Navigating derealization and how to break the cycle

The more you fight derealization, the more you look for it. Michelle Cavanaugh and Aida Beco discuss how the fight is what keeps the cycle going and how to work through those feelings.

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[Justafayze]

“You’re engaged in somethin then just the thought of DP/DR triggers it” this is so damn on point, everything is normal then I think about it and it’s like it never went away haha

[MichaelClark-zcht]

derealization and depersonalization have consumed the last 7 years of my life. I am only just now making breakthroughs, by reorienting my thoughts entirely about them. They are protectors, nothing more. I can ignore them! I dont have to fix them! Fix the underlying emotional issues/fears and they go away on their own. Great post <3

[amdphen]

I didn't know aida suffered from depersonalisation too. Thanks so much guys- from the bottom of my heart.

[ilovelucytheboston]

I needed this message today so badly. Thank you ladies for making me laugh while delivering valuable information.

[scotchvelo]

The observation that the memory of this horrid effing thing is what brings it on and keeps you in it is EXACTLY what happens to me. Then catastrophizing it in extreme terms, also exactly what happens to me: "I'll be trapped in his hell FOREVER. I'm being tortured." OMG is this me to a tee. Thank you. This is brilliant.

[twillsJKZ]

“It’s like there’s no me to accept and allow” hits deep

[OCEANCORA]

A must watch for people with Depersonalization or Derealization.

[produccionesdebajosrecurso]

This two girls GET IT. Great channel. The best videos on the condition are this ones and they are in so much fun which makes it better. Love you

[MichaelClark-zcht]

"the way youre trying to fix the symptom, IS the symptom" . The second you get caught up in trying to DARE perfectly, you're back in it. DARE is a a verb with your being, not with your intellect.

[chasetaylor]

Same to this person’s experience reaching out in the beginning of the video ✌️

[Mamatruffle]

Absolutely. Like a radar. That's all you can focus on. I love progressive muscle relaxation practices, might help others. I've had to handle DPDR since I was a toddler. Gets worse as I get older; when I was younger I actually found DPDR episodes to be soothing and blissful because it gave some mental relief. I'm so used to the cycle of DPDR episodes as an adult that now I analyze it when it comes up which turns that radar on and the panic and anxiety ensues. I will say the constant overwhelm from having ADHD and ASD puts me at a disadvantage for experiencing DPDR in general and the frustration with my genetic disposition definitely triggers some anger behind my experience of life. I'll try to remember your sentiments in this video.

[dansgamingchannel]

Thank you so much for your help!!!! I now have my finger tip anxiety under control!!!! 😊 you guys rock!!!

[spoonherr]

It"s important to notice that people who say they have derealization or depersonalization could also have the continuous disconnected feeling from another illness like depression. I suffer from both and GAS, I also have the feeling of being 24/7 disconnected. The question makes perfect sense if you take depression into account. This person has the full time feeling of disconnected, which in my opinion is a fact and not a problem this person creates by thinking they feel disconnected or feeling fear. It's also very possible that in peak moments of anxiety this person expierences derealization or depersonalization and it mixes with the feeling of the disconnect from the depression. I also get the feeling the issue is being downplayed, because it could not just be anxiety this person is talking about. People in this situation don't check 24/7 if they feel disconnected or have thoughts or fear about being disconnect. So In my opinion the focus of this talk is on the wrong subject. It's not focused on the actual question, which in my opinion is likely depression, but more the general context of anxiety.

[randynavarro]

Thank you guys for making these videos!

[JustsomeSteve]

Sorry, but I whole heartedly disagree.
I do have it 24/7, for 11 years now (thanks to a bad cannabis trip). It never disappeared since. not once, not for 1 second. I'm not alarmed anymore or think it can hurt me more than it does because I don't even know or remember how it would feel without DP/DR anymore. It doesn't even get worse or better. It really stays the way it is, no matter what I do.
it's not like it's only there because I think about it. I meditate and even if think about nothing, I still feel like this . if I'm consumed by a good movie, sex or somethings else, I still feel this way. So, sorry but I really need to disagree.