Transitions & How They Can Trigger Depression · ASD Autism

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[carlottak]

I am amazed. I never knew someone who experienced these same things while living in a “appearingly average life”. Do you recognize the cognitive dissonance involved in being surrounded by “normal people” at school and work when in your past you have been homeless, crippingly depressed, lived mostly during the nights and forgot the world outside.. ? Talking of masking… heh.. I masked to not show how poor I was, how confused and alien I felt. And still, I feel I survived this also because of autism. The love for my interests kept alive a part of my heart.
How many of us lived through this kind of challenges and worse? How great is that we are alive to share our stories and be warmed by each other’s strength. Damn I feel dizzy from an overload of love for people I don’t even know in real life lol :)

[leenaparsons]

Moving has always been a big grief process for me, lasting at least a year. When I moved from a small town to a big city, I felt angry and resentful for probably a year afterward. When I moved away to university, even though I wanted to go, I struggled with the grief for the first year. When I moved back to the city from my university town, I went through an even longer grief process, which lasted at least two years, I think.

[anabelle]

I can relate to so much of what you say. Thank you for your videos, they really resonate with me deeply. I am a 47 year old French woman, recently diagnosed with autism and even more recently with ADHD. Learning to understand and accept myself better. It’s healing to hear other women’s experience and feel this unique sisterhood-autismhood.

[camillezendzian]

Having sleep as a coping mechanism is something that, unfortunately, I feel such shame around. But it feels nice to hear that others have this mechanism and they understand that sometimes, sleep is the only escape. I've lost years of my life to this. Thank you for sharing Irene 💙

[madiherr]

when u talk about the escapism that comes w sleep and sleeping a lot i can really relate to that & appreciate u talking about esp bc part of me tended to romanticized that part of my depression bc my dreams were so much more comforting than reality

[salla]

this was when i was a kid, but i remember being in third of fourth grade, when my parents decided to sell our car to then get a new one. i was A WRECK, i couldn't fathom why they would want to get rid of out car. aaand then came the day we had to take it to the new owner. i screamed and cried and had a total meltdown, sitting in my carseat kickboxing the hell out of the back of the drivers seat. i was bitter as hell at my parents for the longest time, to the point where i could understand to some extent the practical reasoning behind it. now i just lol about it but also can see how my traits showed as a kid. last year i got diagnosed with adhd and have some traits of asd, but not enough for a diagnosis according to the doctor. your videos help me understand myself, and i can relate to you so much. thanks 🤍

[YeeWhoEnterHere]

I "lost" a cuddly Donald Duck toy when I was 6 and still feel sad about it, I'm 48 now.

[itsiraa]

I just want to add that for me, it’s exactly how you explained it, BUT ALSO: I’m doing the dishes for example, I have the hardest time transitioning into another task - like afterwards doing laundry. I continue to find other things to do in my kitchen with the water running because that is what’s comfortable now. When I move to another task, I at first feel very uncomfortable and then once I’m in it, I will have a hard time doing the next thing. It can also apply to very small things. Like a certain pyjama that I wore for way too long because I don’t want to feel that uncomfortable again changing it or transitioning into something else entirely that feels different.

[soraninja]

Sleeping is the closest thing to being; not here. no-one can hurt you or ask anything of you. I have been there. It changes you forever. But just remember there is always something worth living for!

[pathofthetrickster]

It's taken me like about 20 years to realise I'm neurodivergent and looking back at my high-school it was the most stressful time. I didn't want to go in, I was having panic attacks in assemblies and not knowing why. And when I got into end of year assessments, I would do the same.... sleep. I didn't think I was depressed or I wasn't addicted to sleeping (addicted to gaming though) I was just so tired after classes I would nap every evening. I thought I had a physical problem making me so tired, bit now I realise it was my undiagnosed ADHD and mild autism

[julietteferrars]

