“The Body Keeps the Score” author explains trauma

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[jeffreyjackson]

"The foundation of your safety has not been destroyed." Well put. Explains perfectly why parental abuse and neglect can be so painful and traumatic: The foundation for your safety, which is supposed to be your parents, are the very ones responsible for your safety. If your first foundation is destroyed or questionable, it's truly a miracle to be a productive person later in life. I guess that I am a miracle then: Only college graduate and the only one with a professional job.

[Rhinoch]

Traumatized parents are so out of touch with their emotions, they won't detect signs of events that shook the child to be there for them, eventually repeating the cycle. Surviving the survivors is a real thing.

[k.g.]

So trauma is what happens when you have no one to help you up, makes so much sense.

[Ydce]

I can remember the moment where I had no control. Couldn’t look away, couldn’t make any face, couldn’t fidget, every single physical response my body had to trauma was identified and stripped from me. There was a point where i could do absolutely nothing without receiving criticism while being berated. I can feel myself at the moment when I fragmented and the dissociation began. Freeze response is so challenging because it feels like you’re in a burning building and even though the flames are starting to touch you, you can’t react. People always tell me how laid back and calm I am but they don’t understand how much we mask. I may seem stoic on the outside while my mind is screaming and racing with panic and worry or I’m completely checked out. There are so many times I go shopping and all the sudden I’m at the other end of the building as if my brain shut down while I walked around

[sagesufferswell]

When you've got so much trauma compartmentalized In your brain that pulling the wrong box out could crush you, you've already realized parental neglect was thw foundation of all that pain

[Catlily]

That is a problem when your parents cause the trauma.

[higherlunacy]

...and when it turns out nobody's really there for you, not even your family, you might sink so low into your trauma that you find in there your Self; the Self that was lost long time ago. And then, Thank God, you have someone to overcome that trauma with.

[katrinat.]

This is so true that the support you got after the traumatic event really matters. I have two friends, both childhood victims of sexual abuse. One could never tell her mother or father and had to hide it for years and now she has CPTSD. The other one told her mother and father, who protected her fearlessly. She is fine with it. She can talk about it. She does work for organizations that help children of sex abuse.

[magueysunset]

This book goes great with the mindfulness book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels. Both have helped me develop a good routine.

[auntiemame]

I so appreciate this explanation. Way too many people toss around the term trauma to refer to anything that upset them that it has lost real meaning when it has specific implications that attention seekers cannot begin to truly grasp.

[calizero]

"That is bc your foundation of safety is not destroyed". ...

[Gentlegiant]

Foundation of my safety has been destroyed. And a lot of trauma happened since childhood throughout my life, I was almost drowned when I was little, and got scolded at, and she was being cold towards me, I could never forget that. A lot of sa visuals showed on tv when I was like 5-6, no one cared. I just feel this weight in me, I wanna drop it, but when I thought i did, it came back.

[Blissfulnessence]

As a child i cleaned up the blood, then told her where the bruises were (mum was blind)
I hated me for not being able to stop it. I hated me for not being 'good enough' to make family life peaceful.
It was my fault then and it is still my fault.

[florencia]

I was in a mental hospital where they tied me up for nine days without any reason and without allowing me to go to the bathroom and it traumatized me. My parents were there when they let me out but I was and I felt completely alone when they did that to me. I’m still dealing with the consequences that come after the trauma.

[CareerDropout.]

This is intriguing because I’ve run across people who sound like they’d blow off the fact their kid was traumatized because their perception is showing concern for someone’s trauma is actually crippling them to become needy. Very very intriguing. I guess those who lack empathy are extremely traumatized individuals who count their strength as camouflage to actually being wounded

[RebeccaEWebber]

We have this book and utilize its deep wisdom in our trauma work. Me as an Animist Minister trainee and my husband as a mental health councilor. Thank you good Sir!

[angelicaverbroekken]

It is really hard when (almost) nobody is there at that time so you are alone or when people cannot help you. So it gets big.

[debanjanshil]

Right sir ! Foundation of safety is really needed !!

[ExoticalT]

That’s a very powerful statement: 👇

“The trauma is not the event, it’s how you respond to it”

Noted! ♥️

[CMDR_Saber]

Oh man then I've been broken for life. Cancer at age 8 till 18 then suffer with side effects till late 20s then widowmaker at 31 plus 3 stents then a heart transplant just 9 months ago