The stumbling blocks to finding MEANING AND PURPOSE after a narcissistic relationship

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[QuiteContrary]

All there is after leaving a narcissist relationship is meaning and purpose. A normal bad day is better than the best day with a narcissist.

[sushmayen]

Getting healed is more than enough. Finding purpose and meaning in life comes much later. Living peacefully is whats needed

[vb]

I felt like I had grown another dimension after surviving narcissistic abuse. Empathic awareness was at a whole other level, and finding beauty in the simplest things, and the joy of just being in stillness. That said, I struggle to know where I belong now as the person I was no longer exists. I am great at helping others but awful at helping myself...

[a_bode]

My last therapist said something to me that finally resonated: "You have been through one trauma after another, try and treat yourself with a loving compassion. Nurture and protect yourself as you were your own mother." Being brought up by a detached mother who decided to disinherit me, I thought it such suggestion was ridden with irony. However, being a mother, I do know how to love unconditionally. And so, having been through a cold, emotionless and devaluating marriage which cost me my now estranged children, a business partnership that cost me my savings, sanity and career, I am now following that advice. Step by step moving forward. I am in my 60s, learning to 'walk' again and thank God for that.

Without your channel Dr Ramani 🙏, I would still be gaslighting myself for being a loser with a PhD. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your continued support and wisdom. ❤
Kindest regards from Sydney Australia 🦘

[SamSolasdonSaol]

I truly wish there were MANY more humans like you in our world. Stay strong in your reaching out sister... you're touching so many hearts. Thank you for being you. 💕

[sleepydoppy]

Thank you for telling me it’s ok to heal without being hard on myself.

[ChefNehe]

I’m still here. I’m still believe in love. I’m still empathic. I won.
Thank you for reminding me not be hard on myself.

[sleepydoppy]

I absolutely know the only thing that came out of it was, my two boys and when I hear them say I am the strongest woman they know it sounds wonderful. I just need to allow myself to believe I did good.

[theresafowler]

Thank you for seeing us. Thank you for sharing your special grace with us.

[torifletcher]

Before I met my ex, I was on top of the world. I was going great at my job, was having fun seeing friends every weekend, didn’t have to worry about money, I was so bright, I’ve never felt so alive as I did right before I got into that relationship. Now I’m struggling to get through the day. I feel like the worlds biggest burden, like I’m responsible for everyone in my life’s misery, I feel so unwanted, like the world would be better off without me in it. I miss who I used to be so much, and that’s the hardest part. Because I know at some point I WAS that bright, bubbly person. And my ex took that away from me, and I don’t know if I can find that within myself again

[deborahklinkner]

I initially found my meaning & purpose in my degree & my career but when that crashed 15 years later I lost it for 13 years until I escaped 2100 miles away & that was when I really found meaning & purpose to life

[rbd]

What did I learn? Hmm... An education in dealing with someone who was "Cold, Closed, Hardhearted, Shallow and Uptight." Another way to say that is, "The only thing worse than being married to someone who doesn't Love you - is living with someone who doesn't even LIKE you." I learned to "Pay Attention to the Tension" early on in new relationships. Great Video, Ramani !

[denineluchkow]

Nothing about narcissistic relationships makes sense . The sooner people see that and identify it in their lives, their own meaning and purpose becomes illuminated because they aren’t being held back . The many narcissists in my life have taught me nothing except removing them makes me feel clear, safe and loveable . Energized .
This channel, you Dr.Ramani inspire me every day to smile at the meaning, the invisible beauty of what you’re teaching us here .

[lindacoyle]

After a 25 year marriage, I’m sad that I didn’t find out until recently what a narcissist was, and what I was going through. Like so many of you, I was happy, bright, independent, adventuresome, and on top of the world before I married a man who was a master at reeling me in and then turning the tables. Dr. Ramani, your new book, “It’s Not You“ is fabulous! I recommend it as a MUST read to anyone who has dealt with anyone that is a narcissist, or has narcissistic tendencies. You are changing my life one chapter at a time! Thank you!

[CTHou]

Remember Gloria Gaynor song – “I will survive“?

I will survive after my 26 year narcissist marriage ending in divorce. I grieved my cognitive dissonance. I’ve grieved the future that he stole from me the past that he lied to me and the present shell of a person that I am. I believe I will heal actually relieved that this is almost over. You can heal yourself. Now do something YOU want to do unapologetically!

[cindymcdonnell]

It feels so good to be myself again😉 ! After a 27 year “fake “. marriage I was discarded. 🤨. I realize that was the best day of my life . 👏🏼. I couldn’t say that a few months ago but I can now say it loud and proud it was the best thing that happened to me ! Love your channel and Im so glad I found you ! 💪💪 Also Going NO CONTACT is what worked the best !

[ryanpepin]

As I’m listening this doing laundry anticipating my visit with the kids this weekend after being homeless last year this video brought me to tears both of pain and joy. Appreciate you Doc.❤

[Chestnuttree]

Hi, Dr Ramani,
I am so grateful to you for all of your talks and for helping me to decide to leave my narcissistic relationship after 47 years.
I am now starting a whole new life at the age of 77.
So many things which I have been longing to do for most of my life are no longer either physically or practically possible.
Would you please, please, please devote one of your wonderful talks to people in my age group and my situation. There must be many of us. I think the meaning and purpose of our lives need to be looked at differently as we are nearing the final goalpost. We want to be happy and to enjoy to the utmost every minute of what we have left. We also need to heal in order to do that.
I appreciate everything you do but I would very much like to hear your pearls of wisdom in this area.
❤X❤

[serena]

I love this video!!! I recently discovered or maybe decided to not be ashamed that I love the way I do. The rejection, the silence, gaslighting that I didn't know how to deal with has come full circle. I do have a ton of love to give I am an empathetic woman I do have a lot to give...My Narcissistic Mother and Narcissistic ex did not destroy my heart or my soul. What I gave to them was simply all I had...it was myself and my deep love for them. I continue to move forward on this horrific journey but the positive affirmation I give myself is so worth it. I will not view myself through their eyes any longer! Amen. ✝️🙏🩷🥀🌾🪻🪻

[evamarieiadarola]

Well, one thing you will learn for sure, is how to recognize a narc, and know the red flags moving forward. We have to experience what we don't want sometimes to be sure of what we do.