Will You Ever Find 'The One'? From Matthew Hussey & Get The Guy

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This might get me in trouble...

But there's something today I have to tell you.

There's a belief that many of us have that I see destroying relationships, that's the cause of chronic relationship hopping, and that sets women with a completely unachievable expectation in their love lives.

I've come armed with statistics to back up what I'm saying, and while the message might initially rattle you, my hope is it leaves you with a far more empowering mindset than the one you have right now.

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[mirandapanda]

“An amazing relationship is BUILT not FOUND.” Absolutely. Thanks Matthew

[Boertje]

One time, I was bemoaning a broken romance to my Dad. He said, "There are millions of men who want to be loved the way you want to love. Your job is to find them."

In other words, be selective, have respect for my goals, dreams, & standards. Look for someone who fits with me, rather than someone I need to mold myself to.

Great advice, Dad & Matthew.

[jemimaadjei]

I was just dumped after only a short period of dating. His reason was that he didn't feel butterflies anymore and for him that was a sign that I was not the one. He had stopped making an effort and I told him that by not making an effort you take away the possibility of creating the environment for that feeling of love (butterflies) to grow. He said that fact that he didn't want to make an effort anymore was just further proof that I wasn't right for him. I feel heartbroken and lost but this video just reminded be that love is built over time with an intention and with effort not just on the insult and impulse of a gushing feeling in your gut. Thanks Matt. I'm the lucky one as I know what love actually is.

[helena]

Its simple: If he treats you bad, HE IS NOT THE ONE! CLEARLY!

[SICness]

My question is rather: how do I find ANYONE? 😅

[mariluornelas]

Don't serch for the One
^.^ Be the One

[evebrown]

I found the one. I look at her every day, in the mirror! =D

[SweetEssie]

I've thought this for a while. There's no such thing as soulmates. You make someone your "soulmate" by interacting with him and having experiences. The "one" is who you fall in love with and do life with, who happened to be at the right place at the right time.

[larissa]

I've finally understood that after a huge disappointment and after watching 500 days of Summer lol. Books, movies and songs are lies, we humans love the concept because of how beautiful it is, we romantice it so much that we actually fall in love with the idea of it. Thank you Matthew :)

[karinamargotgutierrez]

My personal philosophy is that I can make anyone "the one." As long as the guy is intelligent, nice, and attractive enough for me to be attracted to him, I'm good!

[ssmith]

as Seinfeld says "95% of the world is UNDATEABLE". It's true. 

[AzizaBrowne]

I just met "the one" and he's inside of this video

[jjfrancis]

This was awesome to hear. Thank you!
I am 28 years old. I spent the past 12 years of my life with 1 person. He was my best friend, my partner, and the love of my life. He passed away 3 months ago and I've never felt such loneliness and loss of self. It's been very difficult but I've managed to continue on with my goals.
A big fear is moving on. It can go one of two ways for me everyday. On one hand I am afraid to find someone new and start a new relationship. And on the other hand I'm afraid I won't have the strength to put myself back out there. Being 28 I still feel young and I feel like I have something to offer. But I am unsure how I'll know when I'm ready to move on. But I suppose when you know, you know.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I have much respect for you! Thank you Matt!

[mudpuddles]

The phrase "love at first sight" is so shallow .

[_-_]

A few relationships ago, it felt magical. She just got married yesterday. It’s been a while, but it stung a bit. But for me, it’s a lot easier knowing that she wasn’t the one for me, and that her being happy is a really good thing. But after dating dozens of girls after, every girl had specific traits that she had. Some better, some worse, but every single girl has been healthier than the last, because I’ve been working on myself the whole time. It gets better, but it takes time and effort.

[terriesmith]

So true! Totally agreed. Of course we all wished the relationship we have will last forever but if it doesn't, we have the ability to make it happen again. That is so important.

[CrispyLife]

He's got some good points. I found my wife at the supermarket 👌🏿 Your soul mate is out there. A relationship shouldn't be hard work either. We actually made a video ourselves listing 10 things that worked for us. Reaching 15years and still having fun together

[lurviesmattison]

I always like the way Matthew explain the situation/problem . He always made the effort to make it simple to understand and very logical. :)
Thumbs up for the video !! ♡

[maifang]

hi Matthew, I genuinely agree with you. what you told me is exactly what my mum told me. no one can fit you one hundred percentage. what important is your commitment to your relationship and the effort you invest in your relationship.

[ExtraordinaryLiving]

I have already met "The One" . . . *long* *time* *ago* . . . I just didn't know it. That "The One" who loves me and whom I love is *MYSELF*!

When we love ourselves first and foremost, we don't need others to love us . . . it would be nice, but it wouldn't be necessary. The irony is, when we can love, and be loved by, ourselves, then we would be able to *properly* love and be loved by others. And if there is no one out there, at the moment, who loves us, then it is okay too . . . because the greatest love of our life, our own selves, love us *ALWAYS*.   :)