The Dating Debate: Who Should Pay on a Date?

This video answers the question: Who should pay on a date? The man? The woman? Or split the bill?

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[annc]

I've always been mindful of the price of meals - going for the cheapest one - just encase I was asked to "go dutch". Married now - over 30 years. He pays for everything - but we tend to split one meal & one appetizer between us. I always say "thank you for this night out" in the car as we drive away. Sure, we're married - but a woman should never be ungrateful for those times her man makes her life easier and more pleasant. Acknowledge it - every time for as long as you are together.

[coloradomark]

Women are always strong and independent until the restaurant bill comes at which point they become very traditional. They know how to play the game.

[dermotosullivan]

I am in my late 50s. This may differ depending on where you live but I found that the best, most sincerest women I dated always offered to share bills.

[davidchester]

I think if its a first date, if they want equality you can't pick and choose. It's a reflection of the value of your time. I wish things were traditional but they aren't anymore

[michdico]

She should offer to contribute financially at some point. Dinners can be iffy as many women expect the man to pay. Here's a good test that's worked for me: suggest a weekend getaway where you need a hotel for 2-3 nights, estimate a cost for food and other activities. Then ask her how much she can contribute to the getaway. If she doesn't offer to pay, then she's not worth it.

[SavageOrlandoFlorida]

If a woman values you and likes you, she will contribute financially. If she doesn't, it's just a transaction at that point. Many women will date a man for money and not who he is as a person.

[anonymous_person_smith]

I don't understand why I should pay to just get rejected or shut down after a few dates. It's like I'm paying for my own destruction.

[robjuhasz]

I went on the 3 date thing too, she never offered to pay. The first date was$160, the bonus was that date ended at the casino and I won $140 so it wasn’t so bad. Never called her again. I have female friends who are all 6 figure women, they’re always fair with the bill.

[primaprimavera]

Eastern European men would never allow women to pay, but in North America its different…

[drduckymd]

Guys should not be paying anymore. Its split or quit. Why would you pay for a date when this woman you’re dating is probably seeing other guys, possibly sleeping with them at the same time she’s with you?

[jaxman]

Thanks for your video Rich. Last girl I dated I paid for everything. (I guess it's ingrained in me and I don't mind). At some point however, I do expect some sort of reciprocation. She had her own business and lived on the river in a nice house. We dated for 10 months. Whenever we went out, If I was paying, she was all about that. It came to the point that I needed to make a decision to continue seeing her or move on. So I did some investigating of my own. She hadn't paid taxes on 3 of her pieces of property she owned and they were going up for auction. The house needed a new roof. Her car needed to be replaced. She needed a new bulkhead at the riverfront. Over that time I found that she paid for trips for her and her girlfriends to go out of town. Paid her lazy sons child support, and bills who wouldn't work, lived at home, and was an alcoholic. You really need to do your homework on these people and find out what is in it for you.

[grahamashe]

Unfortunately, most guys in relationships are paying for most things AND STILL being treated like dirt or close to it.

[rn]

There are plenty of women out there these days thyare just foodie girls. Rich is right about one thing is that they will break rules for you If they’re really into you. In my opinion I think the early stages of a relationship should be a low investment…its the time to get to know one another and the greatest gift you can give somebody is your time so make them earn it.

[robertbeckhamalways_explor]

I like this girl, and I’ve taken her out on three dates but she won’t take her wallet out. “That’s pretty much most women.” Fell over laughing, SO TRUE

[mrca]

We live in a world where women and men (can) earn equally. If she holds onto traditional financial standards then she needs to be doing other traditional things for you. I don't see much value in those other traditional things (or can get it covered for cheap), so I look for a woman that will pay. I'm not buying her time/presence.

[AnonDa]

The correct answer for 1st date is... bill comes, girl offers to split, man says no and pays 100%.

If she doesnt offer, shes gone 🚩

[lipinglin]

My girlfriend pay on some dates. She is willing to make contribution to our relationship. That is how a good long term relationship should go.

[JSteve]

Most things in life are transactional. So for the first few dates, I’d keep it reasonable and I would always pay. But after a few dates, she has to be giving back in other areas: cooking, cleaning, running an errand, in the bedroom, etc..

[DewTime]

Hard disagree. It makes perfect sense to pay if she doesn’t make as much as you do. Since she makes just as much, it makes a NO sense to always pay for her.

Also why were you too afraid to admit that when you say you expect her to reciprocate you’re expecting her to fulfill your sexual desires?

[LatimusChadimus]

Feminism isn't about equality, it's about dominance. It is kind of interesting though that they will cry and complain that if a guy pays for everything then he's entitled to expect something from her so why wouldn't she try to pay to avoid something that she doesn't want to take part in 😅