I turned 21 last year and was supposed to be excited, but I actually fell into a heavy depression and couldn’t enjoy any of the celebrations. I still get surprised for some reason whenever I respond differently from the neurotypical people around me and have to remind myself that I am autistic and have a hard time with big things- whether happy or sad or stressful. Change and transitions are very difficult for me, so I need to give myself grace and compassion during those times. Thank you for sharing, Irene. ❤️

[lovebug]

Fate must have brought me here. I was looking into trading in my laptop to get something newer and after looking into it I noticed I had a sinking feeling. I realized it was happening for the same reasons you described. I'm also planning to move from a home I've lived for years and feeling the same feeling with that on a bigger scale. Thanks for sharing this. Appreciate your content and the effort it takes to make it!

[SunnySideUp]

11:27 i am at this point right now. after i graduated high school in 2021 i was severely burnt out because of how much i pushed myself to mask. i hit a breaking point. only lasted a month in a job, took a gap year, and since then i've been unemployed and just rotting away in my room. i tried to go to college last year but i didn't even last a semester. went right back to sleeping all day and just feeling numb all the time. i've reached this point you describe perfectly. nobody's going to come save me. no matter how much i dream, i am the only person who can get me out of this. and yet despite this, i am dealing with physical health issues that make it nearly impossible to work minimum wage jobs. i am on the job hunt again, my grandma helped me with a cover letter, and i have a patchy resume i'm trying to put together. it's hard. it's so hard teying to sell yourself when you are utterly convinced that you're incapable of doing anything. but this is a major change that i need to initiate, because if i don't i will rot here forever.

[truerelity]

thank you so much for this video. I'm going through a transition right now, and depression is knocking at the door. I'll be good after a week.

[jenthejen]

no need to apologize! take care of urself <3 thank u for turning it into a teaching moment

[ness.ness.]

thank you so much for this video! for nearly the past year I've been struggling with whether or not I'm autistic—im awful at trusting my gut instinct and so I'm really not sure. but what you said really did resonate with me. recently I've been dealing with a sort of transition/loss to do with one of my friends. the silly thing is it's not like we aren't friends anymore, but because of circumstances our dynamic has drastically changed in a short time. i didn't think to connect this to my recent low mood and inability to function, but it would actually make some sense! it's comforting to hear you say this won't last forever cos in my mind these things feel like they'll go on forever <3

[PigeonFeathersOvO]

Wow everything you said in this video is relatable. College fucked me up too and I’m in the process of trying to get myself out of that post-college burn out state. I recently finished college and have been taking time to figure things out during this transition period in my life. But seeing this video has given me some hope that I’ll get out of this rut eventually. I’m glad I watched this. Hopefully focusing on being creative will help me feel better again.

[montetiger]

Thankyou. I relate to your story so much. I had the exact same experience with depression, autism, adhd, alexytheima and severe-ish quadreplegic cerebral palsy which amplifies everything alot. Thanks 🧡

[corifriday]

Thank you so much for this. I am not officially diagnosed, but I've been doing a ton of research into autism these past couple years and I feel confident in saying I'm autistic and high functioning. I had a period of my life where I was in school and working full time, similar to you, and I look back and wonder how I ever managed that. I graduated from college recently and am in a weird transition period while waiting to take my board exams, and it feels like the depression I always distracted myself from is hitting full force. I feel constantly empty and like I always need to be productive, yet I never end up doing anything but sitting around because I feel paralyzed about doing anything that isn't productive (ironic I know). I manage to hit the gym several times a week and usually get my daily step count in, but thats about all I can handle. It comes with an immense amount of guilt; feeling like you are an inferior person for what you're going through. It really is insidious. I appreciate your words about just riding these waves when they come, instead of forcing yourself through it. Maybe I need to stop forcing myself. Thank you so much.❤

[JoULove]

My whole life I've described myself as average and felt like my life was just ordinary and nothing particularly bad ever happened (which is how it looks from the outside). Which meant that when I got burned out and depressed I couldn't figure out why.