I've Seen the Light!!! (6 Common Pitfalls)

This clip is from my video, where I describe six common pitfalls or stuck places that often happen in the process of working on childhood trauma. I hope it's helpful to you.

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[babaganouche]

I needed this reminder. I realized I need to just be a better listener and meet people where they are at.

[Rbing]

This was me for a little while while on my healing journey 😅 But I got past it and realized I can only change me not others. Everyone is on their own path going their own pace.

[SharonKBM]

I can see myself falling into this at some point so I'll be careful. I'm at the beginning of my healing journey and already struggling with drama that stems from friends' and family members' trauma.

[dcone]

I refer to this as the person.
Can be super annoying if ur not in the right healing space, however, I don't feel it's done with malice... probably more like their excited/progress is preventing them from being AWARE of how their words may or may not be received.
Sort of like excitedly telling someone that just got fired about ur new promotion 😑

[TMcLure]

Yeah, trying to get my siblings on board - tricky, we are all at very different stages of dealing with our childhood, i have to be patient and let them find their own way to the light and be there for them when they do.

[sueg]

I agree with you Patrick. I learned long ago it’s better to work on self and be an example of healthy. If anyone seeks you out and wants to know how you did it, then yes engage if you are comfortable But be care not to overwhelm them or yourself. Start slowly with HOW you you found the help. No one likes to have a know it all it in their face. Just be an example of having good bounderies, good advice, mental health and lots of patience. Helping others is one thing even if it’s a relative, but most importantly taking care of self is of the upmost importance and it is NOT selfish in a bad way, it is self preserving. Good healthy bounderies are #1 priority.

[frankievalentine]

If a loved one wanted to recruit me, I'd just be happy they actually cared that much. Go ahead & recruit me, if it's something like being open & communicative & showing up for each other! I tried doing this for others I cared about and nobody wanted to get out on the train with me. I gave up.

[HigherLove]

I really get it. I think we still, as survivors, really need to be focused on listening

[SuzannaLiessa]

I started being aware of doing this kind of thing when i watched a friend do it in another context. It ended up being the 1st of four rules I try to live my
by: you have to wait for people to have their own epiphanies.

[abstract]

Thanks, this is really useful! ❤ I need to be careful to NOT do this to others! I noticed myself once doing it...

[tabby]

I needed to hear that today. Thanks Patrick!

[aquariusstar]

😂😂😂 I had to pull back! You experience freedom and maybe feel a bit guilty seeing others not moving forward with you. I struggle with wanting to save ppl but I think it stems from a sense of responsibility for others--a pattern set up in the negative family trauma. I appreciate the comments from others here mentioning appearing to be a know-it-all. That would be me😂

[salwillis]

I totally get this... Sales pitches and/or evangelizing... Not great

[crispaynoodIes]

This has entanglements with codependence for me, and a desire and need to change the other.

[metalgearsenshi]

I do this but on a slight tangent. I improve or learn something and forget that doesn't mean others have also learned that lesson nor does it mean they'll act differently now that I have better ways of dealing with them.

[moscowcowboy_]

After going through all this I am totally wiped out and depleted the last thing I want to do is talk to anyone about it, my wife is sick of me talking about it I am sure.

[jeremyprovence]

I'm sorry
I forgot my cape Today.

[janettemartin]

I’ve seen the light! So when you share with me your trials and tribulations of your troubled past and relationships with your Family, DON’T tell me how to feel about MINE! 😉😝

I jest! 🎉 kinda.

But it goes both ways as well! I am working hard on being real about my past if you tell me a story willingly that reflects anything I am working through, and you choose a different way to heal that I really don’t see as HEALTHY, I can’t listen to you ! I will feel FOOLED! And I will not think you are doing the work!
BUT I will not judge until you act SCORNED at me! Then you just a NUT! 😂