My Single Season Mistakes | 29 & Waiting Until Marriage Ep. 2 | Melody Alisa

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Hi! My name is Melody Alisa - welcome to my channel. I lived in South Korea for two years where I met God and I documented my life as an English teacher (check out my Life in Korea playlist for more on this!) Now, I call Atlanta home. On my YouTube channel, I share my Christian faith and life as a creative, a newlywed, a soon-to-be first time mama through weekly new videos!

[heyitsmorenike_]

Idolising being in a relationship is a massive issue. May God help us single Christians! 🙏🏾

[srsmithali]

I am married so maybe I should leave the comments to my single friends. However, I want to encourage you all to enjoy being single and truly get to know and understand who you are and what you are looking for in a partner and marriage.

I will say one of the best advice I have heard is that " you should find a partner (man) with whoms vision and mission you can align yourself with.

I however heard this in my 10th year of If you think being single is hard try being married and lonely or being married and feeling unequally yoked and incompatible or being married and disconnected.

At that juncture you will be worst off than if you were alone and even worst if you have children.

Best of luck to you hon, great video and to all the single people who may read is beautiful but you have to work on you and find someone you are compatible with. Don't settle and don't compromise.

[ChasingReal]

Something I've learned is that you can embrace your single season, but still have moments of desire. I used to feel like I had to be ok being single 24/7.I felt like anytime I felt discontent, I wasn't embracing my singleness. There was honestly a time where I was so busy that I wasn't thinking of my singleness, but this year, God has created more space for stillness. I do know that God places those desires in our hearts for a reason. I've learned not to drown the desires out, but to embrace them...don't sulk about them, but find ways to be intentional about other relationships and how to serve others in the meantime.

[victorianavaroli]

I entertained guys that I knew were never going to be an option for me. I overshared my feelings, beliefs and struggles with them as if they were a therapist! I never went too far with them physically which was great! But now there are half a dozen men walking by around knowing just too much about me which is still unsettling, because they didn’t earn/need the personal information I gave them.

[Brownpearl]

For me, a mistake that I need to stop doing is being impatient and trying to “find the one” on my own. I just need to trust the Lord. I hope you can keep me in your prayers.

[Novemberlady]

I relapsed on my celibacy journey recently over vacation. I learned that I wasn't yet strong enough to test the waters and solidified that I need Christian friends on a similar path in my life.

[noelis]

I’m 25 and have only been in one situationship🥴. I’m learning more and more to trust in God’s timing but I have definitely fallen into the mistake of thinking something is wrong with me. Also I’ve made the mistake (still working on this one) of thinking that because I wasn’t all the way sexually pure and went back at one point that this is my punishment. I understand that sin does have its consequences but I also have to trust that if marriage is part of God’s plan for my life it WILL happen. My joy is in Him not in whether or not I end up getting married.

[tylershamone]

I have a desire for marriage but I am enjoying this single season before entering into "forever." I love when you mentioned not making someone your "God"or idolizing a relationship. I had to learn that the hard way.

[adreneblake]

Often times we see our singleness as a prison because everyone else around us is in a relationship & because of this we can fall for the counterfeit & see them as bail or a way out but singleness is a season to get to know yourself through God and whenever the right person comes along it's a addition to your joy that you already have ❤ They don't complete you but they compliment you.

[christalpinchback]

Whew, this is so good Sis. I have learned that I cannot rush God. I find myself saying “God, I’m 28, getting older.” Then I remember, I literally serve the Father of Time. Everything in God’s timing. I also heard that God will not bless you with an idol so I try to make sure I don’t idolize marriage and spending time wishing my Single season away thinking everything will be fixed once I’m married. Praying for myself and fellow sisters!

[jhnnja]

I've had a relationship of 5 years and God told me that I needed to leave this person. So that's what I did. (And wow I've received blessings upon blessings) It wasn't easy but after that, God showed me why I needed to leave this relationship. It wasn't just one reason but there were so many. And I am so grateful that He told me to leave this relationship. Not only was it very toxic but I also wasn't ready to be in a relationship. I am definitely embracing my single season. I am healing, learning to love myself & also learning who I am in Christ. God is good 💕

[tholoanakojana]

Having faith that something better is waiting for me in the future. 🤔I like that

[ellend.]

"I can not make him my god, he will be terrible god" WOW, word right there !!!

[KeleMathipa]

I'm a single 27 year old. And when I tell you everyone around me is either dating or married... I mean everyone.

[TheKrista]

I been single my whole life. Don't expect it to change. I got used to being alone

[beverelyb.k]

wait, can we talk about Melody's hair ?😭😭😭😭😻😻😻

[ruthy]

Thanks for sharing this!!! ❤️ I am 29, extremely single and have made the decision to be intentional and enjoying singleness. As you were talking I def found myself in every single mistake you mentioned. Grateful for Gods protection though and for still having a plan for that part of my life.

[Jasmyne]

Thanks for sharing! A huuuggeeee mistake I constantly make in my single season is looking back and moving back to old people as well. It’s a very hard habit to kick but I do because I believed at one point that this person was “the one” and this caused me much confusion. God is not the author of confusion and I need to learn to have more faith in him that my husband can come from anywhere, not just, from the past. Hard lesson to learn.

[Chynna-GuidingAngels]

I’m 27 and single and like you I wanted to take matters into my own hands and “plan” my life. I decided to sit in the backseat and let God take control. I married earlier and it was not what God wanted for me. I was tired of the same pattern and finally said enough is enough. I know that God has the ONE for me and the rest of the single ladies that’s reading this ❤️

[andreacamillembenoun]

Thé 2nd point is me! And the relationship ended expectedly for no reason other than, God is silent for him. I’m really thinking that the relationship ended so abruptly because I was slipping into idolizing the relationship. God is totally in control. The man said he needed space. And with this space given I realize how I was slipping. And I also see many things about that guy now. He’s a great great guy. But I was blind about a few essentials. I’m starting to be grateful to God! I never knew I could be grateful for the pain I was going through ! Thank you God for opening my eyes! And for consoling me in my pain!