Beware of 'The Nice' From A Narcissist

Generally when a narcissist is being "nice" it means something bad is about to happen. In this video I talk about how to recognize and protect yourself and how to utilize this "indicator" to anticipate what may be coming

[joshualett]

Anyone else notice their obsession with convincing themselves that they are a "good person"...or is that just my experience?

[penelopelambson]

I have read that the “nice/mean” cycle is classic of abusers. This keeps the victim in a constant state of false hope and confusion and eventually leads the victim into a psychological /emotional addiction dependency called “ trauma bonding”

[wmjecty]

If they suddenly act nice either they are hoovering you, or they are up to something to screw you over.

[frugalmum]

Another time they may be nice is if they are in a "weak" position. It can be a way of them waiting in the shadows until they have power over you again.

[blackmonk]

Absolutely! This is why I refuse help from Narcissists, unless I absolutely need it. They almost always have hidden agenda. They lack empathy.  Great video.

[larklwinslow]

Especially if "the nice" is delivered with a sparkly-eyed

[budcat]

One can fake being "nice" but you can't fake kindness. Ted Bundy was "nice", need I say more?

[erikkasepiphany]

Cycle of abuse, idealize, devalue, discard, over and over again!

[andiel.l.]

Their 'nice' is the 'Calm before the STORM'...it's horrible and you do have to be vigilant...Guard your heart with all diligence
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[williambeck]

The few people who are giving the thumbs down are the narcissists.

[reneehilscher]

It’s because they’re in a lower position... they’re laying in wait until you let your guard down.

[johannwilder]

I think they act nice when they are in a position of disadvantage, not advantage. Otherwise I agree with you.

[catherine]

"Nice" is always manipulation. To get your guard down. Narcissists do not have a whole range of emotions. They feel mainly envy and anger. They don't feel much of anything else only fleetingly. They can't really understand normal emotions and they envy people that have them. "Nice" is really not something they can do genuinely. They will be angry if you are happy. They can't stand it unless they have been the cause of the happiness (control). If anyone is envious of your happiness I would run.

Great video. I love that so many people are putting out such good quality videos about this subject now. Not too long ago it was a lot harder to get information about these disorders.

[earthingearthling]

I'm still married to mine. I'm researching how to get a divorce. These videos have been a God send!!! Having these as a "mentor" has helped me be able to see that I'm not crazy, these things are happening. I have been keeping a diary this whole year because I have a "forgive and forget" type nature and I wanted something to be able to use to look back on and remind myself of the hell I'm going thru. So I cannot thank you enough.

[dinky]

Them being nice= ulterior motive. Say no thanks and walk away

[lynnvs]

Either A: they're about to be caught in something. B: They're about to do something or C: they're trying to over do it(after doing nothing) so that they look like the good guy and you look ungrateful for their so called sudden sweetness

[Hawaiiansky]

When the narc (/ other Cluster B) is being 'nice' to you, (1) you are in danger, and (2) it's too late to do anything about it. They've already destroyed your credibility or done something else to wreck your life, and are smug and happy about it, wanting to throw it in your face.

[kacee]

Yup!!! I learned a long time ago, if a narc is being nice to you it's either because they need something from you that they can't get without you, i.e., they want you to give them money or need your signature for a loan...they're about to F*** you over, i.e., they're in a situation and going to throw you under the bus for it, or they already did something behind your back that you're about to find out about. i.e, took a loan, forged your name, insert any other narc trick here.... When my stbx is nice, it's always a red flag something's wrong or about to go wrong...

[pegp]

Very true in my situation. He uses doing something to get something and also to look good and always boasts about it on Facebook. They never do something nice, just to be nice. They are takers!

[christinehaigh]

So true...it happened to me. They would switch their behaviours from "nice" to extreme nastiness. It was scary. I didn't know what to do - except to leave. I felt like a fly trapped in a notorious spider's web. Like the spider was getting ready for the kill.