When You and Her Have Nothing To Talk About

VIDEO CHAPTERS
00:00 - Intro
00:28 - So, What’s it like living with someone?
02:23 - “I have nothing to talk about with her”
03:42 - Distracted by routines
06:26 - I don’t get it
07:48 - Cold love
08:39 - Why even want a relationship if you’re unable to speak?
10:54 - Comments below, and join the channel :)

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[quasimandias]

Love isn't looking into each others eyes but rather in the same direction. Unfortunately that which many turn their gaze is astonishingly mediocre, and for many men the choice is to capitulate to the mundane or go it alone.

[LimitlessMndset]

The main reason this happens is because guys do not vet women. They're so scared to do or say anything wrong that they never ask anything controversial/sensitive questions. As well as, most men are simply chasing after 'looks', they're blinded by the wrapper, where's in reality that person has little to no substance.

[cj]

A female that has nothing to say.
You describe a dream come true.

[latt.qcd]

Most guys are just taking what they can get. As long as she's decent enough looking and isn't observably psychopathic at the time of him marrying her, they'll put a ring on it out of fear of dying alone, and out of a desire for kids.

[BlakesPipes]

First wife, all we did was talk, second wife, not so much but much more attractive, but had three kids that took the time. As I have no kids and now twice divorced, happy with being self involved in my own interests. Glad I found home.

[viking]

As Patrice ONeil stated - I don’t want a woman in my space but I want her “around”, in another room, up in the air vent, somewhere, just not in the same room with me

[tubethenoob]

Sharing your space is a HUGE burden. I find most women do not understand this AT ALL. Speaking as a fellow loner here. Love my space and my quiet time.

[richx]

Having someone you can talk to only matters to people who are introspective person. But to many people in this world live shallow lives. They flop down in front of the TV. Down a few beers. Watch a game. Then go to bed. Only to do it again the next day. Men or women who live unconscious lives don't need meaningful conversations.

[ajtaylor]

I've always been given a ton of crap for not wanting to be around people who I can't relate to, but that's never made sense to me. People force themselves to be around people whom they can't connect with due to a fear of loneliness, but that's more lonely than actually being by yourself in your own peace and zen. One of my biggest things when it comes to being with someone is having somebody that I can talk to about various subjects and who I can be in the same home with and won't try to run away because they're making me miserable. Yes, huMAN, most women today are generally boring and talk about absolutely NOTHING.

[ilovebutterstuff]

"Tell me, Mr. Anderson. What good is a phone call, if you're unable _to speak_ ?"
Dude, that is literally my ringtone.
I've met so many people - male and female - that can't stand to not be around somebody for more than a couple hours. They hate their own company to the point where if they're in an empty house with no TV they start to panic, reaching out to people they don't even like because they're scared to death they might actually start thinking. I believe it to be a Western sickness of the soul. Meditation is an impossible task, but driving around all day shopping and running errands is enjoyable. Maybe I'm an alien. I'm the only one I know who can go a whole day without spending money.

[jms]

Every time I get distracted for, frankly, desire, I do this self check. What's my motivation? Do I really have a deep connection? Or am I just well, lonely? With age, wisdom I realize that the physical just isn't worth the loss of my good lifestyle. I need something deeper to sacrifice the good things I enjoy. And, most women I know aren't worthy. Just the truth. I see most of my male friends miserable, seriously miserable with their wives. No thanks, that's not living a good life. I have had a few good connections, I have a few female friends I enjoy spending time with, but I'm not attracted to, that's fine. I will never compromise my standards again. Peace men

[donendusted]

That defines what my marriage was in a nutshell. It was just text msgs or short calls about schedules (usually around the activities of the kids), and meals. I raised this was an issue, but she wasn't interested in trying to work on it.

Then as I date again (in my 50's) I find that women I meet have no interests outside of 'coffee with the girls, or shopping' - so there are plenty of 1st dates, but nothing after that. I had a short term connection with a woman who only spoke about her work (in 3 letter acronyms), her cats, or holidays she'd been on. She didn't want to go and do anything, and if I spoke about anything I'd just get a blank look and no engagement.

[Adam_Lyskawa]

That reminds me a woman I once met. We randomly met on our way somewhere and just, out of the blue - we talked for several hours standing in an awful place by the street, in awful weather, just talking on really interesting subjects. It was amazing. And stupid me forgot to ask for her number. Today I would marry her. I haven't experienced something like that in the next 20 years. It's that rare.

[offlier]

Very few people communicate well but many believe they do.
Most people believe they're interesting, but often times they aren't.
Being silent does not mean you agree.
A smile doesn't mean you're happy.
Asking a question doesn't mean you don't know the answer nor does it mean you need advice.

Life is funny that way and there are all kinds of communication.
If I want to get the whole picture, I ask questions. I try not to assume even when I think I know the answer.

[davidp]

The two women I’ve lived with (one romantic and one platonic) kept wanting more of my space. I was happy to share, yet I wanted to keep part of the space as my own. Ultimately it felt like I was living in their spaces in my own home. I see that as a failure on my part of not enforcing my boundaries.

I’m happy on my own and if I meet someone I want to share my space with I’ll do it differently so we can live together while each having our own spaces.

[RedMagician]

Totally agree. If you cannot speak honestly and plainly with the person that occupies the most significant position in your life, that of your significant other, why even be with them?

[thefadedhero]

In my experience women have just told me what I wanted to hear. They say they love all the things I do and are content with my kind of life. It never lasts. They move in, and slowly take over my space. They change everything, and I'm expected to take it. They compromise nothing, and eventually I find myself alone again when I refuse to be a prisoner in my own life.

[Maggie.]

So true. So many are in this situation, just existing together. It's bullshit! We should be feeling alive and excitement- romance etc. It's all dead in most cases
Great snippet HuMan 👍🏻

[lawshorizon]

If you like the "sound" of someone's voice it helps a lot. Some voices are not tolerable for too long.

[welkcubnairb]

I wouldn't invite another person, into my personal space
Not even for millions of bucks

I so Value my privacy

I've lived Alone for 2 decades, in fact, very very few people actually even know, where I live

Good luck, fellas