How to Outsmart Sour Self Doubt | Mel Robbins

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Breaking news: Imposter Syndrome is normal, and it's actually a very good sign. Feeling like a 'fraud' usually means you are pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone, which is the only way to accomplish the things that matter to you. So, how do you go from being totally uncomfortable and doubting yourself every step of the way to feeling confident in a new job, starting a new business, or doing anything unfamiliar?

Consistent action, over and over, not expecting to ever feel like it, and trusting that with every small action you are building and refining the muscle of confidence.

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[marggil.torresalvillar]

"Take action anyway", my new motto

[mb]

It’s really difficult to take action when you’re nervous 😢

[sophiek]

"Feeling nervous is normal, letting it stop you is a choice". Awesome! My fresh new year resolution: watch all your videos again (and those I've missed) and keep notes. It's gonna be a great self-grownth notebook! Thank you!

[peggygleason]

This was great! Despite numerous degrees and experience, my own self doubt and lack of confidence has always made me feel like an imposter. I wonder why sometimes we don't feel deserving?

[vusumuzimguni]

My life has changed through listening to Mel.... I dont know how I can thank you Mel!

[rajivnayan]

I am good enough
I am ready
Take action anyway

[SaschaRissling]

Amazing, thank you! Our brains are stupid. And we have to fight our stupidity.

6 weeks ago i said to myself i‘m going to run 5k in 8 weeks. So far i have done 16 runs. Every time i have to fight my excuses. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 and off i go.

I had no cardio no nothing. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 made me feel amazing. I work out every day and i embrace the feeling about sucking the first time of doing something.

Go go go go go go go go go go go go go go

[mountainmommarealestate]

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve felt this way in my current job. I felt like I had to push through it to get the job done. You are so right. Pushing through the feeling builds confidence, no doubt.

[mspixiedust]

I felt like an imposter today applying for a different job, and I kept pushing through, and wow was it hard. It's hard when you're self esteem has been battered by a workplace bully boss.

[johnrainsman]

I'll tell you my method. I was jealous of everyone for years because of my insecurities and weaknesses. But then I made a New Year resolution to end it, because I realized something. I do not believe in society anymore. I say two words to ultimately eliminate the self-doubt that tries to attack me: screw norms.

I'm 27, still live at home, having _never_ moved out. I have never had a girlfriend or a date, and I don't even have a driver's license. I have both a learning disability and ASD, and sometimes I say unfiltered things or act weird in social moments. I assume my ASD makes me "less normal." I don't have too many friends now that I've graduated from college and most of my friends have left town. My coworkers all seem to fit in; I usually stand out. I used to feel like a misfit at work, but now I realize that it's not a big deal. It's just they're not my people, they're each other's only. If my ASD makes them not like me enough, that's their problem. Sure, I don't have a great filter, but it doesn't define me; nobody is perfect. I don't care if people find me weird or annoying. I don't care that my both my sisters have boyfriends and started dating at 16 while I've always been single. I don't care that I can't drive. I don't care that I appear dopey because of my learning disability. I don't care that I graduated high school at _TWENTY._ I don't care that I seem slow and helpless and do better with a guide than by myself (my boss basically said that to my face). I don't care that I still live with my mom. I don't care that I went to a small charter school than the "superior" public school that has many more activities, adventures, and organizations. I don't care about any of my weaknesses; I still have confidence in myself. It doesn't matter what others think of me, it's what I think of myself that matters. I will never fall for society's tricks again; society is buIIshit, and that would explain our government and political leaders. I say "SCREW NORMS!" I am absolutely fine the way I am, I say confidently. I am not a loser. A disabled man who doesn't match standards, yes, but not a loser. There is nothing wrong with being different. Different is good. Normal is boring.

[hlb]

I'm 46 and he said everything I feel. I've stifled my business' growth because of this - for years. No more.

[jasropergoins]

Thank you for this!!! I passed over so many opportunities in my art career and fitness journey because I felt like a imposter. I'm talented and skilled, and when people ask for my services I think "what if I'm not good enough?.... What if I don't get the same results...." and other self doubting thoughts. It's like I'm scared to believe all the positive stuff that people say about me and have no problem believing negative thoughts. People around me don't talk negative about me and are very supportive.... If I could just see myself the way they see me who knows how "successful" I would be...

[eothlff]

I was the bad child or the lazy, selfish, trouble making kid according to my mom. I would always defend myself internally but eventually I started doubting myself and believing that maybe I am that bad. Now as a 18 year old I still doubt myself and am self critical. I don’t know how to fix this. Everyone understands the message in a different way.

[Rose.Adorna.]

This was needed 😭. I’ve been wondering what was wrong with me these past couple months, and journaling hasn’t been working like it normally does. But, a few weeks ago, someone mentioned the “imposter syndrome” they experienced in their own life. This is exactly what I’m going through. Trying to reach a higher level that requires a different version of me and omg!

[rosaliegudito]

I just turned down job interviews and written examination because I always get suck with the thought and feeling that I am inadequate, and incompetent. Doubt and fear sometimes get in the way ..

[KelsterVonShredster]

Saw this video last night after a week of work stress and self doubt...took action today and everything else melted away. This works!

[stanleyaloh]

"Well, you can't, you can't overcome the feelings that are rising up, lanre but you can take action despite them" was the word that did the magic for me. Thanks, this is video is not a gold, it is a gold mine

[STUPIDYOUTUBE_HIDINGMSGS]

Can't count the number of times I've watched this advise over and over, trying to tell myself that I cannot get rid of this impostor syndrome but I just have to deal with it and take action anyway. I'm not in my "16th" job, just the 5th and though I know and trust myself that I have enough skills to do the job, the self-doubt is killing me and making me lose sleep most nights. I will push through it and take action, do it which ever way.

[Dayo]

I have been feeling self doubt recently... i typed into YouTube 'why do i doubt myself so much' weirdly I'm doubting myself as I've started a new business.... its like you knew why i was feeling self doubt. thank you.. the thing that worry's me is not that i may lose custom from making mistakes, its an overcoming worry that i will disappoint my customers or receive criticism and i hate the thought that i may have upset some1. i hate my GAD(general anxiety disorder) its like ocd without the ritual's lol, but im trying hard to spite it. thank you again

[wattaczukker]

Love This, I always feel like this, even though I’ve always gone “fuck it I’ll give it a go what’s the worst that can happen” so I have been moving forward, I always, deep down doubt myself and seem to over stress because I thought there is something wrong with me for feeling this way. If that makes sense.... it’s good to know it’s normal and that I just have to keep pushing through. Crazy how our own brain is sometimes our worst enemy...