Comedian explores dating and self-esteem as Asian-Australian man | Everyday Racism | ABC Australia

Korean-Australian comedian Harry Jun explores self-esteem in the dating world as an Asian-Australian man.

Animator: Harry Jun

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[dave-oh]

Wow! Asian male here also born and raised in Wollongong. Yep, dating is extremely hard. Spent most of my adult life single and lonely. I empathize with this.

[kreidas]

Definitely still happening to me as a Chinese American male as well. The problem is... these problems against Asian men don't stop at a certain age - this can be lifelong.

[jaderulz]

I’m Asian and grew up in Australia. I’d say 2/10 white Australian girls in High school found me attractive, better than 0 but not the greatest either. I’m in my 30s and don’t really date at all because I only get matched with Asian girls on dating apps who wants somebody rich. I’m a working class man with a working class wage so life is hard no matter the race.

[SaruulNewera]

I'm asian too and grew up in Hungary. I know the struggle and got that insults or typical stereotypical words from people around me, but i never gave up and now i have a beaitiful hungarian wife and we have a most beautiful baby girl in this world. So i would like to say, who ever having this kind of problems, pleas don't give up because you deserve better and finally YOU CAN DO THIS.

[samrouter]

Thanks for sharing your story. I am a Korean American and definitely share in your pain especially when I was in elementary, junior high and high school. ... things changed in college when I decided not to listen to those bad stereotypes of Asian male and just started talking to all female; white, black, Latin, and Asian with respect and confidence. I was amazed at how even the most beautiful girls had insecurities about themselves. They weren't that much different than me. We are all human beings at the end of the day. Now, I been married for 21 years now with my beautiful mexican american wife, 5 kids and 2 grandkids. Even after all these years, my wife is absolutely gorgeous like a latin model. I am thankful to God.

[Therizinosaurus]

As much as I hate Disney, I have to appreciate them for casting a full Asian to play as the main character in Shang Chi. It's usually either white washed, or half-White washed.

[brianhuang]

This is so true. White girls in Australia avoid Asian men. One of my colleague's friends literally said to me, "You are not my type but I believe there are some girls out there who do." It turned out that she was just polite and didn't want to hurt my feeling. The reality is you will see more white men dating Asian girls than Asian men dating a white girls. Don't believe me. You can go to a bar, pub, or club to test it out. This world is making me sick. These white girls despise me. Meanwhile, white Aussie men can date all kinds of girls, including Asian women. Could someone here please change the Asian image in Hollywood if you got the power? Thanks!

[bayanireimesy]

Thanks for sharing this bro much appreciated
Filipino American🇵🇭🇺🇲

[jasonlee]

In situations like this, asain parents aren't doing a great deal to help either. Tradition Asian culture usually raises young boys into what would be perceived in western cultures as beta male. This will get better generation by generation as more westernized Asians grow up and their kids will be raised while being more conditioned to western cultures.

[ninjapirate]

I'm 17 and I'm Asian, I can say a few girls find me attractive since I'm an introvert

[Joekool]

That explains why all my guy friends were single when they went to Australia.
The ladies on the other hand... plenty of dates.

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[Beaut_Beau]

The level of racism in Australia to this day is disgusting. I have an asian partner and i have seen a lot of "subtle" racism over the last 5 years where she will always get picked last for things, regularily gets ignored completely by staff at shops and cafes when we are out together, as though she is invisible. It makes me ashamed to be an Australian sometimes when i keep seeing this stuff day in and day out.

[aldysyahdeini]

I experience this too, especially in dating. I am single, but I am enjoying my life by breaking stereotypes with sport and becoming healthy. I am enjoying myself, but it would be great to have a companion of course.

[phengov]

yes I can relate to this, but grew up in new zealand, so if someone did like me I, I just couldn't believe they found me attractive. But I think it is still true in nz. Most asian men aren't seen as attractive here.

[sorenlorenson]

It must be so good to tell this story now and all those girls will hear about it and know how awful they were ! What an awful thing to do

[Doms-Chill]

Asian French here. Same story in France... But there is some execption of course

[HeatherLewis]

I'm Asian American and look down on Aussies who look down on Asian Aussies. If they came to Brooklyn, NY where I'm from and tried to be cool, everyone would just laugh at them as soon as they opened their mouth.

[johnbe]

Thank you for telling your story Harry. I'm sorry this is still happening in today's world. 😔

[Willthethrill]

Asian dude here grew up in US in 80s. looks are superficial, u get past that with your personality and character. No, I didn’t have have a “lot” girlfriends for the reasons u state. But there were a few amazing girls that saw thru that and liked me for me. Maybe it was the community I grew up in, but I was lucky. Someone will notice u for who u are, give it a chance.

[dadada]

I would have excluded myself from that list from the beginning.