He Gave Me Herpes! . . . (Forgive Him?)

He Gave Me Herpes! . . . (Forgive Him?)

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[bitty]

Just because you forgive somebody doesn't mean you have to invite them back into your life

[kennyBee]

I worked in ob/gyn and to anyone with it, here's a message. It is far more common than you think, you are not alone. There are meds you can take that supress it so you don't have amy flare ups. It will not stop you from having a love life and a partner, just be honest with your partner and be safe. As a side note though, it can be asymptomatic, espceially in men. That's a big way that it accidentally spreads, so be aware of that.

[invisionanimations]

Most people dont realize forgiveness isnt for them its for you❤

[bridgetmcguire]

My now husband gave me herpes when we were dating. He never had an outbreak. He never knew he had it. And my life hasn’t been ruined because of it. It’s not a death sentence, it’s extremely common and we need to remove the stigma.

[Howler]

Honestly whether he knew or not its over. She said it herself she wants to punish him for life. Whether she realizes or not she is training herself to take him back so she can punish him. She will always throw it at him, changing any healthy relationship in the trash every time she randomly brings it up.

[counterculturevulture]

As a person who got genital herpes from a cold sore, i was so hurt for so long. Until i found out that oral herpes is incredibly common and most people don't even know they have it. So yeah, i have to deal with it forever, but I told my husband when we were dating and he knew full disclosure of what he was getting into. Just celebrated our 17th anniversary.

[Derseffect]

During my senior year of college my fiancee told me her doctor told her she had herpes. I tested negative and we never messed around during an outbreak. We were married 10 years and she gave me 3 kids. It’s not a death sentence

[KarenBurton-rt]

Forgiveness is not for the transgressors it is for the heart and soul of oneself, the offended. It is forgiveness that brings one, you, me, and others closer to God.

[heavenawaits]

I'm astounded with the amount of people in the comments that don't understand that there is a difference in HSV 1 & 2😮😮😮

[crystalenergy]

Don't ever let a guy go down on you with a cold sore on their

[clarkkent]

"holding onto bitterness and unforgiveness is like drinking poison and hoping that it hurts the other person" (it only hurts you)

[NsTheName]

Forgiveness is for you. Forgiveness is peace for your heart. No longer giving that pain place in your life. But it’s ok if you’re not ready yet. Pain isn’t usually rational like that. But when you are, forgiving him will free you.

[Sidera]

My ex husband gave me HSV-1 from kissing me. He didn't know he had it. Not only did I develop HSV-1 orally, but I developed a rare complication where it broke a part of my immune system like HIV does. I became sick with all sorts of long term fungal infections, viruses reactivated, brain inflammation, etc. It also covered my face and gave me autoimmune skin issues that were temporarily disfiguring. It's basically like long-hauling HSV-1. I was in and out of both hospitals and psych wards because doctors could not believe it was a real disease.

It completely disabled me for life at 30.

We got married and he became my caregiver. I think I couldn't forgive him because I felt so trapped. I was financially dependent. I could not leave him because I'd lose my caregiving, the thought of dating again with both a disability and herpes was horrifying. He hated being a caregiver and started to resent me. for "ruining his life.". We grew distant. Then he abused me until I left.

I now live alone, in poverty, still sick, and have to be super cautious of COVID as well because it could kill me. I haven't been touched by another person in 7 years. I'm actually afraid I'm going to die because I can't get medical care.

I eventually forgave my ex for the accidental infection but it took years of being apart. What I can't forgive him for was abandoning responsibility for me as a husband in my time of disability but yet he was partly responsible for it.

I know how angry you are and I am so sorry. I think unless you deeply are in love with him and committed to him, you should walk away. If you are the type of person who holds on to resentments moreso, it will be like a cancer in the relationship, or even a "I have to make this work or nobody else will have me" vibe. Imagine building a life with someone where this giant wedge is always there. He will feel it too and may react in different ways.

I hope you are okay.

[thayah]

Groundbreaking information would be: Did he know he had it or not?
If he knew, he can f off
If he didn't, then that royally sucks for both

[nikolaidrago]

Poor woman. I hope that she understands that this doesn't diminish her worth in any way.

[barliegirl]

My husband had this. We worked it out. I’ve never had this in 40 years. He was responsible. I’m sorry honey

[BebbaDubbs]

It's common but reactions like this make people too ashamed to know that.

[Asiliea]

We need to teach people that forgiveness is for yourself.
Forgiveness is letting go of the hate, anger, self-doubt, and overall negativity.
*_IT DOES NOT_* relieve the other of their responsibility or punishment.
Forgiveness gives you peace of mind so that what upsets you doesn't control you.

[marywoodnc]

It’s not maliciousness to have a cold sore. One in six people have HSV-1 and one in twenty have HSV-2. He never meant to hurt you. I was in the same place and I finally accepted that he didn’t try to hurt me. It sucks to have herpes, but that’s life here on planet earth. Pathogens happen.

[taurus_says_hi]

There should be BETTER education so people can avoid this. I feel so sorry for her.