Stop Letting Other People's Opinions Control You | EP. 4 [Get Your Life Together]

𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝗹𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲’𝘀 𝗼𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗹 𝘆𝗼𝘂. What someone says, thinks or believes about you is irrelevant, because you already know who you are!

This is the 4th episode in this series and for today's conversation, let’s be real with each other. I could give you a list of how to’s around this topic if I really wanted to... but I’m not, because honestly all of this boils down to 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙨𝙞𝙢𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜.

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𝗗𝗲𝗰𝗹𝘂𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀 & 𝗙𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗧𝗼 𝗟𝗲𝘁 𝗚𝗼 𝗢𝗳 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗣𝗮𝘀𝘁

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗧𝗼 𝗟𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗔 𝗩𝗮𝗹𝘂𝗲𝘀 𝗕𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗢𝗡𝗘 𝗤𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗔𝘀𝗸 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗗𝗮𝘆

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// L E T ' S C O N N E C T

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// M Y G E A R

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// A B O U T

I'm Ron Banks, a minimalist + creative writer sharing my knowledge and inspiration on living a meaningful life with less.

Ronald L. Banks is my journey through lifestyle habits + personal growth. Follow my journey and learn how you can live your meaningful life.

Thanks for watching! & remember, Stay True to You!

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[RonaldLBanks]

Have you ever let other people’s opinions control you?
I have... but all that has changed now!

[dianer]

Criticism is not about you. It's about the other person and what they hold in their heart.

[RaAscend]

“You can’t define a man who already knows who he is.” Awesome message dude!

[ArtyAntics]

I can tell you have a secure attachment growing up because you seem to have a well rounded sense of self. Those of us who grew up with insecure attachment from emotionally immature parents don’t always know the boundaries of self and others. It is much harder to separate others opinions from our own as often our survival as a child relied upon their approval. Nevertheless what you share here is true, just a little more complicated and harder to attain for some of us. If someone is reading and relating to this comment please know you began life as a survivor and now is the time to thrive.

[Stevie]

I’ve noticed that people are quick to judge you. Quick to criticise you and quick to put you down and that’s why I have zero tolerance for people like that. I will never allow negative mean spirited people into my life again. When I found myself. I became grounded. So once you throw the rubbish out. Don’t allow it back in…

[matthewpettipas]

I used to worry a lot about what other people thought of me, which I think stemmed from being bullied for my speech impediment when I was younger. As I grew older though, I came to realize it doesn't matter what others think, so long as I'm happy and living my life the way I think it should be lived.

[jenniferkohler]

This is really hard to do. I've been trying to find who I am for years and I'm on the path to defining myself!

[shelleym.]

You have no idea how relevant and helpful that was to me. I'm so tired of people feeling like it's okay for them to judge me and point out my flaws and make me feel like im not worthy. Fuck that. I am worthy and I need to start changing the people I hang around with and value myself more

[eternallycyber]

This subject affects me an awful lot. I find my family defines me too much on other people’s opinions of me or though one interaction then It just automatically defines who I am!
I think to myself seriously I am being the best Person can be.. Why are you defining me or judging me! when I know who I am! and I am happy with how far I’ll come!

[LiftingUrVeil-LUV]

This is what I am learning now. I spent so much of my life listening to other people pronouns, or letting other people define me. It used to be out of fear but know it is me falling into old routines but thankfully I am aware of this and changing this about me

[trevorthebest]

I stopped taking others advice when I realized that their advice best fits their own life, not mine.

[thebarky]

This is a very in depth question. I feel I have been defined in a specific way by my family. They see me in ways I don’t see myself. It took years to let it go. One of the best things I did was moved away out of state. That is when I found who I was and discovered my own identity.... my family also has clear opinions on what we should own and purchase. It took me a long time but I was able to figure out how to live my life and be true to me and accept them for who they are. It’s challenging and it took me a long time.

[naomitamar]

"What other people think of me is none of my business"...author unknown

[kiakamgar]

"You can't define a man who already knows who he is" - Wise words.

[dianer]

My boyfriend is very dependent upon constantly being commended. However, he procrastinates until the very last minute. Then, the event becomes very dramatic and traumatic, because he's run out of time. Then, because he's performed this tremendous feat against great odds, that he obviously set up for himself, he expects to be congratulated. It's ridiculous as well as exhausting for everyone around him.

[patriciaking]

Hey Ron! Been there done that. I grew up being taught to be a perfectionist. Therefore, I was burdened down with a lot of responsibilities that weren't mine. Sort of a Cinderella lol. But now, I'm the person I was meant to be and loving the freedom. This video is so uplifting. Thanks for being a true example. Peace.

[jalynefidler]

Hello Ronald,
Thank you for this Very timely message! I am continually trying to make my own decisions independent of what other people (only the people that matter to me) think. I am 60 years old and I do know I’m a good person and I try hard to learn and grow- but like the poster below stated- It is a little more challenging to those of us who had trauma and loss at an early age and who needed others approval for survival. Just today I called my brother to ask if he felt I had made the right choice in a very difficult decision for me. I loved what your Dad taught you. It is so true. It is also difficult at times to navigate through life. I appreciate all you share and all the wisdom you impart. I follow a couple of people who have minimal/decluttering videos. You always ring true to my heart and I thank you for that. You are blessed to know who you are and to live true to yourself. I know I have to take a step into the discomfort that comes with trying new things- in order to make progress! I’m a slow bloomer.
Thanks for helping me on my journey! I hope you are reaching your goals and dreams and having success in all you do. ❤️
Jalyne in Utah

[lindseyjohnson]

This is awesome!! You delivered such an important truth in less than 3 minutes. Thank you!

[shanteru]

Since we all are here for the same reason i want to just put this out there. I've been overthinking alot lately bc i thought everyone knew wht they were doing. I was, probably still am feeling lost. I please people, even today the girl o was venting to thinks i like her. I dont i should hate that bc it is sin and im a Christian. I just really think i need somone to talk to. I say this not to touch on other peoples believes but bc im also on the journey trying to figure it out

[happinessmangena]

I just came across this channel, l would like to thank you a lot l am a very shy person l always think about other people 's opinions while neglecting my own. I always do what other people want bcz of being afraid of being criticised but starting from now l want to become my own person without being bothered by other's pinions about my life l'm really great full to come across this channel thanks