Misogynistic Microaggressions | Sahana Mathiarasan | TEDxYouth@UrsulineAcademy

Have you ever made fun of a girl for liking something, for example, Kpop? When you first hear the word misogyny, you think of an outward and aggressive hatred of women, but, it can also take much smaller forms, imbedding itself in everyday conversations and eroding a girl’s feelings of confidence and self worth from a young age. So the next time you make fun of a girl for what she likes, think deeper about why you have these beliefs and how this impacts her.

[shalakaseven]

I love her voice and the way she speaks makes me want to listen

[sirisirisiri]

it IS about misogyny lmao. it's not just about her interests but how stereotypically feminine things are looked down upon in society. you can literally see it in how people shame men for using makeup or liking kpop because it is "for girls" and people always shaming women for doing typically girly things.

[CuttinUpGetGapped]

Do NOT be ashamed no matter what genre of music you enjoy.










Unless it’s country. Keep that to yourself.

[ErutaniaRose]

Because of misogyny, women and girls basically aren’t allowed to have wants, likes, or hobbies. I say scrap that. I’m an AFAB person, I like international music and art, I want to be an architect and study the stem classes to aid in that, and I do metalworking, working out, and traditionally “feminine” things for fun. Who cares? Just do it! (Yes, this is assuming you have the resources and support needed, I am aware of how lucky I am to be able to enjoy these things.)

Edit: My career ideas have changed a bit and I am planning on going into environmental studies, rather than architecture, though I still wish to study it on the side, just not as my main career.

Edit: I wrote this before I was able to express and explore my gender identity, and I now identify as Bigender using she/her and he/him pronouns--so I am tech not a woman, but still feel very comfortable in my femininity and within womanhood to some degree.

[ImSimplyAHuman]

Her voice sounds like the psych-to-go narrator ❤️

[RaissaHeidi]

When she talked about kpo I felt huged and when she gave the surgeon's example that hit really hard cause I have to admit I was puzzled :((( I'm thankful for having found her video.

[kriti]

that riddle got me :( but can I just say her voice is so sweet! i could listen to it all dayy

[alinaivanov]

wtf this video is literally what i was thinking in my head and searched for subconscious misogyny but i couldnt have guessed she would talk about kpop AND bts!!

[alexaelizabethb]

i got the riddle correct right away. ive been trying to unlearn misogyny recently, and now i know im doing good

[tulipgogoi]

I'm in tears, this is so relatable

[ddds]

Speaks a clear, concise voice that's so easy to listen to !

[miyoink]

when she mentioned kpop everyone turned around and looked at me bc i liked all those groups

[amyrosica]

An amazing and wonderful talk! So many valid points I hope she continues to educate others on this topic!

[kukukuki]

That riddle part got me. Any tips on how to get rid of these internalised misogyny which I am not conscious or self aware of?

[vibhamital]

what a beautiful talk! fabulous job, sahana.

[altheaosborn]

I have been saying this about the music thing for YEARS. Anything that is perceived to be "for girls" is instantly written off as shallow or juvenile. And it hurts because for so many of us, the music we listen to is closely tied to our emotions and experiences, like an extension of ourselves. The rejection of the art that you love feels like a rejection of you as a person.

[juliaf]

GREAT! I resonated with this talk so much! I hope she keeps up the great work!!!

[meggrace]

I will forever wonder how a pumpkin spiced latte tastes.

[yvs]

My parents also never bought me concert tickets despite music being a big part of my identity. Men also get accused of only liking female musicians because of their looks. But ppl will claim both as examples of mysogyny since "women most effected".

[loonabloo]

I loved those bands too! Excepted I wasn't still listening to K-Pop when BTS came out, but 2NE1 fans pull through.