'I'm the Daughter of a Passport Bro'

In this video, she shares her unique perspective as the daughter of a 'Passport Bro.' Growing up with a father who sought love and connection across borders has shaped her understanding of relationships and cultural diversity. Join her as she explores the challenges and blessings that come with this lifestyle and what it means for her identity. 🌍💖

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[TiemposDePaz]

I had a neighbor growing up. A white guy, an Asian wife, and they had three kids back to back. As a kid, I didn’t analyze it with adult eyes, but I thought how wild and loud the kids were. The husband would leave her at home all day and she had no control over those kids. They literally cursed at her. I didn’t connect it’s probably because he talked to her that way and they thought it was okay to disrespect mom. Totally feel sorry for her now.

[anitat]

This whole arrangement was called mail order brides back in the day. Some of these passport bros unalived their mail order brides.

[magviv]

Seeing a parent apologize to their child for decades of damage was highly impactful.

[jazihughey]

My son was friends with a daughter of a passport bro. Her mother was Philippino; she was in a rough spot when he started messaging her. Seemed like a savior! After coming to the usa, he moved her into his mother’s house. She was basically a slave for 3 years until her cousin was able to meet her at the grocery store and sneak her away to their embassy! She was placed in protective custody and thats when she moved to my town, and we met her and the daughter at the park. She was trying to get home when covid hit and she was further trapped in America scared he’d find her. I am so happy to say she did finally get home after almost 7 years of being a passport bro’s “wife”

[YoYo_Ma]

My Irish grandmother explained to me one time "lace curtain Irish".
Meaning, as long as it looks good from the street, all hell could be breaking loose inside.
This attitude spans cultures and generations.
It's the patriarchy.

[trixiesilver]

I taught my son that when people say women are crazy, this is usually why. There is a straight path from abused girls/women to abusive moms, partners, etc. (a la “hurt people hurt people”) and these stories are so important for healing.

[AndyyWithAY]

Korea very rapidly became a developed country fairly recently. I'm not sure exactly when, but I'd wager it was still really bad when the mom came to the US. And, we see how terrible women are treated there TODAY. I'm sure 40 years ago it was worse. A terrible husband and a mean mom is a very common dynamic in Korea.

[Kimberly_Sparkles]

My mom had a really awful childhood. She told me as an adult that she tried to do therapy before I and my sister was born to work on her issues with attachment due abuse & abandonment. (She didn't have time before my brother as there's only 15 months between us or she would have then, too.) She apologized that she didn't do more work and for the mistakes she knew she made. She became a teacher after 40 and she learned more about child development. She was fairly specific about where her mistakes lie. And yes, for me, sorry went a long, long way.

. It changed how I looked at her parenting completely.

[thatsuecarney]

My mom gave birth to me when she was 19 years old. She was poor, mistreated as a child and passed it all on to me. She beat me from when I was a toddler to a teen. When I was thirty, she apologized. It was a full sincere apology. She humbly asked my forgiveness and there was so much healing and love between us until she passed away. It was a gift that has never stopped giving. Those mother wounds are so deep. A weight was lifted from me. My father has never apologized or even admitted the harm he did, so no peace there. Patriarchy will never allow it.

[TeraMcGee]

My Grandpa cheated on my Grandma so many times and then ended up leaving her for one of his affair partners. They ended up divorcing and then he did what my parents call a "mail order bride" service. He stayed married to his third wife til he passed in 2017 and I wonder how much he put that poor woman through. She has always been kind to us and I text her every now and then updates with my family.

[MallyMal]

When I was growing up my neighbor had a mail order bride. We hated him, he was a mean asshole with some mean dogs (poor doggos). I can’t remember if she already had a son or if he was their son but he would never let the son come out and play with us. Fast forward to adulthood, I found out that she was able to escape! 🎉🎉 she was a nurse in her home country. When abusive asshole was away for work she would work a part time gig and save up money. She made friends with the neighbors (even though he tried his hardest to prevent it) and our other neighbors helped her get a lawyer and housing accommodations!! 🎉🎉🎉 I’ve never met or spoke to her, but I’m glad she made it out ok.

[DanaAgenbroad-pwzw]

Can you imagine meeting your husband for the first time, and he towers over you by a foot and a half? Not to mention, he looks like an alien from a different planet from the men you are accustomed to. How isolated she must have felt being beamed onto that man's planet and expected to conform even while everyone treated her like an unwelcome alien. That is so messed up!

[cozysox]

I didn't read all of the comments here, but I'm old enough to remember these ladies being called "mail order brides" because there were "catalogs" that were published.

[gee_emm]

So rare that a parent can face their own failings without falling into self pity, defensiveness and a self centred shame spiral. Bravo to them both.

[stephaniemartin]

Not sure how children are supposed to come out ok if mom, primary caregiver, is not ok. Parenting is HEAVY LIFTING FOR LIFE.

[yonpark]

This was a theme in Everything Everywhere All At Once: an Asian parent apologizes for her terrible behavior to her daughter. I cried so hard, but also, I'm a Korean daughter of a first generation immigrant (I'm a doctor lol), and my mother apologized to me. I am so close with my mother, and this wise woman here reminds me so much of my own mother.

[islandgirl]

I can respect her mother's willingness to admit her mistakes and build a better bond with her daughter. I can relate to having a parent who tried to present a perfect front to people outside the family while our family dynamic was toxic and dysfunctional.

[MagnoliaPantherWoman]

She's a revolutionary. Love it. My biomom said sorry half-heartedly but never got therapy and never changed.

[LuRNification]

What a good mom, to be open with her daughter about her faults, and to share with her a passion and willingness to make the present and future better for both of them 😊

[blaqgurl]

Her mother, apologizing for being a bad mom, really made me emotional. I'm so happy to have witnessed this. I am so happy that they are on the path to healing together. How beautiful!