Kris.. so much. I am surrounded by narc, either spouse and my own mom. Only God's words that keep me in balance. Not easy.

[juliecoe]

This is exactly what I’ve started doing!! Finally found that middle ground. And it is with every single interaction. 🙏🏻 TY for sharing wisdom ❤️

[vajee]

Thanks for this, Kris. Knowing I don’t have to assume you the worst as well as the best in them, brings me peace.

[GingerDaddy]

Very well said as always Kris! Take and assess each day, encounter, situation differently. Don't get your hopes up, but also don't expect positive change, and don't let them change your outlook or faith in people. I say, get what benefits you can out of these nightmarish, draining relationships.

[marvthedog]

i have to admit, this hits a little home. having been burned severely by two women, one my ex wife, the other recently who i called a best friend.. i now have serious trust issues and a negative view of women's behavior. I'd love to think good thoughts about them, but, i do not want to be manipulated and have things turned back on me again when they play the victim.

[sannajohanna]

You are so accurately honest! Thank you!

[caitube]

It is really not easy to strike a balance. Most people just swing to either extreme ends. Assume worse or the best. And it's considering all kinds of interactions. Not just narcissists

[TonEva]

It’s true! When you let your guard down because they “appeared” to have a moment of compassion or kindness… it was an act and only to either manipulate you to get something or to draw you back in when they can tell you’re on the verge of giving up.

[We_shall_overcom]

Do not assume anything; just listen 👂, and believe what you hear they really telling you.
If people don’t respect your firm loving boundaries, then they don’t love you, and you better believe them.