Kusha Kapila Was Catcalled On Delhi Streets | Hauterrfly #kushakapila #womensafety #delhi

In the latest episode of "The Male Feminist," supported by @Clovia , we have the hilarious Kusha Kapila, also known as Billi Masi! Growing up in Rohini Pritampura, Delhi, Kusha shares her experiences with strict parents and the challenges of being catcalled on the streets of Delhi. She contrasts this with the freedom she felt when she moved to Mumbai, shedding light on the stark differences in how women experience safety & the tactics women have learned subconsciously to deal with it.

Kusha opens up about hitting puberty at the age of 10 and navigating her first lingerie experience, emphasizing the importance of self-love in her journey to happiness. She candidly discusses her past relationship with her ex and shares her understanding of pleasure and the men in her life. Kusha also REVEALS her WhatsApp group chat with her girl gang, where the focus is less on boys and more on health, career, finances, and weight training.

[arkarupbasumallik]

Whenever I talk about women's safety at my workplace, I always assess the reactions of other men to that. Their reactions tell the whole story of whether they themselves are perpetrators/potential perpetrators.

[arkarupbasumallik]

The men who will go on to comment that this never happened are exactly the ones who do this and have been doing this for years.

[aaditee]

Im 29 yrs old.. I remember an incident when i was in class 7 th.. Right in the morning before school i went to get a photocopy.. Shop was very crowded... I somehow made my way in that crowd, tabhi a mid-aged man about 40-45 years came from behind and putting his hand across my shoulder, he pinched my chest, i felt it was by mistake.. this happened again. and the 3rd time happened again.. when i realized this is molestation.. But foolishly i still stood there for having my photocopy done.. I entered the shop inside to escape from that man, but he came from behind and started touching my lower back, at that moment i realized that i should run hence i did.. I was in class 7 th, i didnt know how reproduction happened, and for the entire year i felt im pregnant by that act.. I was not able to share this incident with anyone and literally an entire year i was scared and depressed to the core.. I was scared abt what will happen if my belly showed up.. Either my parents would kill or ill suicide.. Class 7 th was a very terrible experience for me.

[kajolmore]

I was in 10th grade when this happened. I was wearing a new Anarkali suit that my parents had bought for a festival, and I was heading to my coaching class around 2-3 pm. It was the main road of our town, which used to be busy throughout the day. As I was walking, a man approached from the front. I moved to the left to give him space to pass, but when he crossed me, he suddenly swiped his palm across my right breast. It happened so quickly and unexpectedly that I stood there, numb, for a moment. I turned around, but he was already gone. The whole thing occurred in a fraction of a second, and I didn’t know how to react.That road was part of my daily route to school and coaching, and after the incident, I was terrified. I couldn't focus in class, and I was equally scared when it was time to return home. I cried a lot that day.

[Goodluck_]

Comment section is the proof 90% of men are same.

[sahityayanamandra]

This is the same guy who can notice from a mile away if a girl is wearing a bra but not notice a person injured right next to him

[J-rulk]

Okay ...i remembered a day when i was uncomfortable for the entire day till i get back home at 4pm...i was going to coching class early morning and wearing a new t shirt 👕 so it was just little bit tight..and on red light two guys shouted " are madam apke to bahut bade hai" and they laughed...i pretended that I didn't heard that but honestly i was shivering from embarassment 😢...just because of that one line i couldn't focus in the classes for whole day knew that my chest was not looking odd at all. ..but still was trying to cover by hairs, books and bag....now i always carry a scarf with me....that was honestly a horrible day

[prernasati]

I remember one of the incident happened with me when I was in college.
I was coming back to home and was waiting for the transport, some boys in the car shouted at me and said degi kya, kitna legi .. this happened in 2014

I was just 17 at that time and I felt how unsafe it was standing there and I took an auto although I had only 100 rupees in my purse.

This incident happened in Delhi near to pashchim vihar.

When i reached back home I couldn’t tell this to anyone
There are tons of incident happened with me which I couldn’t tell anyone yet

They say not all the men but it is always the men
I wish the way parents teaches their daughter how to behave or wear clothes, same way they could teach their sons how to behave with women

[nosheenmandokhail]

Its not only about dress code but when I go outside in burka sometime a person passing by using vulgar compliments like "kitni chikni hain tu" number dy ge kiya " aa meray sath khana kha ly" etc like seriously yr
Jab thak strict rules and regulations na ayya in k khilaaf they won't stop.

