The Real Problem with Living Together (Before You're Married)

Why LIVING TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE IS A BAD IDEA. Christopher unfolds WHY YOU SHOULDN'T LIVE TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE and how COHABITATION can HURT A RELATIONSHIP.

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[raykapsa]

As some who experienced parents divorcing I hope more people take this seriously

[patc]

i'm 26, single, still a virgin....at times i feel like i'm missing out on the pleasures of life, i think God has a bigger plan for me

[intedominesperavi]

I had sex before marriage. When looking back to it, I used her most of the time for my own pleasure. Theology of the body has greatly impacted my thinking and my actions towards my beloved one.

We are still not married, because we are still young (both 20). But God willing, we will do so in the within the next couple of years.
I would like to ask everybody reading this to pray for God's help and guidance on our path towards marriage.
God bless!

[PsychoBible]

Even a utilitarian view supports this teaching. Stats show that couples who cohabit prior to marriage are more likely to divorce.

[NihouNi]

My word, yours is a voice that is vital right now. i work with people who have offended on the internet, 99% of whom started out watching pornography and not realising how it would warp their attitudes to others. May God bless your work.

[eamonnmurphy]

I got married on the advice of St Peter. I had a wondering eye so I set out to get married quickly. I was quite honest with the lady i met in regard to the fact that I did not want a girlfriend, I wanted a fiancee. Also, i wanted a relationship without sex until marriage. We have a good marriage, I'm surprised how my wife was accepting of it all as it was not what she was use to. I think there is much benefit in offering security and stability, even in this day and age!

[zoeynorman]

my hubby & I grew up protestant and sadly both had sexual relationships prior to meeting each other. We lived together before we got married but right after our one year anniversary we converted to the Catholic faith! It has been the most healing thing in our marriage and Ive loved learning about all the beautiful things in the Catholic faith, including theology of the body. I can attest how damaging living together before marriage is and how healing it is to live chaste. Thank you Christopher West for all you do!

[JohnPaulReyes-sfsh]

“The number one ingredient in every healthy holy relationship is mercy”.
As a young man who spent two years living with a past partner, I really needed to hear this. I fed my lustfulness with sexual sin and it has left many wounds in me. I am still on my journey to true healing through Christ and as I’ve come to take my faith seriously once more trying to discern marriage the right way, it’s hard to imagine that a virtuous catholic woman would want a man who’s had a past such as mine. It would definitely hurt to know that the other person “knew” someone other than themselves. After hearing this word of yours I am praying to find a partner who will have mercy on my past as I’ve received mercy from our Lord.

[PInkW]

“Sex outside of marriage is like a $5 Gucci watch”
Nick Vujicic

[justinhayes]

What you said about chastity being the virtue of directing sexual desires, yearnings, and attractions towards upholding the good and dignity of the other just blew my mind. This is so amazingly helpful. Thank you!

[glenliesegang]

Women suffer the most while men "get sex for free without commitment"-broken heart, shattered hopes of lasting love, STDs, unplanned pregnancy, wasted time, and the illusionion of growing intimacy to the exclusion of deeper, growing friendship while getting to see behind the mask.

Living together has an unsaid understanding- either can bail out for any reason.

Love does not hold any relationship together. Commitment to working on the deeper issues, past what causes anger, unresolved issues, and wh as t is hidden in each person.

A marriage relationship is like 2 stubborn mules hitched to the same wagon. When problems arise each has agreed they must stop negotiate the path forward. And, when there are kids in the wagon...

[LongAwaitedBaby]

There is a German footballer who was with his girlfriend for many years and they were living together. Then he broke up with her and married another girl. I feel so sad for the ex-girlfriend.

[josephmartin-alexgunduor]

Very true statement. An unchaste relationship is not a preparation for marriage. An unchaste relationship is a preparation for divorce.

[windsongshf]

Not Catholic, and I was a child of the '70's. (I was loosey goosey!) But yes, I do believe the Catholic way is ideal. My son lives with his girlfriend, but I do admit I'm relieved to find out they're getting married. :)
Please no hate, wish them well?

[oar-N-oasis]

How I pray, this should be teach early in the School, foremost to us parents to our children. Thank you sir Christopher. Godbless you.

[LastBastian]

Atheist here, if you would have told me when I was young that i would marry before living together, I'd have said you're crazy.
Then I met my wife. Proposed after three weeks. Married a year later. Moved in the day of our wedding. 18 years and still going strong.
When you know, you know.

[criticalbruv]

Keep going guys! You can only get better! And we need more people warring for God on these issues!

[belengee]

Amen!!!! There is ALWAYS a possibility for the conversion of a unchaste heart to a chaste heart!!! ❤️🙏🏻 thank You, God for the opportunity to experience Your mercy everyday. Amen.

[mht]

Once you give the most important part of yoursef to another person outside of marriage, you have lost a piece of yourself. This is even harder for men, since many women, including myself, believe they deserve "the whole pie".

[markbecker]

After 24 years of marriage, mine walked out..I sadly agree..