Top 8 Questions You Should NEVER Ask A Guy

You can’t get to know someone without asking questions. But did you know that there are some questions that will actually drive guys away? That’s because they reveal things about yourself that are red flags. They can make you look jealous, possessive, or cruel, no matter what your intentions are. Then there are the questions that you don’t want to know the answer to. I’m going to tell you all the questions you should never ask a guy you like, if you want him to like you too.

Hi, I’m Amy North. You may have seen a couple or twenty of my videos about dating. I’ve been here on Youtube for years, giving women the advice they need to land the guys they want and keep them interested. And I’ve found a pattern. There are a few questions that turn guys off completely and make them run the other way.

These 8 questions are a mix of ones that you shouldn’t ask guys you barely know, have just started seeing, or are in a relationship with. You won’t expect number eight.

First off “Am I prettier than blank”

You’ve heard it a million times: you shouldn’t compare yourself to other people. You also shouldn’t ask your boyfriend to. You’re putting him in a weird position.

Remember, there are women out there that are pretty for a living. But he’s chosen to be with you.

You know he’s attracted to you. Let that be enough.

It stinks of desperation and low self esteem. Any guy who is worth having around will say you’re prettier than any supermodel but a smart guy will also see that question for what it is: insecurity.

TWO: Would you still love me if . . .?

Obviously if love is on the table this is a relationship you’re pretty invested in. You feel comfortable together and so you’re wanting to dive deeper into the limits of his love. STOP. Asking hypothetical questions is asking for disaster.

Don’t get all bent out of shape about something that’s not real. Focus on what’s real and right in front of your face.

Plus, it doesn’t really matter what he answers here. He can say that he’d still love you if you were 700 pounds, a serial killer, or stole his identity. It’s not going to make you feel better. All you’ve done is make yourself look insecure and put doubts in his head. Instead, ask yourself why you’re worried about these things. You might be surprised by the answer.

THREE: Why didn’t you call me?

So you’ve been on a couple good dates and he said he’d call you but he hasn’t. You let it stew for a few days, then a week. Eventually you can’t take it anymore and you send a text like this

“why didn’t you call me?”

But to him, it looks like THIS:

“WHY DIDN’T YOU CALL ME!?”

Big mistake. You need to look at it from his perspective. Even if you don’t mean it this way, it can seem pretty accusatory. If he’s on the fence, this might be all it takes to scare him off. Sometimes people just get busy. You don’t want him to think you’ve just been waiting by the phone (even if you have).

FOUR: How many people have you been with?

This one isn’t necessarily off limits. It’s fine for couples to talk about their sexual histories. It can even be a fun, sexy way to get to know one another. But you need to make sure that it’s something you want to know. Plenty of women I know have had their world rocked by a guy revealing he’s had sex with way more women than they thought, or way less.

Think about how you’d feel if you found out that he’d only been with one other person before you. Or what if he says he’s been with a hundred women? If either of these ideas freak you out, then maybe hold off on this question. Also, make sure you’re prepared to answer this question if he asks it.

The truth is sex isn’t a numbers game at all, but for some people, numbers can be a turnoff—especially those of us who hate math,

FIVE: Do you believe in soul mates?

This one can be stickier than you’d think. I’ve seen some pretty big fights over the idea of “true love” and it’s just sad.

True love, soulmates and fate mean different things to different people. His answer to this question says more about his own personal worldview than it does about his feelings towards you.

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[datingcoachryanpatrick]

Great questions, Amy. I'd love to add one more to the mix that hovers around #8 "Who Is She?" And that question is *"Why were you looking at her?"* Even in a committed relationships, your man is going to look at other women. Trust me, he doesn't expect you to not look at other men. He's chosen you, so embrace that rather than any lingering insecurities you may have. If you wanted to flip this situation into a positive, you can say "She was cute" and wink at him. That will be a turn-on for him because it says you are secure and confident in the relationship.

[Gayatrisasexed]

Dating is hardest thing i guess i have ever done but thanks amy

[ElenaKomleva]

Umm do women really ask these questions?? Except "where is this going" I think it is an important question to be clear on and to not waste each other's time!

[ElenaKomleva]

If he doesn't call you he is just not that into you!

[pamelar]

I dislike being asked why my ex and I broke up, at least early on in getting to know someone.

