The Unfair Advantage That Introverts Have

Welcome to today's video, where I'll share strategies on preserving and maintaining your motivation. Often, we ponder over the perceived disadvantages that introverts face, but the truth is they possess a natural inclination that can be harnessed to nurture and sustain motivation.

In this discussion, I'll delve into methods and insights that can help prevent the 'leakage' of motivation. Understanding the unique strengths of introversion, such as introspection and self-reflection, unveils a powerful advantage in cultivating and preserving motivation.

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00:00 - Introduction
00:54 - Cultivating motivation
01:56 - Therapy with traumatized people
03:00 - What is a mantra?
06:10 - Language as a substitute for action
07:40 - What does this mean for you?
09:28 - Reinternalization

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[Oinsichean]

Literally the first time I've ever heard someone try to teach the extroverts to shut up instead of the deluge of experts telling introverts to talk more, and I'm here for it!

[alalessia]

As an introvert, I usually don't tell people about my goals because if I fail and they ask about it, they'll be disappointed. Instead if I told them a year later for example "yeah so I learned a language" the thing would already be done and I would skip that unbearable valley of 'I have to do the thing I told everyone I would do, now I'll fail and be so embarrassed'. This works for me. I do tell my husband usually because he's not easily impressed and knows what's up lol

[adamd]

An introvert who masters themselves and becomes comfortable socially is a force to be reckoned with.

[username]

This feels like one of those things that you've always known internally but had never heard it layed out and explained so well.

[readyRick]

I love the idea of a real doctor telling people on social media to "shut the hell up" thats exactly my vibe

[Ramezml]

We introverts end up losing positive energy not by venting, but by overthinking 😅

[NikkLiberos]

The "language as a substitute for action" part I can very much relate. The more I discuss doing something, the less likely I am to follow through, more than 90% of the time.

[Quasartist]

This is honestly 100% true. In my experience, I quit my job recently so I could go all-in on becoming a professional artist. I was so hyped and so proud that I went around and told everybody I knew. 2 months in I was completely burnt out and not doing anything but wasting time playing video games when I was supposed to be studying and practicing. Everybody hyping me up for it gave me that artificial pat on the back and it left me completely stagnant in my progress.

Conversely, I started going to the gym for the first time in 5 or 6 years and haven't told anyone other than my gf, and I've only missed 1 day in a month and a half. Keeping things related to your goals to yourself really does help you get a lot more mileage out of those things because there's no finish line, no extra pressure, nobody to try to impress or nobody to prove to that you were right, not lying, etc. But most importantly, no invalid validation. No fake pats on the back. Just you and the task at hand, and that really helps me thrive personally.

[CreepersNeedHugs]

Comment sections in videos about introverts are always just congregations of introverts and I love it

[jmfs]

I feel ATTACKED for preferring being alone in my hobbies. There are some people that seem to try to FORCE socializing onto me like I'm a bad person because I feel healthier being alone most of the time.

[questcore]

as a introvert we have nothing to prove to others, other than to prove to ourselves that we can do it, because no one will ever be impressed because they don't understand the success we're fixing to have

[zoidsfan]

I have noticed this directly in my life. The more I talk about wanting to do something, the more it never happens. It will actually be a struggle for me to keep these things a secret because I get so excited, but I know I will actually get more things done if I do so.

[aydenheady]

As an introvert, I feel like the whole not telling anyone your goals to keep it internal makes sense. However, I feel like it's true because people you tell can rapidly take the motivation away from you without even realizing it. Something as little as the other person not being interested in your goal(s) can completely tank any motivation i have towards something for months on end. What i really feel this technique is doing is teaching you how to not look for validation from other people for things that you are trying to achieve because youll never get what you want out of life if youre living for other peoples approval.

[Jusxtremelife]

As an introvert, this is a breath of fresh air to hear. As I grow older, the more I was starting to feel that to "succeed" I need to be extroverted and very proactive on social media, which goes completely against my nature. This gives me the permission to not worry about that anymore and start putting more effort into what's thing I actually enjoy.

[stellbanne]

As an introvert I have always known that this is my power. I have this room in my house that I call the "situation room". I sit in silence every early in the morning for 30 mins. When I leave that room, I am force to reckon with.... energized in the silence.

[henryhuynh]

I think this is why I love doing secret projects. I internalize the hype because I want to surprise people with something that I've been planning in the background for a while. Then once I complete the project and share it with my friends, it's just a rush of positive feedback that motivates me to begin the next thing. Getting started will always be the hardest part though.

[perriwinkleiii]

What's tough about this is, it's so tempting to bounce your idea off of someone just so you can maybe convince yourself that it wasn't a stupid idea all along. That's the trouble I have as a story writer, anyway. But Dr K is absolutely right, my motivation does kind of sink after I explain my plans to somebody, UNLESS we're having a collaborative conversation that directly feeds into how my story should progress, which is where I typically get extra motivation

[KINGJADEX]

Interesting perspective. I'm an introvert creative and have actually tried to be more open about my intentions in recent years because I thought telling people "I'm going to make this and release it at this time" would make me more accountable (to them and myself) than if I had told nobody. That person might ask how it's coming along, or I will just have the gnawing feeling that I’m going to disappoint the people I told if I don’t act. I would say it’s actually helped propel my productivity as well; but like most things in life, I suppose there is a happy medium, and it probably differs a little bit for each individual.

[Crankedx]

I love this. I've always lived by the saying "Cook in Silence". Which essentially means that when I commit to something, I do not promote or speak about it until my goal has been accomplished. I never want to be seen as the person who says they will do something, and then doesn't do it. For example, I left college about 7 years ago with 2 years left to complete my undergrad. When I decided it was time to return to school, I didn't post on socials about going back and I didn't tell many people either. Now that I am graduating this summer, I'm excited to tell people I completed if it comes up in convo

[xman]

I live in Colombia, and my mom has a tradition of "hey, don't tell anyone you're doing this, or it will never happen", which has worked in my favor. I find it very interesting that it is actually a thing that has been researched and not just "grandma's knowledge", if you get me.