Losing yourself in a relationship with a narcissist. what have you done for your emotional health?

In Episode 252 of the NARCISSISTS' CODE I talk about LOSING YOURSELF IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A NARCISSIST. WHAT HAVE YOU DONE FOR YOUR EMOTIONAL HEALTH?

A lot of times in a toxic relationship with a narcissist you end up loving the narcissistic person more than you love yourself. You give them all your love, your life and your energy all the while neglecting yourself. So I always ask people when i'm talking to them, "WHAT HAVE YOU DONE FOR YOUR EMOTIONAL HEALTH LATELY"?

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware #narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( #NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the #Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

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Click the BEACON up top for direct links. Thank you so much and lets HEAL together

[christie]

I was literally to the point where I thought any fun or cool idea came from her. Like she owned “the fun” or something. And cool ideas for work. My life revolves around her because she’d get really mad if I didn’t come when she called or fulfill her demands. Once I blocked her all that energy came back to me. And I realized I am creative and fun and have cool ideas. I had just been spending all that energy on her. And other people are cool and fun not just her. It’s a trip looking at it now.

[scornell]

I finally left my covert for good. He hates me for up and leaving him and blaming me. But I’m tired of begging for human decency. I’m depleted. The trauma bond is real y’all. It’s painful to know you have no worth in a narc and they blame you, smear you, and replace you with no care. But it’s more painful to stay and allow someone to steal your spirit. Real talk. Choose yourself people. Stop being abused. That fresh air of no anxiety, fear, and abuse is worth it. Time for people to stand up for their own lives and leave the sadistic people behind. Thank you for videos. They have helped me stay strong during breaking the addiction to the abuse. I’m back in school for my bachelors in nursing. Taking time for me and choosing to truly live. God bless you and every follower who’s hurting.

[loloqueenbeing]

The ex was VERY PROUD that he could reduce people to ashes with his words. He began to brag about it. It wasn’t until the end of the relationship (and then I witnessed it). His behaviour was FRIGHTENING. NOTHING TO BE PROUD OF. I could NEVER go back to him. I was so scared and disgusted, I can’t UNSEE what I heard and saw.

It’s all about ME now. I am so sorry I gave him ANY OF MY TIME. Time is precious, I have no more to waste. ⏰

[sincerelysophiak]

that “lost weight because of this person” was felt heavy 😤

[kimsmith]

You're 100% correct. We just give, give, and give. Im so worn out. I would never hear the end of it, if I were to do something for myself. Sad but true 😥

[allthingslibra]

Omg I always use to tell myself that at least he ain’t beating me up, and he even told me that ..smdh starting now I’m giving myself everything.. I’m sad and hurt and angry . Thank you Lee for educating me on this Narc I’ve been living this lie for 28 years ..

[marielpretelt]

One thing for sure. I wish i had someone like these in my youngest years.
Now I understand the necessary role of teaching our children all this emotional intelligence information and how necessary it is to protect it, not just college education.
It well said, that it is better to create strong children than repair broken adults.

[MsMookalate]

I accidentally discovered you. The sad part is after 8 years of this literally made me realize it’s time to get out of a abusive (verbal & physical) narcissist. Hopefully we didn’t traumatize the kids too much because I stay one day longer than I should.

As I’m watching the playback I started to cry as I’m looking at my kids when he mention the kids.

[crystalnyla]

This seems to be the reason and why it goes so deep for long ! They don't want to leave ... and us empaths want to forgive and fix them. I realized out of the relationship now ( 3 months ) I allowed the abuse because I didn't love myself. I was GIVING so much for emotional approval... in my definition then meant LOVE ( but that's not healthy love at all ) because of my root traumas. My Narcissist adopted mothers abused me as a child. I learned to live on my own at 14 yrs old finding my peace away from her ... But I wasn't aware then to protect myself of what I was walking into as an adult. With my love for a hurt soul we did 10 yrs and 2 children. I lost a lot of time, self, energy, money and material not knowing what I set myself to be involved with. That was the most expensive lesson but valuable to where I stand in life. My ex partner obviously didn't want to own any responsibility on his awareness of his past hurt and traumas, and thats ok because they have to be ready... but I couldn't bare anymore of the toxicity lies cheating and anger around me or our daughters any longer so now I heal. AWARENESS is key Awareness is wisdom Awareness is brave awareness is YOU !!!! Be AWARE live happy and work through all your fears and traumas! Life is waiting ... live in peace
THANK YOU " D " AKA MR. LEE HAMMOCK - '' YOU SAVED MY LIFE AND MY MENTAL '' and now I can be my best of purpose xoxoxox

