Feminism Part 7 ... Team Family

[robinblue]

Feminism very nearly got to me. Once my brother told me that the most influential position a woman can hold is that of a stay-at-home mom and I was almost offended. But then I thought, why is that offensive? It's true. Raising the next generation that will run the world next sounds very influential. Also, being a stay-at-home mom actually sounds really nice. In stead of being a slave to my husband in that situation, its almost the opposite. He's working hard so I don't have to. That is real love.

[richardclark]

As a guy in his 20's this channel is like the mentor granddad i never had

[TheDenisedrake]

YES!!! I used to LOVE my career and make money--- until I had kids. Then I stayed at home and then I worked hard learning how to economize and make a peaceful home. I was able to homeschool our kids. I was also able to take care of my dad while he battled cancer until he died at home (not a hospital) and then take care of my mother-in-law while she had dementia and congestive heart failure and died peacefully in OUR home. My husband and kids are closer than I ever thought possible. Go ahead, let some modern-day feminist tell me I'm weak. Bring it honey.

[hammerful]

My wife and I worked as a team. When I went into business I worked in the shop creating things. She went out and sold those things. I sucked at sales and she was very good at sales. We brought our kids up in the shop. Major pain in the ass sometimes, but, they learned what it took for us to make a living. We grew up to be a very close family.

[palerider]

My wife and I make a great team! We started a family 40 years ago and several years later we started a small plumbing business together. I went out and did the work while she stayed home and answered the phone and raised our five children. Over the years the business slowly grew and we eventually hired more and more people but always stuck to the basic model. Now 33 years later we have over two dozen employees and some of our kids work in the business building their futures. We are living proof that a couple can complement each other and get ahead even though neither one of us have more than a high school education. God bless America!

[OttoMatieque]

where did this reasonable, practical, and wise man come from? off with his head!

[wesleyhackney]

Right on! My wife and I have been married 36 years now and we were a team as you said which included a time when my wife was at home raising 4 boys and enjoyed every moment and I greatly appreciated all she did plus she respected my sacrifice to work the daily grind of providing for us. . I might add that later on as the boys were older we worked together to operate a small business for 5 years in addition to my job in order to provide funds for our boys to attend college debt free. We enjoyed the journey and appreciated and respected each other’s talents and abilities along the way. Thanks for reminding everyone of this concept

[kittenkorleone]

During the 80s and 90s, while my husband went off to work, I stayed home and raised the kids and provided all of them a comfortable yet humble home and meals. It was surprising to me that the most guff i got was from other females! Other men wished they could come home to a waiting pot roast w/ mashed potatoes on a Tuesday. I was asked once by another female, "Don't you want to make anything of yourself"? In my heart, i knew that what i was doing sat well with my hubby and me and it didn't matter what others thought. Still doesn't. What i was doing was taking responsibility for them because they were MY RESPONSIBILITY. The hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world and i believe it. While these types of women were chained to a desk, they said i was chained in the kitchen. While their kids were off doing as they pleased outside the home or bringing other latchkey kids into their homes and doing what God only knows, i knew EXACTLY what mine were doing. I slept well at night and never had an ounce of guilt leaving my kids to strangers because it's something i could never do to them or myself. I never understood why these other ladies couldn't wait to get back to their jobs a mere 6 weeks after giving birth. Shit, i cried at the bus stop when they went to school for the first time... and they were 5 at that time! Children are priceless compared to whatever dollar amount they gained while they entrusted virtual strangers charge over them. All this became normal for women to do. There were many times during those years i did without certain unnecessary comforts like a clothes dryer and dishwasher. I got clothes mainly from thrift stores and shared one car. Nowadays, i see more ladies staying home or at least feel bad when they figure they must work, but they also live with lots more things i considered extras that were beyond food, clothing and shelter. We didn't vacation much but when we did we did our on a ultra low budget, we had no A/C in the home and i'm glad to report that i didn't melt. We didn't have much in those days except for peace of mind, which is priceless. If God wanted women to have another person raise our kids, it wouldn't hurt so bad when we hand them off at the daycare door while chasing the all important dollar. The choice i made to raise my own kids was a no brainer. Once you have kids, you should do everything in your power ro make sure they are taught YOUR VALUES. A STRANGER CAN NEVER DO THAT.

[TimmyCherry]

Important message. Feminism has eliminated having and raising children as a priority, or even portrayed it as a waste of a woman's life.

[gerberdaisy]

Well said. I'm 55 (today actually) and am on the other side of being a homemaker, I have ZERO regrets! My husband has climbed the ranks and is successful at his job, and me, I'm just as successful at mine. I have ZERO regrets! ( i meant to repeat myself). I hear them, almost all women that have chosen to live that parallel life (believing the lie, 'you can have it all') instead of joining "team family" ... they are sad with their choice; even angry that they were lied to. And it's too late for them now. Nothing BUT regret.

[ajhubbell]

Teams are not made of people who duplicate skills, teams are made up of people who COMPLIMENT one another’s skills.
Well said. Again...
Thank you.

[jimmyjimmy]

This is actually a great video. It's very simple and maybe common sense, but since we're cultivating immature people more and more in the world, you're statement about immature people thinking it's the most visible person who is most important is very true. Thanks and God bless.

[gregorclegane]

When I worked in IT, a male-dominated career, there was this manager in her mid-30s who was very assertive, and rose through the ranks earlier than her peers. She once told us her dream is to be a stay-at-home mom. She's now happily married.

[dirigoelectric]

My wife developed cancer. She never returned to work. We realized while she was sick, that we got by without her income, we just had less disposable income but didn’t miss anything. She now stays home and watches our grandkids, and she says she wishes she’d known it sooner.

[lepp]

Everyone in our home who walks on the floor takes a turn sweeping and mopping. Everyone who wears clothing takes a turn doing laundry. Everyone who eats takes a turn cooking and doing dishes. Everyone who shits and showers takes a turn scrubbing the bathrooms.

[Mrs.Silversmith]

The discussion about whose career is the greater family priority needs to happen in couples.  If you are engaged or a newlywed and you both have jobs, then you need to talk about this.  When my husband and I got married, we were both in professional jobs, engineer and therapist.  We talked about who's job would come first if there was any conflict between the two, or if a move would be required.  We decided that his job was more specialized (aerospace engineering) and he wouldn't be the one looking after small children, so it ended up being a no brainer.  It may be less clear for others, so its good to know ahead of time what the game plan is so that it doesn't lead to relationship problems down the road when a big decision has to be made.

[wilshirestrasse]

While I have had modest success in the world of work, and occasional satisfaction from a job well-done, my only joy has been raising my children and caring for mom and dad in their vulnerable years.
I worked to support my family, not the other way around.
Thanks Dave for another fine dose of age honed common sense.

[yolandakrieger]

Part 7! Omg that’s awesome!
I’m doing the happy dance 💃🏾

[jamesmerrill]

Dave, another profound, common sense video! I so appreciate your perception and understanding of what truly matters most in life. As a 63 year old man, I know beyond any doubt that women are an amazing, wonderful and scary gift to the world. I grew up knowing full well the awesome influence that women wielded and my home-maker Mom of seven kids was no victim...

[thCenturyManTrad]

I've been contemplating this video, and read more comments and I really hope the young women of North America, not just the U.S, but Canada too, listen the advice of the wise homemakers who have told their stories. God bless them they are the glue that the world needs, because Feminism sure ain't.