What Men FORGET About Women

[CatherineTaliaferro]

I used to hear him say "You're always in your feelings. You're too damned emotional. You let your emotions rule you." Me afterwards, shutdown and quiet.

[maam-yjph]

Women crave emotional validation and emotional intimacy the way men crave physical and sexual intimacy.

[Eva__w]

What I was taught that has been very helpful in my life when dealing with an issue is this question, "Do you want SUPPORT or a SOLUTION?" By remembering this question it avoids so many problems that may come up and it lets whoever is telling another about their original problem to feel comforted by being heard and understood and also by healing the situation. For instance, a woman goes to her husband about an issue at work, he says "Do you want support or a solution?" Either way she answers, he can provide by making sure she knows he is listening or by letting him give her advice or together coming up with a solution.

[TaeTae-cvxz]

That’s why I naturally find myself being attracted to men with high emotional intelligence. They understand the non verbal cues and can pick up that what is being expressed comes from overwhelming feelings. They’re always the best kind of guys in my opinion. So kind and understanding.

Edit: a lot of these replies make me feel like y’all don’t understand what “emotional intelligence” is. It’s when a person can understand and manage their own and others emotions. And as a woman who feels deeply, having a man with this kind of EQ, helps a lot in making me feel safe and able to express myself comfortably. That’s all. This doesn’t make him a simp, or friend zoned, or overly emotional or whatever else you think. This just makes him a person that /understands/ what it is I’m feeling and someone who takes it seriously. You’d be surprised at how many women’s emotional needs are never met bc some men aren’t rlly able to distinguish what it is the woman is saying, even tho she is talking plainly about it.

[Melena]

Thank you! I appreciate this and the fact that you get we are different and more emotionally wired. Men tend to want to fix things, but sometimes we just need them to listen to us and our feelings.

[jamieedwards]

One cannot give a logical response to an emotional need.

💕

[shannonmaire]

Men are very emotional, often more so than women. Anger is an emotion.

[PurveyorOfCuriosities]

Everybody's an expert. The men that don't consider a woman's feelings are the men that don't care enough. There's no code. You care or you don't. No man needs to be "taught" to consider the feelings of a woman he loves.

[KKLee-ytic]

Women expresses their concern. Men dismisses it. Women leave. Men goes “ wtf happened”? 😮

[jasminewilliams]

My husband and I just had a conversation about a big decision. I had to point out this is how I feel about it but I understand as a man he thinks more logically void of emotion so I trust him. He also gave me the opportunity to speak my piece about it and come to an understanding. Again, I trust my husband and he respects how I am seeing the situation at the same time. Our marriage is blessed with harmony because of this approach. Embrace the differences and communicate effectively. Peace and bleasings.

[jakey-xuti]

My wife tends to have emotional outbursts that are not conducive to proper communication. So we addressed this and now when she feels like reacting emotionally, she takes a step back and expresses her feelings in a calm manner. This has helped our relationship 100%. Sometimes a logical approach is needed. A man of any worth does not want to be yelled at like a pet. Even pets don't deserve that. When she'd react in that way, I felt like a house dog being scolded. That didn't prompt me to validate her, it prompted a defense mechanism in me. Point being, men's feelings are important during these interactions as well. If any woman is expressing a concern in a emotionally volatile way, you as a man should express that the way a woman is delivering her feelings is not helping the line of communication. Or, vice-versa. Being able to regulate your emotions should be paramount in a relationship in both partners.

[arethayoung]

Men only start listening when a woman stops talking...then that's when it's too late. Our silence says everything... SMH..

[shawneeb]

Men don't forget, they literally just don't care

[travisegger]

“In understanding our differences we can create more harmony with each other” I love it

[sarahb.art.a]

Love this so much. When we bring up worries it is mostly to grow closer with our man rather than start arguments.

[zooweellama]

Staying single you don’t have to worry about a man not listening to you 😂

[davidjmackii]

When you dismiss a woman’s feelings you dismiss her.

[Lucia_santa]

One thing is that globally we are trained that being logical is superior to being emotionally wired.
Being emotional is always used as a counter argument or a weapon against women to dismiss/defeat or even humiliate them.
Many men believe listening to a woman in her emotional state is beneath them. And many women try to change due to that.
What we need to do is value emotions as much as we value logic. Because at the end of the day even though different, they're both equally important and even life saving.

[tanayabkatay]

It's real shit you know 💯 if we can understand each other, we have something so real!

[tbubble]

And when a man doesn't see or ask how your feeling, There's is a since of resentment for not being heard. It grows and grows until finally he comes to you with a problem of his own, for you the love is gone, and you no longer mentally care. 💔