Nonviolent Communication and Self Awareness | Maria Engels | TEDxAllendaleColumbiaSchool

[kelseyglass]

"If I'm giving a TRUE request, I have to be okay with your answer, and honoring if that answer is a 'no'... Otherwise, I've just made a demand of you." Ooooh- that HIT me. I love that. I will be using this in my communications moving forward 100%

[gordanastankovic]

Thank you for this presentation Maria.
I heard you saying that "if Marshall was alive now you'd like to ask him how much of this was rooted in love."
Actually Marshall has talked about it. In the book "Practical Spirituality: Reflections on the Spiritual Basis of Nonviolent Communication" Marshall days on page 5 "Nonviolent Communication really came out of my attempt to understand this concept of love and how to manifest it, how to do it. I came to the conclusion that it was not just something you feel, but it is something we manifest, something we do, something we have, And what is this manifestation? It is giving of ourselves on certain way."
And he goes on to explain what "giving of ourselves" means.
This book is only 32 pages long but essential in my opinion for a deeper understanding of NVC as a way of life not only a model of communication.
Hope you'd find this useful.

[thSense]

Kudos for facing your fears and speaking your truth. You have my respect.

[nickidaisyreddwoodd]

This is a very important subject and learning field. Meditation is very helpful to dive into one's own inner psychology and needs. Many humans are quite unaware of what their actual social needs are so they act out those needs in a rather verbally abusive way one can observe this directly in chat rooms. We need an education reform and implement meditation into schools, group sessions, classes on psychology, brain anatomy, how animals communicate, the needs of living beings, how to take care of animals, how to be stewards of the Earth etc.

[Sass]

I have always tried to understand others and resolve with love ever since I can remember growing up. When I was younger, I lead with love so much so that I allowed others to mistreat me and use me but I never held a grudge and was still very happy in life. Now that I'm 30 I try to set bounderies while trying to create relationships with others but it always turns out the same mostly. They talk about their problems or needs and I try to help/meet their needs but they are not there for me in the ways I needed so I stopped talking too them. Now I have no friends and only 1 family member that I can open up too most of the time (my mom) so I'm really disappointed in what went wrong other than setting bounderies which has left me feeling so alone. It's hard from being very social to nonexistent in the past 5 years but I will be even more mindful now with these techniques and hopefully can find a resolution for a better success

[arlinegeorge]

Beautiful impressive amazing soul . Destined for greatness. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.

[LaurieACouture]

Fantastic video for bringing NVC to the younger generations! Excellent presentation, Maria!

[criticalbil]

I enjoyed that, thank you. In particular, I'd not previously heard the terms, Need, Action, Strategy and Feelings linked together so effectively.

[alissonferreira]

Nice Video! I am reading the book of Nonviolence comunnication. I know that this is not easy to practice but is great way to improve ours connection with the others.

[cosettamarie]

Informative about the nuiasances of nonviolent communication. Phenomenal talk Maria.

[thepowerofhelpingwithreube]

Really great talk. After watching the San Francisco workshop I've ended up teaching it myself as well. Just did a video on needs and I've found getting back into researching it has been enlightening all over again!

[janineburge]

Thank you, Maria for your advocacy on this subject of Nonviolent Communication, where we need to speak to one another, trust one another, and to practice with one another. Let the healing begin. I miss you but you are are my mind often. GR will be back in Rochester...maybe working on it now, but only just a little slice of it!

[garethgareth]

LIFE IS AN ILLUSION.
LIFE IS A DELUSION.
LIFE IS IGNORANCE.
IT'S NOT ABOUT THE ADJECTIVE.
IT'S ABOUT THE REACTION TO THE ADJECTIVE.

[garrywhitby]

Great talk Maria thank you for sharing your collage experiences and in this age of Facebook and Twitter demanding our opinion be heard, we absolutely need to teach more about "Win Win" outcomes. Would love to learn more about nonviolent communications. Keep the talks coming

[msseemmaa]

Great talk! I appreciate connecting conflict resolution to love.

[Steerpikey]

Teaching by example. Very interesting talk.

[briskcartoon]

Nonviolent communication has the danger of making abusive people with power feel as though any anger directed at them is the problem.

[eliasm.]

Looked for the best books of last few years. Theresa book with same title. Looking at video summaries can be great.

[JFulde]

Came here because of the kings transformation lesson yesterday :D

[Atreyyyw]

Is anyone knows Maria's MBTI type?