Using Wisdom During Arguments - Nouman Ali Khan

Wisdom when engaging in disagreements with your spouse.
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[musaeyymmbagaiii]

You are A Gem to our times..Alhamdulillah for you Ustadh Nouman.Shukran

[nagmamushtaq]

You are right .. for me I think in my mind and don’t say anything it’s good to be quiet sometimes

[مختار-رل]

قال ﷺ: "أحبُّ الكلامِ إلى اللهِ أربعٌ لا يضرُّك بأيِّهنَّ بدأتَ : سبحانَ اللهِ ، والحمدُ للهِ ، ولا إله إلا اللهُ ، واللهُ أكبرُ

[Sakhan-qsgz]

I usually just walk off to contemplate and to clarify my mind, my husband just follows me around to continue the lecture and we just continue routine, I will make tea for him and not revengeful or petty. He always bust out with a joke...his way of saying sorry. I usually say sorry, even if I am not wrong but I think our relationships more important then my my ego. Leting go and pardoning is very important if no violence involved.

[aini]

So true..57666 times of same arguments..i finally managed to gather enough strength to cut off for good.

[مختار-رل]

قال ﷺ «مثل الذي يذكر ربه والذي لا يذكر ربه مثل الحي والميت»

[amaanrana]

MashaAllah 💕💕💕💕
Ustad taught a very important lesson to all the people out there don’t just argue for the sake of your ego rather make a conversation with wisdom so that the other party might see the bigger picture
Allah hu Akbar 💕💕💕💕

[MohaammadShoebb]

Always remember, no relationship in the world works on 50-50. There is no 50-50, thats not possible. One has to bend a little more always. If we really value and want to save a relationship we will adjust to keep the relationship going. Easiest way to ruin any relationship is start expecting.

[fentyfatimah]

So true. At the end of the day, silence is the best option.

[ang]

Of course you need strength and wisdom to let things go when they are over, but I see something else a lot as well. What I often see is that a problem or many problems accumulate and never get properly addressed, they keep growing into resentment because they aren't solved. You can't fix something by ignoring it or pushing it away or saying "you're overreacting" And that's it. Fix it. Face the dragon in your home, or elephant in the room, together, and work together to finish it. And THEN have the wisdom to forgive and move on.

[emalali]

Very wise. Insanity is doing or saying the same thing but expecting a different outcome. Lack of wisdom and misguidance is knowingly doing or saying the same wrong thing and knowing the wrong outcome and doing it out of spite and hatred that benefits no one.

[kausamsalam]

Good points, MashaAllah. Changing the topic works for me sometimes, MashaAllah 😊

[مختار-رل]

قال رسول الله صل الله عليه وسلم(مَن صلَّى عليَّ صلاةً واحدةً، صلَّى اللهُ عليه عَشْرَ صلَواتٍ، وحَطَّ عنه عَشْرَ خطيئاتٍ، ورفَع له عَشْرَ درجاتٍ.

[muslimah]

SubhanAllah
Alhumdulillah
Allahu Akbar
La Ilaha illallah

[Assalamu_alaykumwarahmatullah]

Wisdom is often described as the ability to make sound judgments and decisions based on knowledge, experience, and good judgment.

[piqueny]

Come sense
If the husband says stay clear of a certain relatives and you know exactly why don’t let them into your home
If the wife has asked you act like the home you share together clean up
After yourself and be considerate
Do it don’t keep waiting for the same fight the same abuse the same family interference

Entitlement privilege immaturity will lead to a life of depression regret emptiness eventually sickness

[norlina]

💯...and we've been married for 31 years 🎉

[مختار-رل]

سبحان الله وبحمده سبحان الله العظيم
اللهم صل علي محمد عدد ماذكره الذاكرون وصل علي محمد عدد ما غفل عن ذكره الغافلون.

[deanneshane]

In our younger years ( first and second year of marriage), we argued a lot ( the result of opposite attracts rule LOL).
In one bad argument ( of words), he just left the scene. I wasnt satisfied because I couldnt get my last word in. After 5 minutes of simmering I followed him to the bedroom and saw him crying in prayer. That gave me a kicker. Since, I have studied more on role of a wife in Islam. We continued to have our little disagreements but I learned never to cross the line ( even with words) and an apology is always a necessity. As a man, he has his responsibility and so does a woman

[مختار-رل]

لا إله إلا الله وحده لاشريك له له الملك وله الحمد وهو على كل شيء قدير