When Your Best Friend Dies - Grief Validation

My best friend since childhood died in 2017. After her death I struggled with finding any grief support for close friends. The grief experienced by close friends after someone dies is frequently overlooked and under-validated by others. This video shares how I came to realize how grief validation is the first step toward healing.

[theresaferry]

Sometimes you love your best friends more than your family

[stephaniemartin-boyce]

My best friend Joey just passed away. He is my kindred spirit. I am so connected to him in so many levels and he's stronger than blood family. I just wanted to share that and thank you for this podcast. It really means a lot to me that you have this available for those who are grieving for their best friend.

[Crumpetsnatcher]

I lost my best friend this week. I also searched and found very little until your video which I'm half way through. Thank you, I needed this .

[HistoricWrath]

My childhood best friend was killed last week by a drunk driver. My friend had just graduated law school and was coming home from getting coffee and food after a night of studying for the bar exam. The drunk driver ran a red light and my friend was killed instantly. We were inseparable growing up, but hadn’t stayed as close in college and after. It’s been so comforting to see how many other people got to know and love him, but it feels very lonely being a “friend from the past.” I had been telling myself he was just so busy with school and life and that we would reconnect at some point. To have that opportunity taken away has been horrendous.

[Retsy]

I lost my best friend when we were 24. I mourned him for 10 years and felt crazy for that. No one understood our relationship and my loss. I’m 68 now and still miss him and think about him.

[Anaem]

I lost my best friend about 3 months ago.He died suddenly and I think I haven’t been able to cope with his death and I still can’t believe he is gone and that’s probably because I did not mourn him enough because no one validated my grief and I had to censor myself in front of my family.This pain is too much.I miss him, I miss him so much.

[AmyHoganRRT]

Thank you. I just suddenly lost my best friend of 25 years. I am struggling and needed this validation so badly.

[myMOMisKaren]

My best friend died suddenly yesterday morning. I run a grief support group in my community and I’m finding myself unable to process this grief. Thank you for sharing.😢😢😢

[jessicapatin]

I came to YouTube trying to find some solace for the grief that I'm feeling that nobody seems to understand. My name is Jess, so finding this video felt like my best friend Kristin reaching out to me. She died almost three months ago. We lived together and most of her stuff is still at my house so I can't escape the memories and the emotions that all of her things bring up for me. I often feel like her death was my fault because of a complicated series of events that ended with me calling 911 later than I should have and for a different reason than what was actually needed. I miss her so much every day and it feels like even my boyfriend doesn't really want me to talk about it anymore. I often resent her boyfriend because he received an incredible outpouring of support when she died and it felt like I just had to tamp down what I was feeling and move on. Thank you for making this channel and these videos, I hope it brings you and the people watching some relief.

[cedreug]

I lost my best friend almost two years ago. I’m still grieving and I can’t seem to heal. It hurts so bad everyday. My thoughts and prayers are with everyone that has endured this type of loss. Keep your head up and don’t let the dead bury the living ✌🏾🕊️

[wandasewell]

My husband was my best friend in the world.
He died 7/6/2024.
I love these YouTube videos.
It helps my healing.

[tylerp]

I feel for every single person in this comment section. Upon hearing the news that my best friend died, I didn’t cry. I puked my guts out. I felt absolutely sick. It wasn’t till months later I cried my eyes out. Knowing that there’s other people out there who went through the same horrible thing… it’s not cool… but, at least I’m not the only one in this boat. I dearly feel for anyone that lost a loved one/close friend.

[BrianYator]

My best friend of 14 years just died two days ago and I totally relate to all this. I've eaten today in the morning for the first time since I heard the news and even though some other mutual friends came to hang out with me, it still feels invalidating cause they don't know him the way I knew him. They didn't get to experience his energy the way I did and I don't know how or if I'll recover from this. My mental health is in the pits right now.

[iamFracture]

My best friend passed away the year this video was aired. I have never recovered since then. Not sure if I may ever, but to know others have experienced despair as such as I, to this degree of everlasting internal and external sadness; reensuees me that our Heavenly reunion will be worth it when that day comes. The journey now is to not shorten my time I have left and instead, continue to live out her legacy as my soul friend would wish for me to do.

Lovely video, I commend you for your strength.

[HeidiAmericanPatriot]

I lost my best friend Feb 21st of this year. He was the sweetest, most gentle soul I will ever know. I am completely lost without him. I love you Kevin.

[Bleeker]

Thank you, I found this video very helpful. I lost my best friend two weeks ago and i miss her terribly. I loved her so much. I wish I could have helped her. She died suddenly.

[kathrinekathrine]

As I sit here with tears filling my eyes. Kevin was my best friend in the entire world and brother by heart. Kevin was my soulmate. Kevin was the best friend anyone could ever have in their lives. he was my defender, my blocker and had always defended me. he was there for me when I needed a shoulder to cry on and always cheered me up. I have always enjoyed going out for breakfast and dinners with him. we always enjoyed going to the movies, swimming, and walking around the park. always gave the best hugs. Kevin was indeed my soulmate. I am so happy he safely made it up to heaven, and I know he will always look down on me. I love you Kevin and I Miss you. Love Kathrine your soulmate and sister by heart.

[tracybrown]

Also, when you have been friends with someone from the time you are kids up through adulthood and well beyond, you are more like siblings. It is truly a special close bond that is deeper than the standard friendship.

[AutoSanchezMusic]

My best friend of about the last 12 to 13 years just died last week. It was his last day in the military. While he was riding his motorcycle home, a bus cut him off and it killed him instantly.
He was the best person I knew and everyone who met loved him. I was the one of the weird kids at school and he wanted to hang out with me rather than everyone else. No one else has shown me the platonic love that he shared with me.

[themereffects]

My best friend died Christmas day with his wife calling me that evening to tell me. I was left in shock for days wondering how, what, where. I'm mad that I didn't get to say good by one last time due to Covid restrictions for non-family members. I walk the house in quiet now thinking of him in grief for our times together.