Sunday Chat: Three Differences Between Men and Women

Sunday Chats are about various non-beauty topics.

There are a lot of differences between men & women. I discuss 3 of them and how we can learn and improve. I know that some people will say that women make it a 'nicer' world but, when we are trying to operate in a man's world, in some ways we can learn from them especially if we have to function in a man's world.

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Thank you so much for watching. I do appreciate it.

Elle ♥

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[trixiegirlism]

I've never had a problem saying no or apologizing when not necessary, but I used to feel guilty about it when I did it. About 10 years ago I decided that "NO" I didn't need to feel guilty about it. That's such a feeling of freedom. Now the yes's are much more satisfying. Laurie

[Melissa]

Well, as you know, I am way beyond help in this area. I would go one step further and mention Southern women. It was ALWAYS drilled in me to be gracious, do not offend at any cost, my goodness for a southern woman to offend or be ungracious was the ultimate sin. We were taught to be hospitable. That is a big one. You are always hospitable to others, even if you are sick. There is a famous story in Savannah where a neighbor brought a dish of potato salad to the lady of the house. Well, in the hot Georgia sun, it had gone bad. But what was a good southern lady to do? Why, she had to be gracious and hospitable at any cost, so she ate it and died. This is the mindset I have been taught to live by. Great video. Love you! Melissa

[kristingehm]

Girl....I decided about 2 months ago this was my year of "No!" lol....I have said yes for so many years I decided to back off of a lot of things...so I am with you! Thanks so much Happy Sunday! xo Kristin 

[rightonwhatever]

This should be" WOMEN 101" for all of our daughters :)

[PebblesFlintstone]

Good morning Elle! Hope your are having a fabulous Sunday! I love this topic. I say sorry way too much at work even when it's not required...and it makes me a pushover. I am trying to get better at it, as well as saying no, because, I get taken advantage of, because I feel bad, meanwhile, I see other people who say no and that is completely respected. I have no issues taking time for me...sometimes I feel guilty, but yesterday was lazy day and I enjoyed every single minute. I do not have kids and am not married, I hate when people think that because you are single, you have no obligations! So not true! I have to do double the work at my house because I don't have someone helping me! Drives me nuts! Ok, my Sunday rant! Get topic this morning...I'm sure you are going to receive some great feedback on this! XxxxPebbles

[valeriepaul]

This is so true! It's also funny that when the kids are young and the men have to stay home with the kids when we have to go somewhere they refer to it as 'baby sitting the kids'.  Ha ha. As women we know that babysitting is what the baby sitter does, not the parents. Also my husband goes and does whatever, whenever, never checks in with me to see if I have any plans. However, I always let him knw when and where. There is such a freedom to being a man I guess

[funkymonkey]

You are absolutely correct with these 3 things.  Unfortunately, that is what the world often expects from us as women.

[sharisp]

Elle, this was so spot on! I have been guilty of all 3 of these in the past; apologizing for every little thing, saying yes to everyone for fear of disappointing them, and not saying no often enough. This year however, since I am turning 40, I decided to stop being a door mat and have put my foot down more than once, always with respect towards the requestor but also respect towards myself. And guess what? The world did not end, and those people didn't hate me, if anything, they have more respect for me now! It is true what they say, we teach others how to treat us by how we treat ourselves, and as women, we need to put our own needs, wants and desires on the list too, not just cater to everyone else's! I wish I would have applied this strategy earlier in life, but better late than never! Thank you as always for your brilliant insight, love your Sunday chats! :)

[bethhelen]

Elle, such an interesting talk. So nice yo hear this type of talk! Makes one feel connected in our utube woman community. I feel inspired. Thank you for that.

[zazelda]

Wow, you have great insight.  I am 47 and  have found it easier to say no and to not unnecessarily apologize easier as I age. It think it's one of the perks of maturing.  

[dglenn]

This is the best 6 minutes I've spent with someone in a long time!!!! Thanks Elle! Hugs! Deb

[luna_london]

Very good observation but it is not going to help because we ARE DIFFERENT :)
And not change. Thanks for great video.

[BusbeeStyle]

+ElleIsForLiving Some GREAT advice! Especially the part about the importance of taking care of yourself. I can't tell you how many women I have worked with who get so incredibly depressed because they let themselves go over the years. They feel in so deep they don't know how to get out. Taking care of yourself is absolutely essential if you want to be happy and you want your family to be happy. Awesome advice!! Let go of the guilt... 

[MitziRoberts]

Balance is key*. My Dad always says, "Everything in moderation." "He" is so right. I try and live by those guidelines. Make it a GREAT AND BALANCED week Elle! xo

[margaretlovesmakeup]

I never say no and apologize for everything so I NEEDED this! Thank you! You are so right!!

[samanthastepro]

Great video!  In discussing our behaviors at work, I also notice that we as women don't negotiate our salaries the way that men do.  It is more of that being afraid that we might offend, wanting to be agreeable thinking.  I have learned at the time of applying for my current job, to really negotiate my salary and not be quick to "settle"!  

[pavs]

Great talk Elle!  I'm "guilty" of all of that, although as I get older I find myself being more straight forward about things.  Thank you for getting us thinking =) xoxo~Peggy

[hellooobeautiful]

Nothing better than watching one of Elle's 'pearls of wisdom' videos while my daughter naps.  I'm taking some me time ;)

[jamiemarscin]

This speaks to me so much!! I was just reading how woman apologize for everything or give reasons for not holding themselves to standards, such as... I've been so good, im getting dessert. I had a bad day so I'm having fries instead of a salad. Instead of just ordering what you want with no excuses or reasons attached. These standards are even higher for moms like me. We put expectations on ourselves to be everything and do everything and it's ridiculous! This year is all about simplifying and not doing everything myself. I'm much more relaxed and able to enjoy my life and my family :)

[ModernMolliee]

I completely agree, women do say sorry infinitely more than men and we don't always need to! Great video!