The dark side of being in an interracial relationship

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[JdADispora]

As a black man, I get asked "Is it true what they say about Black men". My answer is always the same "I dont know, I've never slept with one".

[Kevin-jbgj]

Wow, both of you look absolutely beautiful together.I am thankful that interracial dating and marriage is common and acceptable in today’s society. Both of you are very attractive people.

[Rottingboards]

As an old white guy, I would stare at you two because I would be thinking...my god those to are so cute together. And they are going to make the world a better place.

[hildadavids]

Hi I am from a mixed background. It is so beautiful to see you being from South Africa. I am also from South Africa, my mother is black mother and my paternal grandfather is Irish. I am so happy because I speak all black languages. I experienced racism from black people. We lived in Soweto, oblivious as children to racism. My dad suffered the most as he is very fair. We eventually had to move to an erea called Kliptown. That is where we were much happier.

[kal-elsuperman]

i am in full support of this relationship i pray the best for you

[Polemic-]

As a black man I hope you both live long and happy lives.😀

[LBCTexas]

Just felt the need to comment how CUTE I find you two to be together. Adorable couple. I wish you happiness and success. 💕

[zo.la]

I am new to your channel and I stayed bc of how softly and gently Alicia speaks. Its so calming! You two are wonderful people and I wish yall nothing but the absolute besttt❤❤

[squeen]

There's nothing wrong with interracial couples honestly as long as the couple are good to each other, then there shouldn't be a problem because in the end of the day, they still eat, they still drink, they still sleep, they do whatever they want to do. In shorter words, they're still human that navigates through life like everyone.

[biancarivera]

I'm Puerto Rican and my hubby is black. We went through the dark side of our relationship because we was childhood best friends. We was apart of the LGBT community lifestyle but we give up our lifestyle for Jesus. I rejected the gospel and didn't see him for about a year then we ran into each other again and I was ready to accept the gospel because he gave up his lifestyle when he was 20. We both are 24.

[DariusW-]

When you're a Christian and a follower of Christ, real love with a good soulmate doesn't have a skin color to it because me and my sister are black and married to white. We are married to them because my love for my wife is genuine and the love my sister have for her husband is genuine. We don't care about the backlash because our soulmate have our backs and we got theirs. I wish nothing but the best for you and your wife.

[MetrothHub]

I'm not black, I'm not white, I'm not coloured, I'm a person!

[LeNettoyeur-xlmc]

Soon you'll be a single mum ! Enjoy !

[julieontology]

I'm a white woman, and I've dated several Black men in my life. I've also dated Asian, Middle Eastern, and Latino men. I was always interested in the person inside.
The man I'm with right now is Black. We're old, but he's hot! He is the love of my life. I feel so lucky and blessed that he loves me.
Thank you both for talking about these issues. He's from California, and I'm from Boston. But we met in the South. And yes, we have been stared at. It is so ignorant and rude. When we go out to eat, and no one is staring at us at all, and everybody is just minding their own business, it is so refreshing!
I wish you both very long, happy lives. And yes, your babies will be gorgeous! My boyfriend and I wish we could have children, but we're too old! But everyday is precious!

[manuelsteele]

I am Native American from rural AZ. The highest frequency of interracial relationships relative to population size occurs among Native Americans. It's rare to find a truly full-blooded Native American. The majority are part white. If you go to Oklahoma (Central USA), almost all of them are part white with a broad range of skin tones. Some are light-skinned and appear fully Caucasian. Others almost look full-blooded with the brown complexion and jet-black hair.

Given the history and my experiences, I have a more nuanced, case-by-case view in regards to interracial relationships. I am aware that some are positive with mutual respect. Unfortunately, I have also observed other cases where the "respect" factor is not there. In the latter, it usually involves colorism. The "colorism" is a form of discrimination within minority groups such that darker-skinned individuals can be ostracized or excluded. In interracial relationships, there are some (not all) where one person rejects his or her own community to date a white person. This does happen among Native Americans. I know it also happens among African Americans.

Examples of colorism include Tiger Woods, OJ Simpson, RGIII, Herschel Walker, etc. All have a preference for blonde white woman. RGIII and Herschel both impregnated blonde (dyed) female track stars from FSU. OJ was all over the media back in the 90s with his murder trial. I have witnessed such colorism in-person at a gym in FL. I once overheard a black bodybuilder who boasted in the locker that he "doesn't like bl-ck women". He was discriminating against women from his ethnicity while pursuing blonde white women from FSU. His lust appeared insatiable in that regard - lol. With that said, there are positive counterexamples. Not all interracial relationships should be assumed to be based on colorism. That assumption would be a form of discrimination within itself.