[adj]

Ladies please ignore her on 'do you watch porn' question. You must absolutely ask this!! You may have an addict on your hands and if you end up marrying them, your marriage is doomed. Ladies you MUST absolutely ask this question.

[dashiajames]

Honestly, I wouldn't mind any guy asking me these questions. I'll just tell them the actual truth.

[trn]

As a guy, none of these questions would offend me

[lifestoryguy]

Speaking as a man, one of the other questions you might want to avoid asking a man is how much do you earn or any questions along those lines. I know women want a guy to have a job and be financially stable etc, but a lot of men might interpret such a question as you being only willing to date him if he's got a certain level of income. I know, sad, isn't it? There are three things a lot of men are insecure about when attracting women 1) are we good-looking enough? 2) do we make enough money? 3) is our job or lifestyle high-status enough? These three questions in men's minds are underpinned by our knowledge and understanding of hypergamy. I mean as men we keep hearing reports that once a woman we are in a relationship with earns more than us she starts to lose attraction for us and is likely to leave us. So, the money thing for guys isn't about material wealth but more about whether or not you find us more or less attractive enough to stick around.

To try to give you a greater insight into the male mind and understand our anxieties around money and women, here's an example of a real-life scenario of two different men with different lifestyles and financial histories which highlights the underlying anxiety men face. For us guys out there, it would be great if you could comment on who you think is more attractive to you Man A or Man B as it might alleviate some men's fears about women and may lead to us approaching you more. I mean, many guys rule themselves out of approaching you because they think you wouldn't want to talk to them because you earn more money than them. So read the example and leave a reply.

Man A has no debt and paid off his mortgage at an early age and currently invests his money into the stock market so he can achieve financial freedom and go travelling around the world. Unfortunately, Man A has a low-status job and despite being financially stable and debt-free only earns around the same level of income of someone on the minimum wage.

Man B, on the other hand, earns twice what Man A earns and even has a high-status job. Unfortunately, Man B still has 15 years to go on his mortgage, has alimony to pay and a credit card bill that will take a year for him to pay off.

Both men have secure jobs with good pensions. But if there is a financial crisis or a recession, Man B may struggle to keep up with his financial commitments. Meanwhile, because he has no debt and no mortgage, Man A could afford to drop almost half his current working hours should his employer need to cut his hours during a recession.

So ladies which man is more attractive to you Man A who has a smaller income but greater financial stability and knowledge or Man B who has a greater income and higher status but also more financial liabilities.

[samirahabibi]

I asked #7 a few months after we started dating and I didn’t get A straight answer. So from there on I didn’t put much effort into the relationship as I did before I asked because he wasn’t putting effort. At least not what I expected from him

[canilynamendoza]

"Would you still love me if i had no legs?"

[Taisiedoll]

A question I hate: When am I going to see you again?.. It's like: when you ask me on a date and I'm free maybe????!!!

[MrGyftario]

Every single one, man, looks at porn.
I hope i helped here.
No second thougts, please

[mireyaluna]

I dislike when people ask me about my body. I mean we're friends on Facebook or real life why do you ask that, you know me already. And More when they ask about my breast (because I have a little bit too much), I think it's rude

[macvtv]

Where are you going? Ugh I hate that. Especially when it's Everytime I get dressed or something

[ryandeffley]

Do girls actually ask personal questions? I date a lot of women and honestly don't remember the last time one asked about more than how my day was or work.

I've had enough sex to last me three lifetimes. But what I truly long for is actual connection. A woman that cares enough to dig below the surface and get to know me.

In 2020 I decided to try a social experiment. If a girl doesn't ask me any personal questions on a first date, I don't sleep with her.

I met up with one girl per week for three months Jan-Mar. They all flirted, bantered, and expressed sexual interest. But..NOT ONE asked me anything. Not even an obligatory "What about you?" as a follow up to questions I'd ask. This is the first year in 20 years I've been celibate. LMAO

[itzspinika]

What if the question is from that one trend when people asked "Would you still love me if one day I turned into a worm? "

[aliezthiervoncarstein]

I am a guy, preatty much this questions can be asked with no problem, they just seems kinda awkward and really depend on the situation

[jaimelannister]

Y’all are overthinking this. As a guy these questions all seem reasonable to ask except for the porn one, because you already know the answer lmao

[h.aydacapinoglu]

I've only asked number 4 before and I was okay with hearing and answering. But, guys seem to freak out with this question!