ESFP Female Erin B. Se-Te PB/S(C) FF Interviewed by ENFP Male

In this interview, I got a chance to talk to Erin about what it's like to be an ESFP Se-Te PB/S(C) FF. Erin is the rare consume last ExxP and it's clear to have some benefits and disadvantages as a result. The advantage would be that she is a production and teaching machine which helps her career. The downside is that she becomes disconnected from her emotions and while she can execute, she might be working on the wrong field or wrong life direction. This proved to be the case as we discussed her divorce, lack of planning, and self-neglect as a result of not using her Fi and her Ni more often. The conclusion we came up with was still positive as Erin, at the very least, is aware of her problems and knows where to start to troubleshoot and figure out how to be better in touch with her emotions and focus more on her inner world so she can do things in life that brings her joy instead of unhappiness.

ESFP Se-Te PB/S(C) FF
Play (P) = Te+Se
Blast (B) = Ni+Te
Sleep (S) = Ni+Fi
Consume (C) = Fi+Se
FF = Feminine Se, Feminine Te, Masculine Fi, Masculine Ni, Tester, and Visual mode of learning.

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[PersonalityTrainer]

Read below to learn more about how the letters (animal stack) work:


B = Blast
C = Consume
P = Play
S = Sleep

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[pada]

This is so helpful. Wow. I can see my understanding of the functions, the sexual modalities, the animals, the position in the stack, and also my understanding of my life and of past interactions, grow and deepen.

Erin is a very likeable person. I can see her thrive in the right environment when she can make appropriate use of all her functions. Some things seem to have had too little bandwidth in the past, which got her out of balance.

Trying to stay within "firm" boundaries of options, does not seem to cut it for her. There might be so many creative options that if she admitted to having them, she could make use of them, without hurting anyone. Like being physically active, going on vacations to more beautiful places without and with the kids. Which probably would involve Ni-planning but not in a "sticking to mundane routines" way.

Finding activities that promote her sleep and consume processes, and being around people she likes. So then from there on, many things dont need to go on for too long or bring harsh tidal waves like they used to.

Erin has been parenting 1-4 kids for 21 years. 3 boys! I cannot imagine that "being chaos", as in being unreliable, not being able to do things you dont feel like doing, on a regular basis, would have gotten her through this time. I can imagine that as a young mom, you would feel a lot less organized and reliable, than you might have, without three little boys to manage. Or you might feel the need and the longing for structure and for less chaos, a lot more urgently, than you would in a more relaxed life situation.

So you say that if you dont actually have to get up at 530 every day, then you probably wont stick to doing it. That sounds reasonable and human.

But when your boys or your little girl need you, you get stuff done, day after day after day for two decades. A Mom keeping and continuously restoring the harmony with three to four kids in the house for twenty years, while being the tech person at work, excelling at trouble shooting. Umm, how about giving yourself some acknowledgement and recognition for that. It is only natural that in this setup you would manage chaos and bend and forget what you want for yourself, no matter your type. Also you would understandably crave alone-time, but then not know what to do with yourself, when the chaos is quiet. It is natural that a divorce and a pandemic and a hurricane and and not even having the kind of nature around that you truly enjoy, would drain you.

I would love to hear how you think about yourself and about your type, after some time has passed, Erin.

[Rin-red]

Omg Erin, you'll get through this. Shan mentioned in the email they sent before getting your results (I hoped you listened to her audio message) that they know it may take time to process your given type. You can do this, girl 🍾🎊

I'm also ExxP (FF SeTe PCS)

[Samira-rjke]

0:23 What did you think and how did you feel when you got your results back
3:49 Consume last ExxP
7:35 2 A NT Blaster
9:05 FF ST Play
10:40 MM NF Sleep, and what would you rather consume
17:13 What is meaningful to you
26:33 Chris Guillebeau
36:00 How Erin got into MBTI

Modalities

36:40 Tester
38:28 Visual

41:21 What is the bare minimum in planning that has worked for you

[Retrogamer]

I love these. Types illustrating the theory through their energy and associations. People are making more sense to me.

8:30 ethos not pathos, no?

[pada]

I am surprised how narrow that M-Ni categorizing is:
I cannot understand how one would throw all 32x4 = 128 EP-Types into one box and label the whole bunch good/bad?
Why does the Ni-disctinction not seem to bother about concepts like "Sensing vs Intuitive Type"?

How is being afraid of things not going the exact way you planned, or sticking to irrelevant plans, a really good thing, and reacting to what is appropriate in the moment, makes "you = the chaos" and is a bad thing?

I identify as M-Ne - I just cannot see reasons for such arbitrary conceptual boundaries in my fellow humans using Ni 🙃😆.

Is "MM Ni-Fi Sleep demon" looking to process things in rigid negative ways or something?
Is the M-Fi-demon trying to be rigidly unhappy about self? Or is this just a a temporal emotional snapshot that we are seeing, in the middle of therapy, divorce, rearranging your life...?

Many ESFP around 40 seem to try to figure out what they like, and start admitting to themselves that they may have other preferences than what seems to work for others, while balancing it with Fi values. So really I cannot distinguish what about what I see is "type", what is "life situation", what is just the narrow scope of a 45 minute interview. Still I learned a lot about how the concepts can be distinguished.

I cannot see Lead Se here. When exercising is something that needs "disciplined scheduling" and when exciting ideas about work get in the way of going running... When going for a run because it seems reasonable, is your idea of physical activity.. It does not sound like an inclination to overdoing Se. My lead Se people cannot sit still and will come up with all kinds of movements, will jump into situations, and will throw things across the room and stuff.

Maybe the natural environment is not there that would make physical involvement flow naturally. Maybe Se leads need a stimulating environment of some sort. Having to make a routine exercise happen artificially in an otherwise sterile environment, sounds like a castrated Se on a Te-Ni leash or something. Maybe some Salsa "Rueda de Casino", or Line Dance, which both combines structure but also lots of spontanaeity and fun, and people around, would do wonders to wake up Se-Fi.

On what basis did the Lead-Se get set in stone?
Maybe Se shows in how casually you mention something like "Well my personal trainer and I, we both had our houses destroyed by the hurricane, and we are so chaotic we did not even stick to our training routines" - Umm, I know people that when the wind once threw a tree into one window of their house, and maybe made a dent in the wall, they will rant about how that was not planned and how it made their life hard, for years, at every occasion. In this interview, all sorts of curveballs that life throws at you are just background noise and not an excuse for not having your life together.

My most wow moment was when the FF bending lets things slide forever. It will never tell you whats going an, and then finally MM volcano boundaries come in. The combination of too flexible FF and then very rigid MM, is like an epiphany for me.

I have experienced that behavior with people and I never knew how to handle them during the exceptionally looong time they won't admit to what they prefer, and then I did not know how to even bother to emotionally relate to their outbursts when they became all upset over boundaries they never set. I believe this description of what it might be like from their perspective can help me be a better person to them.