[shwetaupadhya]

also men will come and say not all men... but they will not say those men were wrong :)

[acgumakerketta]

This happened a year ago in my own locality. It was afternoon only a people were out.I was in my way to market.A young guy, I guess aged 30-40 years, was blabbering rubbish all the way, like I could easily hear him from a distance.I gave no attention and was going on my way but when we crossed paths, he looked at me and suddenly shouted "Should I F##k you?" He said this twice. For a moment I felt like I was struck somewhere, didn't know how to speak.But I snapped out of it and shouted back "Go fuck yourself". I don't know what was the right thing to do that particular time. But I'm glad that I said that.

[priyankanaidu]

I was in 8th standard that time when one night while walking in the street with my mom, I suddenly get a smack on my butt from some strangers on a bike. I was literally shocked for a few seconds I just froze. I was not able to process that what should I do, should I shout at them or cry out loud? I was still a kid right.. i cried and started complaining to my mother for taking me out for walk. It wasn’t my mother’s fault nor mine. I came home and took a bath as I was feeling so disgusted and furious at the same time. I can never forget that night. I still become very careful while walking on the road. I keep turning back whenever a vehicle passes by.

[Sahar_needsTherapist]

As a women reading these comments and realizing that not only me but every single female has gone through some sort of molestation in their life

[richaraj]

Delhi is literally not safe bro. Why delhi only not a single place is safe for girl

[Bhawnashah]

After reading a new story from everybody i reminded about mine. Same happened with when I was in 8 th class i was 13 years old and parents don't stay at home because of work so my younger brother and I were at home and i love to watch TV so our tv was not working so we called a electricians and he came in a day when my parents were not home he saw our home we were extremely poor he noticed this things. I was doing dishes and my brother was in a room. He suddenly called me to hold TV's back part he was touching my chest and i was feeling very uncomfortable but I don't understand what is happening with me he was saying beta beta to me kuch ni hota he was middle age men and he tried to send my brother out. But my brother didn't listen and I suddenly leave the tv snd and opened main gate i was shivering. He fixed the tv and starring to me .. i was scared as hell but that time don't know what should i do so i waiting ki bus wo chala jaye . Itna normally behave kar rha tha ki kuch kia hi ni usne fhir uske jana ke bad me itna roi. Mera bhai ko kuch samj hi ni aa rha tha wo bhut chhota tha .. eve me mena sab mummy ko bataya mummy jab use confront kia toh bhn ji bhn ji karna lga bad me pta chala uski kudh ki tin beti he wo near by hi uski dukaan he hum kuch ni kar paye us time hum hamari financial condition bhut khrb thi .. itna saal ho gye aaj bhi uski dukaan whi he or kitni bar use dekha aaj bhi dar jati hu me.. he was predator us din or bhi bura ho sakta tha but mena thodi himmat dikha ke gate khol dia or mera bhai bhi muje chhore ke ni gya us chhote bacho ko bhi galt lg rha tha .. aaise log bhut ghatiya hote he.. uske bad mene tv dekhna chhore dia bhut badl gyi me

[aashishaik]

When I was 13 I was sexually assaulted by a police man 😢and after 17 I was again abused by my relative so there is no safety even in trusted places 😢

[kanupriyajaireth]

After listening to this I wanna thank Kusha for sharing her experience. With folded hands 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 I plead to aall the guys who have ever misbehaved with a female especially when she's alone, pls pls don't. We aren't weak or scared of u but frightened of wht might happen if we fight back or face a group of evil men. If we tell our families tht such kind of incident has happened they get very incesure & worried. Eventually we can't do things we want to or go to places. That makes us feel so crippled, & tht feeling is painful & frustrating. Why shd we be treated this way. Truly this country doesn't deserve this gender.

[SaimaKhan-fpxd]

Ye audacity hai Indian boys me bolneki ye to Instagram ke girls k comments section se hi pta chalta hai
Kya kuch nhi kehte ye

[MysticSoul]

I was in 3rd standard (and used to walk to my school using the same route everyday, on the way i would find a milkman almost everyday, one day he openly said to me "aa tujhe le chalu", even as a child, i knew there's something fishy and I ran from that place quickly and started going via different routes daily, that was the first incident of my life and since there has been numerous incidents including groping and eve teasing,
Sadly, Since my childhood, I have never felt safe going out alone, especially in Delhi.

[Kvr]

I was harrassed by 40 year man when i was just 12 years...
I thought me bhul jaungi ye baat pr now i m 29 and memory is fresh 😢😢