How 'THE BUTTON' dating show exposes our human nature

How "THE BUTTON" dating show reveals our human nature

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[sebastianmothelet]

this show is like going to a pet store and youre judging all of the pets, to see which one you're actually gonna get, but the pets start judging you 💀

[sarahsinn]

The girl that kept saying sorry while pressing the button continuously annoyed the absolute hell out of me. I just can’t understand how she was able to look that man in the eyes while pressing the button, knowing damn well that he knew she wasn’t sorry. It’s like she was literally oblivious to the fact that the button was CLEARLY not working. AND SHE KEPT PRESSING IT.

[jayciflashx]

In MY honest opinion, this show isn’t even about dating its about who can reject who the fastest 😭😭 LOLL

[Ariel_is_a_dreamer]

Honestly, the most shallow person I ever met was my gen X mother. To her, if someone went to the gym they were dumb. If someone liked clothes they were frivolous. If someone likes studying they can't like going out with friends. It was almost as if she judged people based on 80's movie character tropes, I swear, I couldn't make that up.

[ki]

I think this show would be a lot more interesting if instead of your date leaving when you hit the button, you leave. This makes it so the contestants have a reason to not click the button.

[aura]

there’s nothing wrong with having standards, it’s just how polite and reasonable you are about it.

I see so many men whine about not wanting unfit women, I see so many women whine about not wanting short men...so on and so on.

Like okay? there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. There’s nothing wrong with knowing what you want! That’s great, I’m glad you know what will make you happy…But maybe just KEEP IT TO YOURSELF and don’t degrade people who don’t fit your standards.

Just politely decline and move on—and remember that YOU ARE NOT SUPERIOR TO ANYONE

[atomyves]

honestly idk how anybody can have the kind of confidence to go on these shows where not only do the other people in the show tell you EVERYTHING they think about you, but after the fact millions will pick apart your appearance and behavior. not for me 💀

[tevinanarchy]

The blindfolded episode really showed that even if they’re not judging based on looks they’re still judging as strong.

[W.E.M.L]

The chick pressing the button while saying sorry and that guy who told the girl "she wasn't cute" irk me into oblivion
Like people are that shitty with no shame💀

[jactober]

Remember when during a dating game a woman actually won a date with a serial killer (she didn’t know he was a killer neither did anyone else) and she ended up not going because she got a really weird and creepy vibe / feeling. 🥴

[ngxjqhw]

Reminds me of the time I rejected a guy and then he started claiming he never liked me and I was the desperate one . People always want to the the one to leave / reject you .

[jaceyemerald]

I took a relationship psychology class in college and one of my favorite quotes from the professor was something like, "If you are dating someone, but still toying with the idea that there could be a 10 out there for you - someone more perfect - stop it. No one is perfect and, if there was someone perfect out there, what makes you think that they would want you too?" She was a marriage and family therapist and she brought up the fact that she'd had DOZENS of younger clients who came in with the issue of having settled down, but still lingering on the idea that they could have done better. Usually the person thinking that way also was the one putting in the least amount of work into the relationship. The semester as a whole was incredible, but that class in particular absolutely reshaped how I thought about dating and relationships and I wish that that kind of class was required for everyone. I've applied the things that I learned that semester to every single relationship (not just romantic relationships) ever since.

[MBIA]

Idk if anyone pointed that out, but the lesbian episode has a completely different vibe imo. The rejected women actually ask the reason why they got rejected and overall the participants seem to be much kinder to each other than in the mixed gender episodes

[ash-is-napping]

Fear of rejection is so bad that we reject before we can be rejected.

[marissabulso]

If you press the button first, maybe you should have to leave. No next option. The person you reject gets the next option. Your participation is over.

[strawberryfox]

As a 20 year old lesbian who only realized I'm gay at 18 and suffered from too much social anxiety to date before that, I have zero dating experience. So I agree, there's a real pressure to be in a relationship because how dare you be content by yourself? And I have no idea how to even enter the dating market, nor if I actually want to and not just leave it up to chance. It's just disheartening.

[jenm]

Not only are “unattractive” people not worthy of their time romantically, but imo, we also see these people as subhuman. This is how I see “unattractive” people being treated.

[cardinalsin.]

People want someone who is "perfect, " and at the first flaw they see in a person they run thinking the next best thing will be better. There is no better, you just need someone who sticks with you through it all.

[SteviiLove]

Something more people need to keep in mind when dating is that your first impression doesn't mean ANYTHING. This isn't just for dating either but can be really helpful. My mom has learned this as an employer.
Give people a few chances before making up your mind on them because people never show their true colors right away; they wait till they're more comfortable.