[LeoSpiritGenX]

I didn’t like myself at all. I kept changing myself to fit whatever he said so they could stop being mean to me and see how much I have changed. I lost weight twice and became real skinny and nothing was said. I didn’t know who I was I just kept changing myself to fit whatever woman he was throwing to my face but it was never enough. He later said it was messed up and then gave me that blanket statement that he was sorry for any harm he ever caused me and I knew it was a lie. I poured so much into this person. And you are right they kept me in the house within four walls for a couple years we went nowhere anything that I plan he would stand me up or just cancel.. Then he would disappear for a week or two because he knew I was pissed off and then reappear just to come back and keep me within those four walls again same pattern over and over. Now I go out (of course being safe out there) realizing I had a life without him I just can’t remember what that was like. So I’m finding me again while trying to avoid him. It’s hard, damn hard. I just keep telling myself I deserve more and go get my life back.

[tbonesteak]

God bless you for educating us on how to deal and not deal with a narc. Mostly it’s too late when we realize we don’t owe them anything and going no contact is the best

[spacegirl]

Last weekend I went on my first trip since 2010. At first I was having difficulty fighting my head-demons about "Do I really deserve to go somewhere and be happy?" "Is it okay that I have fun? Do I even remember what fun is?" I hate these head-demons, those awful thoughts that I pushed on myself for decades dealing with narc family and my narc soon-to-be-ex husband.

My mother tried to sabotage my trip, like she always did whenever I tried to do something for myself in the past. "The weather is going to be bad. I don't think you should go. But you don't care what I think." She's right; I don't care what she thinks. I didn't ask for her advice. I was going to do what I wanted to do, and I did! But I handled her well I thought, though her histrionics and tears came out. No more bullying. I am 40 friggin' years old!

I am slowly, slowly picking up my pieces and putting them back together.

Thank you, Lee, for your channel and your willingness to expose yourself so people can understand narcissism and rise from the ashes.

[remembertruth]

Thank you dear Lee. You are an inspiration to many others who are ashamed of admitting they have NPD. God bless you bro.

[majorsolutionsllc]

Lee…all of your episodes are enlightening, but this is 🔥🔥🔥🔥 and offers so much clarity. 👏👏👏👏

[tati]

OMG this is right on time. My birthday is in a week and my narc husband makes it an issue every year if I want to go to the spa for self care due to the cost and the fact I'm not with him. It's crazy I'm getting my mind ready for him to be upset on my birthday. I'm done with this mess it's been 18 years and it has been toxic been with him since I was 20 and will be 38 in a week. I can't do it anymore.

[aprilshuster]

That blows my mind about writing your own obituary. I need to try this. Thanks, Lee!

[qmysugs]

I love this, escaping the physical and getting back to the emotional aspect.

[yvonnehill]

I still cry at times and I'm still angry. I can't stand him. Its been over a year and that monster still effects me.

[HolisticHealing]

Keep up the great, educational content Lee! Thank you for creating this channel, and your bravery to share your own insight. It has helped me with the healing process of leaving my emotionally and mentally abusive marriage. My kids deserve better and to see being with a narcissist isn't someone to value or healthy for the environment they are growing up in. Love yourself first, folks!

[Karenmariepombagira]

I think narcs have a special talentto see through you. They can see how to trigger and manipulate you. They have the same gift as an empath. However, they use the gift for bad.