Who Really Causes Depression?

Stop blaming yourself for your depression. It's an illness, not a weakness. Seek help and start your journey to recovery. #MentalHealth #Depression #SelfBlame

[servanunal]

Not just ourselves, other people do it to us as well.

[FullTimePatient]

I'm just too tired to even find who's fault is this..😢

[RadishTheFool]

Sadly, the effect can also rub off on partners and other loved ones. I tried to convince my depressed/burned out partner that he desperately needed to rest. To recover. To heal. I tried to point out that even the most simple chores, that he had been able to do without much problem for years, had turned into huge obstacles. That he forgot everything. I tried to tell him that we (his family) loved him for him, that he didn't need to perform or provide, that we wanted him to rest.

What he heard was "You can't do anything right. You don't give us (the family) anything. Just admit defeat, just accept that you're worthless."

And no matter what I said, how I said it, or even if I didn't say anything about it for a months in hopes of letting him relax enough to see for himself that he wasn't well, his distortions were so bad that he just kept pushing himself without any end in sight. It's been a heartbreaking nightmare.

[cleodello]

Yeah, I have BD and I find that depression is somehow more convincing than mania. Like, I’m more self-aware that my thoughts are silly when manic. However, I’m often convinced that the self-hatred I feel when depressed is valid. It’s quite annoying.

[douglasalan]

Thank you, Dr Marks. I needed to hear that.🙏

[ovacumawyahwehst]

I wish they could clone Dr. Marks. Or at least she had an extra large team able to handle and help many people in the same manner as her.

[courtneybrown]

Doctors also play the blame game. Go for a walk, shut off your screen. Such simple cures!

[phillippeharris]

I never knew depression was a mental illness I always thought it was a state of being based on personal circumstances or self unfulfillment

[yolandaz]

Thank you so much Dr Marks for sharing your knowledge & wisdom💜 I really needed to hear this message today....🙏

[st__pt]

Depression says those things because everybody else does 😭Everybody else tells me it's my fault 😭 Everybody else tells me I'm not trying hard enough 😭 No matter how much I try to fight depression, others toss me right back into it 😭

[klanderkal]

You can get depression from something devastating you've done, and know you are to blame. You can get depression from personal failings.

[glamourgirl]

When the clinically depressed husband blames their lifelong loving wife for their depression is also a difficult thing to live with.

[Lexi_Con]

Love you, Dr. Marks!!!❤ I saw you on an episode of VPI: Vinny Politan Investigates on Court TV last night. You were just as beautiful, intelligent & professional then as you are now. Thanks for providing this incredible resource of info on mental health. ❤😊🙏🏽

[rhonmc]

Supposed loved ones didn't see it that way (even though their actions set me on the depression path). Finger pointing, stigma was all i got and if it goes on for decades ending finally physical rejection and abandonment so i now have no-one in my life and isolated with depression at 70 is a death sentence. Then again so many decades of pain and suffering maybe I'll finally find respite

[breezyncj]

Dr. Marks, at my last virtual therapy appointment, my therapist low key suggested this (therapy with her) might not be suitable for me. I've been seeing her for several months every two weeks, but this specific appt I had forgotten to do a homework assignment. I was very, very upset this day and a lot of emotions were coming up and I was crying a lot and not saying much. Now I feel self-conscious and like I can't even trust her with my treatment. Is this normal behavior? All for a bad day and forgetting to do some journaling homework?

[ligiazarate]

Thank u so much for your videos, very comforting and informative.

[SonOfGodphotography]

I am trying to remember if drug abuse came first or depression. What I think back I think maybe I use drugs because I was feeling depressed and now I have chronic depression because of drug abuse. Even though I stopped, I am constantly bored and cannot experience any pleasure. I keep craving the drugs.I don’t want any of the medication so maybe I’m stuck

[tammyg]

Great Advice!!!❤ Thanks for the encouragement

[cynthiarobinson]

ma'am it is I watched u on u tube last nite❤❤

[rainbeau]

I have been seeking treatment
the poor person has a poor clinic that not only does not care. and only throw pills at you talk treatment is at a bare minimum and so textbook with out real guidance
i am
mentally broken and the only other treatment has been 5150 which is a hell in itself in my experience
no sleep no therapy no dr
they just inprison you with no help its hell and you leave having to go back to “ normal “ as if nothing happened and you’re worse off than ever before.