How To Ask For What You Want

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[gez]

I get so nervous doing this because I don't want the other person to feel pressured or ashamed. I care too much of how people feel and potentially make things tense and hard for them 😅😅

But I need to change this and adopt this approach. Thank you 🙏🏾

[tltarzan]

I hardly ask for myself... I always concerned of others feelings... I m trying now to take care of myself ...

[camez]

LOL the long, unclear version -- it's like a transcription of my life!

[ct_]

May you have the courage to be who you are! and to know on a deep level, that you're awesome ☺️

[thehobbit]

There is a story about a guy who falls in a hole. The local priest walks by the guy calls out" Father can you help me"the priest writes a prayer and tosses it down. A lawyer comes by same thing tosses his business card walks away. The teacher or friend stops by sees the guy in the hole jumps in. The guy says "You idiot now you are stuck too" The teacher smiles and says "yes but I have been here before and I know the way out." That's what I got out of this. I also bought your book on social anxiety. I am a high school science teacher at an alternative high school your knowledge is helping me be better and help others." So shines a good deed in a weary world" -Willie

[brianingram]

Thank you Dr. Aziz for all you do & your priceless advice! Your like the father I never had! I'm going to join your website so that my life can change for the better. Please, Never stop making these videos and God bless you!

[brilliantwriter]

Dr. aziz,

Last year, I would crumble at the thought of someone disliking me. I would ruminate & wonder more than I'd like to admit. I spent many nights crying and reading about how to overcome my low sense of self worth. Nothing worked, and if it did, it never lasted long enough until I was back in the spiral of I felt mentally exhausted. I felt guilt, shame, I felt like a child being reprimanded for doing something wrong. As the months and almost 2 years went by, im at a different place now. I realized that, there is power in "ignoring" things that ill never understand, also learning not to put myself down when others do. That's pointless and a lack of self love. I've learned to continue to live my life happily even when faced with adversity, because I can't just stop when things go wrong. I'm not responsible for how others feel all the time. Especially when 🤔 I did nothing wrong and if I did, I would most certainly apologize. I'm not going out of my way to get approval or "be nice" to people who don't deserve my kindness. Im happy to be me, even if its not good enough for someone else, even if people have the wrong impression of me, it's better to ignore it and keep living without getting caught up in "why." I love me & that means, taking care of me.... OMOS ❤ 🤍 💙 I am enough, I am deserving and I am perfectly me. I think I am more likable when I'm me anyway and not succumbing to the ideals of others, if I continue to stay true to who I am, who knows maybe they'll realize they were wrong about me after all and even if they don't its doesn't matter because I know my worth.

Thanks

[I'm not living my life for others, I dont need to prove myself to anyone, im not a child, im an adult and I don't need to sulk at the sight of uncomfortableness, my beliefs are good enough for me, I can think for myself now, I can set boundaries and be my own person. I dont need to feel reprimanded when disapproval knocks at my front door]

I'm taking care of myself now. Focusing on the things I like to do. You are to thank 🙏 for such big accomplishments in my life. 50/50 because I had to do alot of work lol. Also, facing my fears, like looking at people when I walk and saying hello, not worrying about the outcome just forcing myself to do the things that make me uncomfortable until they become easy.

I avoided eye contact, because I've had people tell me some pretty harsh things about my eyes. Since then I was always afraid of intimidating others by looking at them, I felt that maybe id make them uncomfortable like all the others. I think what people have said about me, really hurt me and my ego, my sense of self was lost for a long time, i felt I was carrying it with me for so long, I thought that most people would think the same about me and even when someone dislikes me it reminds me of all those people who bullied me but im strong now. I hope to find others who dont think such negative things about me & I know they are out there, somewhere lol... I refuse to not be confident anymore because of a few bad apples I've encountered on my journey. Im sure there will be many more but I know there's many good as well.

Also, the thing about being direct. Its hard to feel bad when you get rejected for something you ask for. Especially when you know going into it, you have two options. A yes or a no. So it's just taking the chance, which is totally worth it, considering our lives are so short. Might as well make it worth while and ask for what you want while your alive and be able to do.something with it and take your chances. Because wh en you're gone you have 0. Atleast when your alive you have 50/50. Life is a pleasurable experience and should be lived with great urgency and excitement daily.

I sometimes think about how insignifcant we are, how our thoughts and worries spent are a waste of precious time that we are running out of daily. That our worries are so minute but still significant somehow lol... they shouldn't be. We must be mindful of the life we have while we have it and enjoy every day. Even something as simple as reading a book with our children or taking a walk and enjoying nature with a loved one, taking in the 5 senses. Ugh im so full of

Take care!

[rohankademani]

I just wanna comment on all ur videos just to let u know how cool ur and how u change the lives of many ppl tnx a lot

[JoeScharnweber]

Awesome video! Looks like your links in your video description do not work! Just FYI!

[GavinoGotIt]

I have to tell you, Doc, you're changing my life right now. ✅ God bless! 🙌 🙏 I needed this forever, man! :)

[rubikscube]

Can you distinguish when we should just “tell” people what we want vs “ask” for what we want? I sometimes get confused between just telling people straight up what I’m going to do VS feeling that I need their permission

[rxjo]

Just found this channel. So glad for the information. I'm going to try some of this.

[lufgx]

Hey aziz, could u make a video on the more skill side of having good conversations, i can get myself to speak up just feel like i say the wrong thing and get a awkward vibe back after asking something

[tanyag]

The first scenario is exactly how I often talk! Your reenactment makes it more much easier to understand than reading any books. Thank you so much for doing this! Not looking a person in the eye does look weird and is more noticeable that I imagined. The dragged out explanation is rather irritating, don't think it helps with convincing. And really shows up the lack of confidence. Sucks to see this(( I guess my motivation was to be more pleasant and kind and explain all the reasons I am asking for something. Also I think being overly sensitive to being confronted myself I assume the other people have equally hard time with this. But for the majority it's not the case. I will definitely try to keep it brief and clear.

[hotdogflavoureddrink]

Hey Dr Aziz, thanks for another great video. I wanted to ask you about something that you have dealt with in the past. I'm at a point where I feel like giving up because something is wrong with me that just can't be fixed. My confidence is really low and any progress I make is only (very late) catchup. What would you suggest? Thanks.

[Issac]

7:30 took the words out of my brain! Thanks for the acronym, keep it ssc is a lot easier to remember in the moment than some big theory.

[nikielxxx]

Yeah thats the way this video is made.
Long intro, short example, “advertizing-merchendizing “ visit my website - outro

[georgehiggins]

I was going to try to call a friend last Saturday who had agreed to doing that a few days before. When I texted them Saturday morning they were telling me they were busy and they seemed very terse. They are a very open person but it seems like they're only super open when they're feeling good. They clam up when they're either upset or thinking about slightly deeper things. This Sunday, I'm going to ask them to communicate with me more and tell me straight up when something is bothering them.

[joetomanek]

I'm reading "Not Nice" right now. Only 5 chapters in, but really enjoying the read.

[goptty]

From watching all your videos it seems like you were an introverted kid with all these problems and once you grew up you decided to study psychology and figure all this out and become a psychologist and now you helping all of us.
as a side note - I can see your nipples poking out your shirt and they keep on distracting from the content, im totally straight though. Nice video btw precise effective and to the point