If You Grew Up Feeling Invisible

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[Justsomeoneyoucouldhaveknown]

The worst is when you have both.
You avoid people because you feel you have nothing to offer except wasting their time but when you are with people, you do everything they want because you want to be seen as a valued friend

[DelightfulDissident]

I was a people pleaser that got burnt-out and now I've pushed my friends and family away because I'M DONE dealing with it all. I want closeness. I want friendship. I'm just too tired for any of it. At 30, that's a really rough spot to be in.

[teevee]

I try not being involved because i feel uninvited everytime

[tonatiuhgonzalez]

You're the only YouTuber I've seen that truly seems to understand depression.

[doireallyhavetoask]

I went from a people pleaser, to isolation. The effort and anxiety of maintaining relationships was way too much to handle

[Lillian.duhh.]

"People cry not because the're weak.its because they've been strong for too long"
-Johnny Depp

[michellesabrina]

wow i feel called out. i have both and combine that with social anxiety. it's literally the worst thing ever—you can't connect with anyone even though you want to.

[NoBabyface]

How the hell can a short video like this leave me in tears in just a few seconds because someone suddenly appeared and put words to why my relationships are so complicated? I people please to woo people, then I get overwhelmed and withdraw because I think that they're better off without me.
As someone said above: if you have any advice on how to deal with this (aside from actually seeing a therapist), please do share it in a video!

[thoughtsonredbudhill]

I've felt this since I was a child. I'm so lonely and at times I feel like my heart is broken and it has been for a very long time.

[indianworldbysanjanadixit]

I do tend to avoid people but when I HAVE TO be with people I tend to be a people pleaser
I'm learning not to and to be myself, thanks to therapy, it's worth it

[kiarle]

Can we get a video on how to deal with both of these? Because this hit toooo close to home.

[Ziriatfalls]

I grace myself with my absence. People stress me out. I love the serenity of being alone.

[RaTheArtist]

I used to feel pretty invisible during my childhood, nobody really listened.
So now when I'm hanging out with friends or at family gatherings I'm just quiet. Whenever I do wanna talk or join a conversation, I cant because I'm too timid and quiet. I can try and talk but no-one will pay me any mind.

[tammylee]

I’ve been invisible for 56 years. It always felt safer as an adult to stay that way.

[sukhjinderanand]

Sometimes, people or yourself treat you in such a way that you feel guilty even for breathing and existing...

[travelwell]

If I don’t text or ring people and then I never hear from them it only confirms the belief that they weren’t that bothered about me anyway.

[Infiniteeverything]

I’m sorry you all struggle with this but I’m also so glad that I’m not alone .so much love to you all. ❤

[a.m.]

I grace people with my absence.. thanks Dad

[Anntares.]

Nothing describes my social life better than this does