I empathize with you both. The racism you describe is horrible but does not surprise me. In 1987 when I was 18, I was in a shopping mall in Indiana and recall a young interracial couple with a black male and white female. They were about my age. I thought it was a positive relationship rising above the historical racial tension of the Midwest which had a plethora of white-flight suburbs back then. I noticed an elderly white female staring at them with disgust and extreme contempt. Then I saw two white supremacists confront and assault the two in full view of a busy shopping mall at rush hour on a weekday. The two white men were arrested and hauled away, but a shouting match ensued which was horrible.

In such racism, the slurs are common on social media. A common one is "co-l b-rner' or "m-d sh-rk" against the white women. There is a stigma that appears more covert these days. White men who would not outright discriminate against an interracial couple like those two men in 1987 may still express covert racism in the following way. If the interracial couple breaks up and the white woman moves on and dates other white men - the latter may reject her if it is found that she had dated interracially. I saw a YT channel of an older white female (blonde) who had mixed half-black children. She noted how white men who initially expressed interest would quickly withdraw once they learned she had half-black children from a previous interracial relationship. So, the covert racism is still commonly expressed in that way. Such men may not yell racial slurs in a shopping mall or assault an interracial couple. But when it comes to that decision point there can still be stigmatization rooted in racism.

As for me, I have dated interracially. I had a blonde white girlfriend in FL - a southern belle. Picture a big Apache Indian with a bodybuild of a college football linebacker with a feminine, petite blonde woman. Most of the time, the young adults of Florida did not seem to care. Occasionally, some young adults would stare but they seemed more surprised than hateful. But one time we were stalked by what appeared to be a racist sheriff. He kept posting himself around us while we were sitting at a busy outdoor set of tables of a Starbucks. There were many young adult couples - mostly white. But the cop was focused on us. He kept staring at me and appeared to want to arrest me. Then he went to his patrol car and drove closer to us and kept staring. My girlfriend didn't notice it but I did. Eventually, he drove away, but I really didn't like that. My view was that the white southerners had already intermarried with Native Americans for hundreds of years. So, the cop was kind of impractical in trying to "stop" interracial dating with Native Americans when it has already happened for so long that many white southerns have partial Native American ancestry. Examples include Elvis Presley (1/16 Cherokee), Heather Lochlear (1/8 Lumbee), etc. I had "white" coworkers with such distant indigenous ancestry. Go figure. To be fair, I know not all white cops are like that. I met many nice white cops in my life. But that guy seemed like a bad apple that day with his stalking.

As for an added dimension of racism, there are still white women who can be racist - even the young ones. Google "racist woman at Kentucky" and you will see a blonde white college female who assaulted a black female. I have seen clusters of young racist white women and men in Florida - the percentage is small and infrequent. But it can happen. They give off a real bad vibe and usually have racist gossip on social media private to them. Some of the racist women can hold "black face" parties at a sorority. But the percentage is small - it's just that when I am near them I can feel it. The acerbic tone of resentment gets obvious. So, I stay away. But most young Floridians were mellow and inclusive in my experience.

[Hollywoodtia]

Glad there are people who get it. I’m thinking about starting a channel myself with the guy I’m dating. Honestly, I just see him as a person and he’s been the best partner that I’ve had. I never had a problem dating any race for that matter lol but sometimes people seem to have a problem when it comes to interracial couples between Black and White people.

[mjsteward]

I love interracial relationships and marriages. It's good to see more black and white coming together instead of being divided like the media wants us to be because I'm tired of this racial division and stereotype in our society. I wish nothing but the best for you and your wife.

[Transforming]

I’m in a interracial marriage and I understand. But, my wife and I have never experienced these types of people. Because we think in terms of. This is our reality and I think when you think this way you tend to not see or meet these kinds of people. And I also think that a lot of interracial people manifest this environment. Change your thinking and your reality and your life will change. God bless you guys.

[evansbett]

Love is blind. Despite our differences in race & nationality, or any other characteristic, we are all fundamentally human & share commonalities.Underneath our external differences, we are all the same in our humanity. Don’t let anything shake you guys. Haters are just haters, ignore them & let them watch you both thrive. You guys are a perfect match made in heaven.

[klynnealberto]

I like that you guys made this video because you’re addressing what you guys went through but all seriousness it’s like 2024 and people should just mind their business colour and rice. Doesn’t matter if you guys love each other.