Question 45: Is it adultery to marry a divorcee?

Michael Pearl answers a question from a reader: Does the Bible say that a man who marries a divorced woman is committing adultery?

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[joek]

Well done. My wife and I were together 32 years, 3 children. I had a reason to divorce, about our 3rd year. I caught her red handed with another man in our home, clothing coming off. No argument what was going to happen, plain as the nose on your face. We, with the help of God, worked through it, and all the problems common to a marriage. She passed away a year ago. I do not see another woman in my life. Till death do us part, I'm only half way there, my other half is with the Lord. When I die, I will be as she is. for in Heaven they neither marry or are given in marriage. When I die our marriage ends. She was the best gift God ever gave me

[cattotengee]

I have no plan to marry, i enjoy my life with Christ Jesus.

[gaylechristensen]

I actually had a church tell me I should leave my current husband and go back to the husband that had given me 11 broken bones and shot me twice. How on earth do these churches get it so twisted??? I'm pretty sure that my divorce was warranted. Shalom!!

[bryanpratt]

I married a divorced woman when I was Mormon. I left that religion. We divorced after that. So now I am a divorced person. I could stay single if that's what God wants. I've surrendered all my will and only care for God's will.

[holywarriorforthekingdom]

I was very lost fresh out of leaving my foster home at age 18. I had no guidance, parents, anyone that loved me. Alcoholic. Married an older man just as lost and hurt as I was. He was a meth, pill and alcohol user. He abused me heavily. Wouldn't let me leave. I got pregnant. Married. More abuse. He wouldn't work. Just got high and lied. I had to work and put my child in daycare while he ran around. I finally left. Spirit broken. Of course, my life was cursed. Next few years was horrible hell. I was a very rebellious, broken, violent, adulterous woman. I didnt know God, nor did I believe in Him. In and out of jail. I was placed next door to a Holy Spirit filled lady. She prayed for my boyfriend and I. We were set free by the power of Jesus Christ 6 months later. We were still in bondage. Still rebellious but He was chastising us. I got pregnant. I had already given one child up for adoption. My boyfriend was dangerous. That was the deepest point of repentance I ever reached. I truly repented and cried out to Abba. He answered my prayer. He put my boyfriend in jail for a few months thus he finally got sober for the first time since he was 11. I was safe and he provided for me. I continued in seeking Him and repentence. He did such a deep work in us both. Boyfriend got out of jail. I depended solely on prayer. I witnessed abba protecting, providing, rejoicing. We had nothing. He provided us everything and made it clear he did. I had been trying to get a divorce for years and it never would happen. I got a divorce in three weeks. And we got married and truly it was all provided by Abba. It was glorious. He blessed us. Because we believed and repented. We received several deliverances. Many spirits many many were cast from us. Now, we know peace for the first time ever. We are 34 and 32. We are truly blessed and walk in truth before the Father. Jesus set us free.

[theman-mo]

Well, I listened to your answer to the question and frankly, there are lots of contradictions in your answers. I will just mention one, you said that the divorced man is free to marry a virgin, but its clearly written in 1st Corinth 7:10-11, a divorced spouse should remain unmarried or be reconciled. How can they be reconciled if the man can remarry a virgin? That's only possible if the wife be dead.

Secondly, Apostle Paul never gave a permission to remarry in case of abandonment as you said in verse 14 of the same book. If that were the case, he he would not have said in verse 39 that the woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives, but if she dies, she is free to marry whosoever she wishes only in the Lord.

If indeed, Apostle Paul gave another reason for remarriage, he would be contradicting Jesus Christ in Matt. 5:32.

May the Spirit of God give us correct insight into the true meaning of his word.

[donshort]

Jesus said whosever looks upon a woman with lust in his heart has already committed adultery.

[garymurch]

What I’m hearing is that if you are too weak to control your lustful desires, that it’s better to follow Moses and Paul rather than do God’s will?
Is marriage only about the sex??
Whatever happened to bringing your weakness to God and asking Him for help?
Ask yourself, are you truly repentant?
Of course it is not easy and we will stumble.
God’s design is holy. He loves us and I’m sure it grieves him to see us suffer. But he is not the author of our suffering - we are, by not living according to His will.
So, yes, there are provisions and thankfully the greatest one is Jesus Christ!
Think and bring all your concerns to Jesus before acting and wait for Him to speak to your heart. You will have shalom.

[jacklatham]

Adultery is not the unforgivable sin. Christ' blood erases sin upon repentance.

[m.m]

Thank you. I am glad I was lead here to you.
All blessings to you and everyone that visits here

[melvinnclarissamartin]

Mike has a lot of good advice, but when he gets into 1 Cor. 7 in this video, he falls short. In verse 10-11 God clearly says a departed wife is to remain unmarried to leave the door open for reconciliation. Verse 39 clearly says a wife is free to remarry ONLY once her husband is dead. This teaching is in tune with the rest of the New Covenant, and there is nothing contradicting this. While it's not so strongly expressed toward men, the same teaching is 100% true for men. Divorce happens, but no where is that grounds for remarriage, except under Moses and stiff necked people. To allow an exception for remarriage, brings about many divorces. Statistics show that couples that stick it out through tough times will likely have a good marriage some day. The only way to face marriage is 'Till death do we part.'

[earlhutchison]

Very loving answer for many who worry, that should not, in the Lord.

[camc]

I have not been Divorced but I like his thoroughness on answering questions biblically. I am now a subscriber! Keep up the good work.

[Sebastianx]

All I see in the comments is a bunch of confused people, having a partner is not the most important thing in life I pray everyone of you find peace in Jesus amen

[kylesanders]

I always wanted to be married just never was blessed with a faithful woman yet I am 47 years old and it seems like here where I live there just aren't any faithful woman are God just don't want me to get married

[ashermarcus]

I am sorry sir but you used an incorrect example of how God is a divorcee. God did not divorce Israel because His original plan was to save entire mankind and Israel was his vessel. He never divorced Israel because he still wants the Jewish people to come to our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. I enjoy your teachings but this divorcee example with God was way off with all due respect sir.

[rfg]

Michael you are truly something. Thank you for your work with your channel. You are an excellent bible scholar, grounded in the Word, but you manage so well to bridge the Word to the human flesh. And in a very clear way. I'm so grateful, and truly humbled. Thank you.

[GC-msdj]

“Replacement Theology” is a lie (in response to his statement at 1:35). If you believe God has replaced His covenants with Israel with covenants with the Christian Church, you are calling God a liar. God doesn’t lie, He is unchangeable. All of His covenants stand, both with Israel, and with His Christian Bride. He is working out His plan with Israel to bring them to salvation. Revelations deals with the Jewish people in a final act to bring them to salvation.

[scriptmaster]

people get so legalistic about this subject yet say sin is sin is sin on everything else...

[dannyharden]

For what two people that God has put together let no man put asunder. The problem with the majority of marriages God never put them together.